How are all you new mummies doing?

[Toria111]

I had a look at kiddicare, but we don't have one nearby anyway. Got it this morning. She loves it thank goodness.

 

[Kaedin]

Ah mines are the tommee tippee ones and im sure the package said 0-3. If the rain is off tomorrow I may go a wee trip into town to buy more.

Aww lovely toria! She's having the time of her life

i've just text my ex telling him about my solicitor and that he'll only be seeing Hayley on a wednesday for a few hours then all saturday overnight. Really nervous, don't want him to kick off - pisses me off as he has been really civil this morning and yesterday morning, i wish he was like that from the start. But even if he was - i wouldnt want her with him for 4 days as its still too much. Just hope he reacts in an adult manner, actually shaking as im so nervous. Think im going to cry. Urghhh

 

[Toria111]

Best to have a plan in place Kaedin. Stay strong, you can do it x

Emma still has new born dummies. I tried moving up with my older daughter to the bigger dummies, and she hated them. Anyone know the reason?

 

[T84]

Stay strong kaedin, your not being unreasonable and it's all for the better of Hayley.

Aw she looks like she's having fun toria!

Honestly reading your post makes me excited for weaning Bex

 

[Pumpkin9]

I have avent 0-6 months but I've just bought some 6-18 month ones

 

[Jojo84]

I'm starting to wean Luke off his dummy during the day- he's I lot hadn't twice today other than napping

 

[Kaedin]

He replied to my text and I'm too scared to open it, will give myself some time to calm down so that I reply with my sensible head on, rather than my crazy emotional head where I may say something silly.

do you think S is nearly ready for weaning Jen? Hayley isn't good at sitting at all so I don't think I'll be trying anytime soon, she's great at standing but she can't sit up on her own bless!

 

[Toria111]

Emma doesn't have her dummy accept at nap / bed time. Wish she flippin would though. She likes to squeal!

Did you read it yet Kaedin? If not maybe get your mum to read it.

 

[Kaedin]

I did. He said: " I left you with no choice? You delusional cow. I wanted half access and you refused, im jumping through every hoop to see hayley. Tell me how ive been uncooperative? By refusing to see MY daughter only 1 day a week.

Just told him he had been uncooperative and nasty when he threw hayley out of bed and her house at midnight, refused to give her belongings back, won't respond to my questions regarding hayley seriously (like when he was saying she was scratched during baby world championships..) Told him again im not refusing him access to hayley, he can see her on wednesday, all day saturday and on sunday mornings. If he replies something nasty back, ill just ignore it as theres no point me sitting trying to justify it to him, i know im doing whats best for hayley - and if he sits back and thinks about it im sure he'd realise my reasons behind it too.

 

[Toria111]

Just keep the txts. I don't think you are being unreasonable at all. My oh works 5 days a week 9-6, so we have my step daughter alternate weekends. Friends have similar arrangements, so think that's fairly normal.

 

[Pumpkin9]

Yeah Thomas only has his dummy for naps and bedtime now.

Sounds good Kaedin (obv your part not your ex's!)

 

[Kaedin]

He came back saying:

"I threw you and your mum out of my house. You refused to leave without hayley so i done what i do to to finally get you ouy of my life. Thats no being unreasonable or uncooperative with regards to access to hayley. You taken almost all of things, i kept small amount of clothes so i could dress her when i have her and not be reliant on what you send. Again not being unreasonable or uncoperative. What other pathetic reasoning do you have?"

I'm not going to respond. Theres no point. Firstly he threw us all out. Secondly, it was OUR house - joint rental agreement with both of our names. Thirdly, ill never be out of his live as I'm Hayleys mum. Fourthly he refused access to her belongings including moses basket for at least 2 weeks so she had to sleep in a rocker at night! Then he kept certain items like her highchair. When he does have her, he takes her to his family so he isn't spending time with her. He has had a few days off due to bank holidays and didnt ask to have her, so obviously she isn't his priority.

I'll ignore his text, and as my solicitor said if he doesn't stick with this agreement ive to stop contact. It's so hard, I spent 5 years of my life with this man, planned to have a child then he turned into more of a child than Hayley. I'm so very lucky to have Hayley in my life, just wish he felt as blessed to have her in his.

 

[Jojo84]

Hubby keeps giving like his dummy so I have work to so weaning him off. He had it twice today - once to stop him screaming/screeching in church Amd once because he was hungry and bottle wasn't ready yet.

He's had one nap today - 10 minutes! So been Awake since 80 more or less so I think I might put him in the bath early tonight

 

[Kaedin]

I've had the opposite problem today Jojo! Hayleys been asleep for over an hour, I've been loud to try and wake her, but when she wakes she's just falling back asleep straight away. Hope this doesn't mean she'll wake super early in the morning

 

[mrssmith2011]

Well both Joseph and Kev are sound asleep. Time for some chill time for me then after I have laid the stair carpet today. Kaedin I would leave it with your solicitor x

 

[Toria111]

Kaedin. Write everything down too if you can find time. Just so you don't forget stuff that he's done as time goes by.

 

[Jojo84]

I took like up at 6 (would've been earlier but he kept laughing to the word poop and got hyper lol) I bathed him, changed his sheets, de-snorted his nose and cut his nails - it's just 20 in his room tonight! And he's sleeping already... It's like invasion of the body snatchers!

 

[Toria111]

I put Emma down early too. Really hope she's not up all night!

 

[T84]

He replied to my text and I'm too scared to open it, will give myself some time to calm down so that I reply with my sensible head on, rather than my crazy emotional head where I may say something silly.

do you think S is nearly ready for weaning Jen? Hayley isn't good at sitting at all so I don't think I'll be trying anytime soon, she's great at standing but she can't sit up on her own bless!

I don't feel like she's ready yet. She can sit in her wee chair but doesn't have 100% head control, also she's satisfied on her milk too and doesn't seem to want more. I'm also a bit scared to go before the 6 months tbh when I read all the research. If I feel like she is ready before tho, I'll ask my HV. I think I'm one of the few that find mine quite useful!

 

[Pumpkin9]

Jen, I was Abit scared of the pre 6 months things, I thought I'd start him on baby rice just to get him used to it and he took to it straight away so after my sil's wedding I just went for it and he's now having food 3 times a day.

Always best to go with what you are comfortable with as they can definitely tell what their mummies are feeling