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[Charlotte9]

2 hours to go Gail. It is darker yes. I hope they scan you properly and give you positive answers. X

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[Clover]

Been for the scan, the pregnancy still there damn it , she said I could have Surgical management or let it pass naturally I don't know what to do now

xxxxx



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[Charlotte9]

Oh Gail so sorry. Either option is horrible. But may be natural one is a better option? x

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[J9nine]

Oh hunny, what a nightmare! I think I would be inclined to have the op, at least you'll be able to move on. xx

 

[kanga86]

Clover I'm so sorry you are going through all this heartache. I will tell you my experience from my mmc. I had bleeding on and off from getting my bfp, but I was naive and believed the doctor all would be fine as it was my 1st pregnancy. A scan at 11 weeks showed it never got further than 5.5 weeks, but had to have a scan a week later to confirm as nothing was seen in the sac. A week later the scan showed a yolk sac so again they couldn't do anything for a week as there had been progress. I miscarried a few days later and thought it would all be over as I would have been nearly 13 weeks by then. But the bleeding would go from being really heavy to really light back to passing clots and other random looking things and went on for a further 4 weeks. Numerous scans showed just a small bit of pregnancy remaining which should come out by itself. I eventually opted for an erpc after 9 weeks of knowing I would miscarry and would have been coming on 20 weeks pregnant. I still bled for 2 weeks after the operation! I just got to the point where I couldn't live with my life on hold in limbo not knowing when things would return to normal. I'm not sure how long you have been going through this hell already but seems like a long enough time. Thinking of you and again I am so sorry you are going through it xxx

 

[Clementine]

I felt surgery was best for me, I found the procedure ok physically and I felt it let me start to heal emotionally, I hated even waiting 3 days so I can't imagine how you are feeling when you have been going through this for weeks. Sending you a big hug x

 

[Emily0505]

Oh hun, I'm so sorry that you're still going through this.

My advice would be to go for surgical management. You've given your body plenty of time to try and deal with things and you've put yourself through so much already, I really think it would be for the best to have the surgery and then you know that it will all be over.

I had the surgical procedure in Jan and it was relatively painless. I was a bit sore when I first woke up but they administered iv pain killers right away and I was fine. I personally didn't react well to the anaesthetic but that's just me, even so if I was too ever (God forbid) find myself in this situation again I would def choose surgery.

Big hugs sweetheart

XX

 

[Demerera]

Oh Gail, I'm so so sorry, I really had hope it had happened for you. You know my thoughts... I agree with Emily and would go for the op every time..., it really isn't that bad you mustn't worry... But would be good to get it done soon. I feel for you so much honey, bet you're feeling low tonight... Massive hugs X X X

 

[broody2013]

Aww I'm so sorry Hun I know you said you wished you had the surgery but how do you feel about it now? Could you draw up a list of pros and cons for surgical vs natural management? Massive hugs xxxx

 

[Clover]

Hi Girls
Kanga thankyou for sharing you story hun
It sounds really similar to mine, I'm hoping I can naturally miscarry now but I am realistic and I know I may have to opt for Surgical

Clementine & Emily I'm really tempted to have the operation but my Hubby isn't keen and tbh he was the one who put me off going for it...plus I had thought I'd misscaried anyway

I'm going to ring and speak to the nurse I've been dealing with normally (saw a new nurse/midwife today)
She is really nice and more supportive, I would prefer to talk through my options with her

The nurse today said because I'm bleeding they can't give me medical management but I'm only lightly bleeding today, not enough to fill a pad all day


Becky I am feeling low tonight, but I'm used to this now, I just can't imagine not feeling like this anymore

I'm a bit crampy tonight so fingers crossed something may happen overnight

I hate my stubborn body, it seems it's going to take as long to miscarry as it took to get pregnant! Lol

xxxxxx

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[Clover]

Thanks Broody
Only seen your post , thanks for thinking of me

I'm going to discuss it with hubby when my little one goes to bed, although he wouldn't understand. ..He keeps asking if the baby is in my tummy and when it's coming out

xxxxx

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[broody2013]

Aww no that must be so hard especially as he is so little and can't understand what is happening I hope you make the decision which suits you best but no matter which decision there's no 'good' answer I so wish they had made a mistake Hun and you didn't have to go through this xxx

 

[Clover]

I did tried to tell him, but I don't know what to say
He's only just turned 4 so not really old enough to understand everything or get too upset but he does remember stuff

I wish they'd got it wrong too

xxxx

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[Blackcat]

Oh no, Clover, I can't believe you're still going through this. Maybe you might be better having the surgical management so you can move on. It can't be good for you emotionally or physically to have this carrying on.

 

[schell]

Clover I've not really been around as I've been struggling a bit but just caught up and so sorry you're still in limbo. Hope its all sorted soon for you chick xxx btw I had to explain to my daughter who's 7 that I wasn't having a baby anymore. I just said the doctor made a mistake and there's no baby after all. She was a bit confused but soon forgot all about it xxx

 

[xxSparklesxx]

Aw clover. This has been a nightmare for you.

Really hope things progress quickly and you can start to grieve.

Thoughts with you xx

 

[MayBMore]

Stay strong lovely lady, it is awful that this is taking so long. Hopefully you can move forwards soon xx sending hugs

 

[Clover]

Well I'm just waiting for a phone call back, Ive asked them to book me in for Surgical management

I can't wait any longer

xxxxx

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[stacesl3]

Hey hun, sorry this is still going on for you. I think its good that you have opted for the surgical op, I had an ERPC with my first mc and it was so much easier than the second time (natural one), they gave me a side/private room in the hospital and I was able to just chill there for a bit before they brought me down, afterwards I got a sandwich a cup of tea and went home that evening. Took some paracetamol that night and was actaully up and around the next day. Bleeding for me more or less stopped the next day or so but started up again a few days later but was brown blood and got my AF 3 weeks later!

I think its okay to feel sad or angry or both! It does ease in time, although I still get sad now when I think of my babies. Its a horrible thing to go through but know that you have support here and always feel free to pm anytime if you need to. Hugs to you xxx

 

[MrsS15]

I think that's the right decision Gail, this has went on far too long for you. You need this to be able to grieve and move on! I'm so sorry for you lovely lady xxx