****December 2014 mums to be! Christmas babies!!*****

[wifeywifey]

Ha ha thanks goat. I would understand if we lived on be benefits and couldn't cope with the boys we have. Living on a commune camp doesn't sound so bad lol. It happened at a bad time. Im suppose to be starting collage in september and was so excited and worked hard this year to do it so it upset me that I had to put it on hold (she didn't know this) but to me this child is a blessing. My last pregnancy ended in mc so this baby to me is even more precious. Sorry I will stop ranting lol. Have a good day at work ladies

 

[nikb]

This day is going so slow!!!

 

[knopk@]

Wifey, I really dont understand this type of reaction. So far i have had positive ones although it wasnt planned. We dont rely on the government help so why not have another one?
I had my appointment today, got to listen to the heartbeat which i didnt expect. Was 145 bpm. All good, talked about my previous fast labour but not much to discuss at this stage. Will go tp my gp re hairloss

 

[wifeywifey]

Knopk I keep forgetting to ask about fast labour it terrifies me tho. I don't get to see my mw now until 36 weeks so if you get any a answers please let me know what they say.
Its great you got to hear hb. Hope you gey some answers re hair loss x

 

[Goat]

Glad the appt went well knopk!

I've got so into buying second hand maternity clothes from ebay. I've bought some brand new stuff from Next and new look but I've bought a couple of nice dresses from Ebay that are by Isabella Oliver and some LK Bennet stuff too. Today I got one of those ruched tank dresses for £20 as they look so comfortable and I can wear them to work and also when I'm not at work. It's annoying as when i was this big with my daughter it was winter time so I can't wear those clothes in this heat.

 

[knopk@]

I bought some stuff locally, too and an isabella oliver dress for my birthday party on ebay
Finally got my down's screening results, 1 in 3600 so not bad although both boys were 1 in 100 000

 

[Rose83]

Hi ladies I've had a lovely day as went for an afternoon tea at a fancy hotel with a friend. Then I did a bit of shopping and I am now exhausted!

I finally braved the conversation with my mum about how I don't want her staying with me over Christmas when the baby is born (in fact I never want her to stay with us) and as predicted she went mental, threatened not coming to visit at all etc. Long story but basically they live in London, I'm in Scotland and they expect to use my flat like a hotel when they visit. My mum is rude, unhelpful and always says the wrong thing and is totally selfish so there is no way I want her under my feet when I'm just out of hospital (or just about to have her if she is late). So I've told them to book a hotel. She said she'd speak to my dad but didn't know if she'd come at all. Left my brother to call her tonight and try to explain how selfish she is being! He had a little girl 4 months ago and my parents were awful then too so I know exactly what I'd be letting myself in for! X

 

[Rose83]

Hi ladies I've had a lovely day as went for an afternoon tea at a fancy hotel with a friend. Then I did a bit of shopping and I am now exhausted!

I finally braved the conversation with my mum about how I don't want her staying with me over Christmas when the baby is born (in fact I never want her to stay with us) and as predicted she went mental, threatened not coming to visit at all etc. Long story but basically they live in London, I'm in Scotland and they expect to use my flat like a hotel when they visit. My mum is rude, unhelpful and always says the wrong thing and is totally selfish so there is no way I want her under my feet when I'm just out of hospital (or just about to have her if she is late). So I've told them to book a hotel. She said she'd speak to my dad but didn't know if she'd come at all. Left my brother to call her tonight and try to explain how selfish she is being! He had a little girl 4 months ago and my parents were awful then too so I know exactly what I'd be letting myself in for! X

 

[nikb]

Evening all. Today went pretty slow but it's over now thankfully lol. Think it's because I had a bit of a sore head.

Knopk glad your appointment went well. When I got my downs screening results I never got any information about numbers, just that I was low risk. That was it.

Rose sorry your mum is being difficult but at least you know you will be able to relax a bit more when baby is here.

I got some very cute baby things yesterday (unisex of course). It was mainly vests and baby grows and we got a lovely snow suit. The cutest thing I got was a hat and bootie set for new born with my 1st Xmas on it. It's so cute so baby better be here to wear it lol

 

[JaiandLeigh]

Hey everyone!

Just got back from a lovely long weekend away with my OH & the dog was heaven & now I've got the rest of the week off to relax some more (yay!)

I have been getting on & off cramps for the last 24 hours, should I be booking in to see my GP if they are still here tomorrow or is it nothing worth getting checked out? I'm not overly worried just never know when to go or not go to GP??

Flowerpower - hope you are having a lovely relaxing holiday

Rose & wifey - sorry to hear you are having difficult times with certain family members (I'm pleased to know I'm not the only one with problems in that area!)

Pleased to see we have now evened out the genders with 3 blues & 3 pinks - congrats to everyone who has now found out. 2 weeks to go until we find out eek ecciting!

Xx

 

[Rose83]

I swear family will be the death of me! I have another thing to rant about now - I know that it's really nice that people want to buy us things but what annoys me is when people buy you things that effectively try to passive aggressively make you choose a brand. A few weeks ago my SIL text me to say that Advent bottles were on sale in boots and I text back to say that I was planning to breast feed and that I had bought a tommee tippee set of bottles and steriliser and pump so wouldn't really need anything more at this point. So yesterday she sends OH a photo of everything she has bought us laid out and saying she better stop buying stuff...and in the middle of the pile is a big box of Advent bottles! It really annoys me when people ignore what you've said. But I think the other thing is that she has grown up kids and has done all this, she should realise that picking things like the brands you are going to use is important to you, buying us clothes is one thing but I feel like when it encroaches into actually making your decisions for you it's just annoying and takes away some of the silly bits you want the opportunity to choose.

Rant over - I know it all sounds a bit trivial but when it's my first baby I just get annoyed by everyone wanting to muscle in with their opinion on absolutely everything! X

 

[SparkleBug]

Some people just like to force things through, I can't stand it. I think your response should be "Thanks! Avent sell really well on ebay!" Don't let her get her way.

 

[Cariad Bach]

Rant Alert!!!

I'm with you all on this. When we announced we were expecting my MIL immediately jumped in to say that she wants to buy the pram - this is lovely but I somehow thought that my parents / grandparents who I am very close too would want to buy this for us and I was worried not to offend them. I gently brooched the subject with them to say that in-laws had offered to buy the pram for us. When we last visited I was given a full demo from SIL at in-laws house of her travel system she is finished with and then the gran said well why don't you just have this?! I suspected that this would happen when they said they would get it all out for me to look at! I did mention this to hubby but he said I was being silly and that they wouldn't expect me to have this - well there it was offered on a plate! I was so embarressed, I just simply replied to say oh that's very kind of you, but we haven't quite worked out what will suit us yet (dying!). Don't get me wrong it is very kind of them to offer this as she has used it for both of her boys but I'm being selfish on this one and really want a new pram, even if it is a cheap / end of line one I know also feel obliged to look at cheaper ones.

My side have found some beautiful second hand nursery furniture for sale (which my dad has offered to get for us) from a friend but the set is too large for our room and is a different colour to some brand new draws we had from Ikea (oak colour). The nursery set is dark wood. I thought about having these but then concluded that I would rather invest in a proper oak cot bed, second hand as they retail for £800 new and I was questioned why did I say I didn't want the set!

My mum keeps buying stuff which I don't really need or won't use, and has even bought pink socks! I said it could be a boy! Also that she will get me some nappies, and I said I don't know what type I'll use yet, maybe reuseable....She's nuts!

I can't win! I'd rather say sod you all I'm buying everything!

 

[Cariad Bach]

Thanks ladies - I'm very excited about buying pink clothes now! Thanks for updating me on the front page Goat.

Happy birthday to you boy sara louise - what do you have planned today?


I am supposed to be in a car already on my way to a two week holiday in Wales with OH and the dog - but last minute work travel last week meant I am unpacked and unprepared so I have a morning of getting organised before we can head off.


What's everyone else up to?

Flowerpower - Where are you on holiday in Wales?

 

[nikb]

JaiandLeigh I had pains and cramps for a couple of days too. I've put it down to stretching and growing. If I remember right our due dates are pretty close so I'm a little relieved to hear someone else has had the same thing.

Sorry to hear so many of you are having a difficult time with your families. It can't be easy.

Not much going on with me today apart from work and another slow day. Roll on 6pm!

 

[JaiandLeigh]

Thanks Nikb - it's always reassuring to hear someone else has something similar...

We have had a lot of family offering us their second hand items prams, clothes, cots etc as well as some offering to buy us new items and we are just feeling extremely blessed and grateful that so many people want to help. Maybe I only feel like that because no one has given us any nightmare items yet that are really not to our taste lol and I might change my mind but at the moment I just feel really lucky that so many people want to help

Hopefully amongst the things you do not like there are also some hidden gems that will prove to be invaluable to you... Xx

 

[Rose83]

Aww Jai you are so lovely and positive I wish I was more laid back!

Cariad, I'm totally with you though - OH and I are very lucky that we have family that want to help out but they are just too obstinate about forcing things upon us. I think part of the problem is that his sister is 13 years older so she has had her kids and so wants to try and live it all again through us. I know they all mean well but it's like I said, it's just this thing of stopping us making decisions for ourselves and living our own lives - I love shopping and picking the things that I'm going to use for our baby and I just don't want someone else to take those things away from me. Thank god my MIL isn't like her daughter at all - she doesn't like to interfere and is happy to just give us some money so that we can buy whatever WE choose!

I'll probably get struck down by lightning for being such a cow now but it just irritates me so much! X

 

[Cariad Bach]

Don't get me wrong I'm not being ungrateful its just seems like sometimes there can be a little bit of spite sometimes - mainly the MIL! lol I've seen this with the other grandchildren so I know I'm glad we don't live that close to them in some respects - bet you'd second this Rose! lol

Has anyone had any slight pains in their (what I feels like their cervix)? I've had them off and off for the last day or so and I can't say they really hurt as I don't feel it for long enough. Just feels simlar to like what I've had just before a period before, as if the cervix moves slightly.

 

[JaiandLeigh]

Rose - you are not being a cow lol you are being human! We can't help the way we feel (especially when pregnant hehe!)

Cariad - I am experiencing those pains too. All day yesterday as today feels just like strong period pains that come on & off xx

 

[Goat]

Sorry to hear about all the family annoyances!! It sounds so frustrating!!

Cariad, yes I've had those and am so relieved to hear you and Jai have had them too!!

How often is everyone feeling baby? I felt her at least twice by this time of day for the past week but today nothing. I hate this movement worry especially when they're so small and you can't tell if they've just turned around!
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