oh no my LO was an absolute nightmare, screamed blue murder, didn't settle in her cot properly for ages, after many,many nights of lifting her in & out her cot, eventually she went longer & longer in it & it worked. She has only ever slept in our bed when she's ill & she's very independent, secure & always been able to play with & interact with her peers. Its not that it was easy for me, its that I took the hard work on the chin & it paid off, and ended up with a very happy baby. And it also means that i've been able to have a night out with my O/H when she started staying over with my parents the odd saturday night when she turned 1 & never cried or fussed. I'm glad that I can go out & be me for a few hours w/out worrying that LO wont sleep w/out me.
Good on you, my LO doesnt settle in a cot at all. No matter what I try.
They are all different and each parent makes a decision and its their responsibility. If you bed share, then no smoking, no drinking and no drugs etc. Some people do it through choice, some not but its their decision.
I am sure we can all google and read ever changing advice but we as parents have to make decisions and I believe mother knows their child best.