Anyone else in their 40s?

[stacesl3]

Oh and i think your timing was spot on....it only takes the once

 

[lillith112]

Ah sorry your feeling so down lillith x I know exactly how you feel, its so hard not to focus on age, everything is so much harder when time isn't on your side! I also worry about MC again, I think thats normal though, i've been through it twice now and it does terrify me if it were to happen again. I have said all along I dont want to get pregnant again unless its my take home baby, so maybe this is why its taking me so long, mother nature it waiting until I produce the best egg lol.
The one thing i have realised through this journey is I am stronger than I ever knew, we all are you included, big hugs to you and hope this is your month xx

Thankyou lovely lady, the people on this group are such an amazing support, I know I'm not on my own with this struggle, it really helps to share the burden. You're lucky you feel strong after all you have been through, I don't feel that way at the moment, I feel broken still. That Mother nature has a lot to answer for that's for sure. I just hope we all get what we wish for and if not I hope we can move on and be happy whatever life decides for us. xx

 

[ClareBear1972]

I am 43 soon to be 44, i have had 5 children already longest i tried was 8 months back when i was younger, i am TTC this will be my 2nd month trying, i am a bit confused with my cycle as its starting to become irregular, in Oct i came on on the 14/10 Ovulated 15 days later then came on my next period 5 days early, so i counted a 26 day cycle rather than a 30 day which ive always been, i had my last period which started on the 9/11/16 was only a 2 day period and i think im already ovulating or about to its been 9 days since my period started and im getting faint lines on my poundland strips it says thats negative but it still making me wonder if im about to ovulate i may have to try other methods, i used to have ovulation pains to help guide me but that seems to of stopped as i had the coil inserted for about a year or two the non hormone one, i see all your comments and its giving me a bit of doubt if il succeed but also gives me hopes to see the successful ones.

 

[lillith112]

Blimey! I've just read that Janet Jackson is pregnant at age 50 !.
Clarebear my cycle went to 26 days for a year (used to be29 days). I've been taking evening primrose and agnus castus and they are 28 days now. They shorten as we approach menopause apparently ��. Just to add on my 26 day cycles I used to ovulation cd10 or 11.
x

 

[Papermoon]

Blimey! I've just read that Janet Jackson is pregnant at age 50 !.
Clarebear my cycle went to 26 days for a year (used to be29 days). I've been taking evening primrose and agnus castus and they are 28 days now. They shorten as we approach menopause apparently ��. Just to add on my 26 day cycles I used to ovulation cd10 or 11.
x

Oh yes she is! I forgot to mention her!

 

[Nikkers]

Welcome Clarebear Hope you are successful quickly with child number 6!

Syd, I seem to think you might know stuff about cervix checking?! Checked mine for the first time last night, it was high up, could only just reach it, and was soft and spongey. Does that mean anything?! Haven't any knowledge as haven't done it before!

 

[Syd43]

Ha ha, good to be known for something The thing about cervix checking is that it is what is normal or not normal for you because it varies so much from person to person. I've never been much good with position as mine varies throughout the day and I can't tell open from closed. BUT, with my first pregnancy I noticed a few days before af was due that it was very soft and spongy and that was new for me. It stayed that way til my miscarriage. Then with my chemical two weeks ago, exactly the same. That was what first made me suspect I was pregnant again. So for me, soft and spongy is a great sign.

Fingers crossed it's the same for you!

 

[Nikkers]

Ha ha, good to be known for something The thing about cervix checking is that it is what is normal or not normal for you because it varies so much from person to person. I've never been much good with position as mine varies throughout the day and I can't tell open from closed. BUT, with my first pregnancy I noticed a few days before af was due that it was very soft and spongy and that was new for me. It stayed that way til my miscarriage. Then with my chemical two weeks ago, exactly the same. That was what first made me suspect I was pregnant again. So for me, soft and spongy is a great sign.

Fingers crossed it's the same for you!

That made me giggle, yep, you are the go to woman for cervix checking!! Thanks for the info, I guess I need to establish what is normal for me so can recognise anything out of the ordinary in future cycles. But am going to grab onto the fact that soft and spongy was a good sign for you!

 

[Syd43]

Definitely! I've read the definition of hard and soft cervix loads of times (end of nose vs lips) and that spongy feeling is something else entirely. Definitely a good sign I reckon

 

[stacesl3]

Afternoon ladies, how is everyone? Horrible day out!!
Nikki, sorry about AF
Syd, how are things going with IVF?
Ah Lillith sorry you are feeling down, sending you big hugs
Welcome Clarebear x
Hope everyone okay and really really hoping for some good on this thread soon!! x

 

[Nikkers]

Rubbish day, weather wise and the fact that it is CD1 for me!! I agree Staces13, it's about time the 40+ ladies had a run of good luck! Let's plan to have some happy December news

 

[Papermoon]

I'm rooting for you ladies! You can do it!

 

[Syd43]

Ah crap Nikkers, I'm sorry X

After agonising for the last couple of weeks and googling like a crazy person I think I've finally decided to go with long protocol and Oxford. We have our nurse appointment and "freeze the swimmers" appointment on 22 Dec which should be around a week before day 21.

I'm actually slightly nervous about getting pregnant naturally again this month, how weird is that? Obviously it would be lovely not to have to go through IVF but the chances are it wouldn't stick and then my dates would be all wrong. Ah well, leaving it in the hands of the gods I suppose, because that's worked so well so far...

Clementine, I hope you're doing as well as you can be X

 

[stacesl3]

Ooh exciting stuff Syd, good you have a date. I must confess I know nothing about IVF and the actual procedure involved. Seems like it has worked for a lot of ladies here though x

That doesn't sound weird at all! I worry about getting pregnant again in case the same thing happens, sometimes I just cant imagine going through pregnancy and having a baby at the end! I think I've put some sort of mental block on getting pregnant for these reasons.

 

[Syd43]

Way too much info coming up so apologies. I've just noticed I have loads of ewcm, that's the first time I've ever had it since starting to ttc. I'm not doing anything differently and in fact I'm totally dehydrated at the moment (at a conference so living on coffee and minimal water). I've always had clear/slippy but never ew. Wonder if the chemical has done something.

Not actually seeing OH til tomorrow night so don't think it'll do me any good.

 

[stacesl3]

Hmmm that is strange Syd, espcially if you dont usually get it. Could have been the chemical - I know some women are quite fertile after a mc so would make sense I guess. Where are you in your cycle?

I rarely get ewcm, although have noticed it a little this cycle, but I am taking EPO so that could be why. Saying that dont know why I am bothering as looks like I wont be getting to dtd during my fertile time this month so yet another wasted cycle

 

[Syd43]

That's crap

I'm day 14 and usually ovulate day 15.

 

[stacesl3]

You can say that again!!!I'm so frustrated and pi&&ed off, but have no one to direct my anger towards... if that makes sense! So that makes me feel like I could cry! God, I'm all woe is me today its pitiful lol

Well FX you will be able to BD before you ovulate. IF not at least you have a plan in place with the IVf x

 

[Syd43]

I know exactly what you mean about being so upset but having no one to direct it at. I'm so MAD that I didn't get to start ttc until I was 43 but mad at who? I just didn't meet the right man. Or rather, I met him 20 yrs ago but only fell in love with him 18 months ago...

 

[stacesl3]

Yep I think that all the time! It's just (yet another) one of those things we have no control over. I started ttc at 41 and pretty much got pregnant a few months after.....just gone downhill since then