Id say do what your comfortable with but if the father of my baby was in and out of my pregnancy i would be cautious.
A mother bonds with the baby over the pregnancy where its harder for the male i guess as they only bond from birth and i dnt think i know any mother who would let there baby out of their site. The father will hve to respect your wishes. hope u manage to sort something x
So accepting the fact that its harder for a male to bond with the child and only after birth, your answers regarding the original question of bonding are simply that the father will have to respect the mothers wishes?! You mention the child living with you and not letting them out f your sight as if there is only one person of importance in the child's life. We're questioning father/child bonding and you couldn't be discussing more to encourage the opposite.
It's this lack of empathy and understanding that gets me. We all have our stories and different version of events, it's why we're here. The original thread made no mention of being in and out of the pregnancy. But given your acceptance of a male not bonding until after birth can you understand why they maybe in an out? Can you understand the importance of that bonding happening right away after birth for the sake of the fathers parental instincts to kick in? How this should be encouraged ASAP in a homely comfortable environment for dad? I don't know a single dad who could walk away from ther child once they've set eyes on them.
Encouraging and simplifying a dads involvement instead of offering a take it or leave it, care centre option from the off would reap more benefits.
Single dads instantly have a bad name. This is highlighted by everyone immediately assuming the father in this scenario has run off and is in and out of the pregnancy. I may have missed that as it sounded amicable to me. And if that's the case don't jeopardise anything by flaunting your lucky position of guardian and demanding supervised visits.