Laura_C
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Ever since we lost Ethan I have had this internal battle with whether I should request to see my antenatal notes as I know there were some issues during my pregnancy, which I just need answers for. In particular the day I went to Triage, I was assessed and put on a trace monitor, told all looked fine and they discharged me. The next day we found out our son was dying and had about 48 hours left. I had an emergency c section the following day at another hospital. I was refused certain diagnostic tests due to it being a weekend and they didn't have the staff. My treatment was poor before the scan revealed my fears were correct, I was treated like I was being silly and an complete inconvenience. I know the MW who spoke to me on the phone at Traige felt like utter shit after she heard I was losing my baby. She actually had an awful attitude, then tried creeping to me once she realised her job may be at stake for her awful treatment of me. I was transferred to a hospital that simply couldn't cope or have the expertise to deal with my son, because everywhere else was full. I felt like me and my child were not a priority and as a result he died 2 days after birth. Tbh the hospital where he was born did their absolute best with what they had but it doesn't help me feel like if he had the care he deserved he could be here today
I was in hospital exactly a year after his death as I had retained products after having my last baby and I got very emotional. I cried all this out to a MW there who was lovely and she encouraged me to go for it. She said it was the only way I would get the answers I needed but I just can't seem to make the first move. I already have a relationship with the consultant MW who heads the maternity services at the hosp but I'm scared :/ so scared of going through it all again but if I don't I'm sure I'll always wonder. I was strong enough until now, I got pregnant only 2 1/2 months after losing Ethan and it was all very difficult and emotional but I have a beautiful, healthy baby girl who we adore and are so blessed to have her. Now she is here and all is well I feel now is probably the right time. It's been over a year though.
Not sure why I have posted this really, do you think it's worthwhile me doing? I'm so frightened but I'm sure it's something I need to do. How would you approach it? Do I tell them from the off I suspect negligence or leave it until I've seen the notes? I want to get a copy of the trace to get another medical opinion too. What would you do??
TIA xxxx
I was in hospital exactly a year after his death as I had retained products after having my last baby and I got very emotional. I cried all this out to a MW there who was lovely and she encouraged me to go for it. She said it was the only way I would get the answers I needed but I just can't seem to make the first move. I already have a relationship with the consultant MW who heads the maternity services at the hosp but I'm scared :/ so scared of going through it all again but if I don't I'm sure I'll always wonder. I was strong enough until now, I got pregnant only 2 1/2 months after losing Ethan and it was all very difficult and emotional but I have a beautiful, healthy baby girl who we adore and are so blessed to have her. Now she is here and all is well I feel now is probably the right time. It's been over a year though.
Not sure why I have posted this really, do you think it's worthwhile me doing? I'm so frightened but I'm sure it's something I need to do. How would you approach it? Do I tell them from the off I suspect negligence or leave it until I've seen the notes? I want to get a copy of the trace to get another medical opinion too. What would you do??
TIA xxxx
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