Amelie Celeste aka the hope bean...

[Hope81]

Thank you dysco
Not really much sleep for neither of us but I just want her to rest a little poor baby

 

[dyscochick]

to you both, rest when you can and you make sure you sleep when she does! xxx

 

[Hope81]

 

[Mellymoomin06]

Lovely new pics hun xxx

 

[tinytoes]

She's beautiful ! Looks very alert in the second picture

 

[dyscochick]

Aw love her xxx

 

[Hope81]

Thank you girls

After 24 h of massive crying, and an explosive poo that resulted in an unexpected bath tonight seems to be getting slightly better.
Up for a feed now and fx she will go down immediately without problems and that she will stay asleep as this is when last night everything went wrong...

Today the weather prognosis is finally good do I hope we will go got a walk. It rained so torrentially the past 2 days that poor coco didn't get to go farther than the yard...
So a walk and a supermarket run hopefully for us this afternoon

 

[dyscochick]

Hope you've been able to get out and about Hun, did the big pop help settle her tummy? Sounds like that is the route of her probs, hope she gets more regular. Have you tried the baby massage yet to see if it helps? Xxxx

 

[Hope81]

Amelie getting some fresh air and vitamin D near the ocean a lovely sunny morning

 

[dyscochick]

xxx

 

[Emily0505]

She's such a little cutie!!

XX

 

[CARNAT22]

Amelie getting some fresh air and vitamin D near the ocean a lovely sunny morning
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Awwww - so cute Hope! And she looks so peaceful

xxxxx

 

[Hope81]

amelie is 4 weeks old already...

its been 4 really tough weeks with the first 2 being the most horrible experience ever because of baby blues...

but i can see the light now at the end of the tunnel...

me and amelie are in sort of a routine (getting there anyway). for the nights we have 1/2 of a meal, bath, rest of the meal and then bed. she usually wakes once between 11-7 its not perfect but its manageable. she is heading for sleeping through i think in maybe 1 month.
good think of having a chunky baby is that they can eat more and therefore go longer stretches through the night.
during the day i always make sure that she wakes every 3 h to have a meal, i actually wake her to ensure that she takes a good amount of milk during the day so she dosent have to wake more than once during the night to meet her 24 h needs of milk.
our daily routine still needs some working but that will improve as she gets older and she is able to stay awake for longer periods of the day.

anyway i slowly get my life back...i manage a couple of hours (with many interruptions obviously) of some studying or work related things, and like 1 h of free time to relax.

my parents are arriving in one week and things will get even better and when they leave (1 month later) hopefully amelie will be close to a good routine and to sleep through the night.

right baby steps but i actually met my goals until now.

my first goal was to find some time to meet my personal needs, like washing myself, eat breakfast etc
second goal was to find some free time to relax
then soem time to study
the courage to go out and about alone with her

and the next goal, well beginning slowly obviously is to increase the physical activity i do and after my parents leave to start loosing some weight. (cant really resist some mommy comfort food )

going back to work is still in negotiations. we are not really able to arrange daycare for such a small baby so i may not return at all at work if we dont come in terms of a good arrangement and just apply for a better job once amelie is 6 months old and i will be able to have her in a nursery (if we find an open place that is as for now is not looking so promising )
the truth is that the hospital is not to keen on having me in the post that i have right now as i am overqualified for that one meaning that they have to pay me double of what they would have paid someone with the right qualifications for the job they dont want to let me go either so they are trying hard to open a place for me and they keep making me offers that as long as they dont include a daycare plan or maternity leave until at least amelie is 6-8 m old are all denied though the salary is more than appealing and so is the position to the clinic. i suppose we will see how it will go. if they really want me they better consider amelies well been too or i will apply for a different job.
anyway they have 2 more months to make the right arrangements and then we will have to make big plans as applying fr a different job means to actually move to a different city.
actually that will happen regardless eventually as i want to do a phd and thats not possible in the town we live right now...

such a random post lol....sorry for that thought i doubt anyoen made it to the end of it lol

right that was all, my plan for losing weight is carb control as thats the only plan that ever worked for me and i find it quite easy rather than counting calories and staving with low fat low calorie food. that and exercise off.

going to wake miss smelly bum princess, change her and feed her

 

[dyscochick]

Hun, stick to your guns and keep negotiating with work. You might be best just resigning yourself to moving, you'll have more maternity leave and then be able to pick up a PhD position somewhere else. Do you know where you would go? Would you stay in Norway? Doing a PhD would be super rewarding, but a big time commitment but it Amelie is settling well into a routine (i'm soooo impressed already that you've gone some study and relaxed!) you'll manage it fine i'm sure. Can OH move easily?

 

[Hope81]

Well there is the problem... Finding one doctor job is enough of a trouble, finding two new ones in the same town can be a nightmare...
We will still stay in Norway only because its the best option for Amelie to grow up and have a good, safe childhood but obviously if we can help it we prefer to move towns once we have some more stability rather than now in a hurry ifykwim. ( secretly I wish we could move in uk to get rid of the language burden lol)
So hopefully we can come in an understanding with my work and move in a different town when we find two different good opportunities...

 

[dyscochick]

Everything crossed for you hun, I certainly agree having lived in scandinavia that if i could i'd have our LO there, safer, better, more affordable child care (in sweden certainly), safer lives in general, outdoors lifestyle, I bet Norway is similar to Sweden in many of those respects, but really tough when you both have to me, although I'll vote for the UK (how about Wales??) everytime!!! but thats just me wanting you closer

I hope work can sort it out for you, can you keep taking the maternity leave until they sort it out? i know you want to move on with your career but its kind of the best of both worlds! Do you still have those exams to sit in a few months?

 

[Hope81]

Thank you dysco yes I can still be in ml as I have the legal right to do so its only internal hospital pressures that want me there earlier ifykwim.
I suppose we will have to sit tight and see.
About the exams yes I am working on it, hopefully I can have them a little later but I am not sure if that will be possible. We will see.

About my carrier and the phd when I moved in Norway I knew that I may say goodbye to advancing more my carrier, at the beginning I was quite sad with the possibility but the baby started changing my perspectives and certainly my priorities. Though I can still advance just not academically here (the reality is that a phd will be quite a big hit in my salary I guess)
After all everything it may work out in the end and if not there are more important things in life...
Call me stupid but can't you have a phd without being near a university center?? I can't believe that only people at big cities have that possibility ?


In a lighter tone I just used the baby Bjorne carrier for the first time it was just in the yard with the puppy but for ju surprise when we came inside the baby was sleeping and I managed to put her down without waking her
I think that is the way forward when it comes to me going out and about alone with her. Though I have to get her in and out every time it's much easier than fiddling with the stroller in the car ( still can't fold and unfold the damn stroller...)

 

[dyscochick]

i'm planning to use a wrap or carrier instead of stroller as much as possible! will be so much easier!

As for a PhD you can do them remotely, it just depends what you want to do. you could do it affiliated to any university really, just find a potential supervisor and talk to them about your situation. It also depends whether you want to do your phd full time or do it part time and keep working. If there is a project you can do perhaps using patients or data gathered from where you are now compared to 2-3 other centres you could be based where you are now, and affiliated for the phd to any uni really.

 

[Hope81]

thank you, i suppose once we will settle a little more and find childcare i will go around asking about how to do a phd from here. i suppose part time is the only option for me.
too bad i am not in uk it would have been lovely to do a phd with you

dysco amelie hated the moby wrap, i will try her a little more once she is a little older and dosent have to be in the cradle position and if she still hates it i will post it to you. by the time ollie is here i will know for sure. who knows maybe ollie will appreciate the moby wrap...
thankfullly she is ok with the babybjorn one...

 

[dyscochick]

It's good she likes the baby Bjorne, how long can they be in that at a time at her age? Is there a limit with newborns? It's funny how they like different things!