Who is going to have another baby???

[stephlw25]

I cant wait to have more....even though i had such a bad birth experience it hasnt put me off at all!!
I would love a girl next and if i was lucky enough for that to happen i might just stop at 2 , but if i have another boy then we would consider trying once more for a girl......which means i could end up with 3 boys....which mean i would be tempted to try AGAIN for a girl so all in all i might end up with 20 boys!!!! lmao

 

No more for me.

aw hun, i thought you were going to try later on. what advise did the HV give you?

We were but I really can't face losing another baby and getting pregnant carries that risk. It has really messed me up this time. Mark has said he will support me either way and understands how I feel but says if I change my mind in the future we can try again.
I didn't want Damien to be an only child but I need to think of me right now.

Sorry you're not having anymore either hun. I feel like I should have enjoyed Damiens pregnancy more now. Do you ever think that?

 

[Rosieroo]

My labour wasn't bad either. It was just the tear that would put me off if anything and the fact that I hate my body now.

Ditto. I am scared so much of tearing/grazing worse than I did this time.

But I can't wait til we have another one. I just need to get my bits sorted out first as I don't think it's going to be an immaculate conception!!

I'd like a minimum of 2 children. I think that if I get pregnant within the next 12 months, then have a break (I'm 23, so have a bit of time on my side), then if we feel like having more after then next one then maybe have another in 4-5 years time. We can't move for 3.5 years (tied into the mortgage), so as it's only a 2 bed we'd have to stick at 2 maximum in this house!

 

[Amanda]

I spent 12 years being adamant I was only having the one child, look at me now!!!!

Never say Never........

 

[Kim]

Rubie is my first and I want one more. OH has said no more than 1 as Rubie is his 4th

 

[michelle82]

Right now I say never again, I actually enjoyed my pregnancy apart from a few weeks of head in the loo every morning I was ok! But the size of Matthew and the birth has put me off a bit and all the sleepless nights, no amount of planning prepared me for that ! I was an only child and have no issues with Matthew being an only child.

 

[hels]

Im an only child too Michelle, and id have no isues with that either.

 

[Lucy]

Hi

We hope to have 2 more children but we're not going to TTC until Olivia is 18 months as I couldn't cope with too small a gap.

Lucy

 

[Tiny Sue]

stephlw25, my great gandmother did that...she had 20 girls and the youngest, her 21st child, was a boy!

I am sooooo not going to to that!

Mind you, that was in the 1800s and a lot of her daughters died during their childhood years.

Sue

 

[charlie_chalk]

while i was preg with taylor i swore he would be my last. but who knows i would love to have a lil girl but not 4 a few yrs yet i like to have a bit of an age gap. ill probably wait till taylor starts school. ill probably end up having another boy but as long as they r healthy i wont mind 1 bit

 

[Manda]

i had an awfull pregnancy and birth it started at 4 1/2 weeks pregnant i started bleeding this lasted 4 weeks then morning sickness kicked in at 8 weeks (just as i was at the airport emigrating to oz) at 11 1/2 weeks i had a really bad bleed and lost lots of tissue i was told i miscarried but a scan showed bubs moving around, they came to the conclusion that i was expecting twins and had lost one, then at 17 weeks they discovered i had weak cervix due to having biopsy for pre cancerous cells, morning sickness also stopped at 17 weeks. At 20 weeks they told me i might not carry until 24 weeks and discussed stitching my cervix after much consideration i decided to let nature take it's course as i was told the stitch could cause miscarriage or premature labour, was monitored every 2 weeks at 31 weeks i started losing water so was monitored for this but they couldn't decide if it was waters or wee at 33 weeks admitted to hospital as i was having contractions and water leaking was given steroid injections for babys lungs and tablets to stop labour, released after a week returned at 35 weeks with bleeding examined and told i was 2cm dilated and i wasn't going anywhere, admitted to delivery, waters broke at 4.30pm also having contractions but not that bad, at midnight in agony started with gas and air had pethadine at some point not sure when lol, after 3 hours pushing Abi was born by forceps 5 weeks early, half hour later still trying to deliver placenta then started to haemorrhage was rushed to theatre and told may need hystorectomy, came around 2 hours later with someone elses blood pumping into me yuck! i had to have 4 bags of blood altogether, i had retained the placenta and had to have it cut out luckily didn't have to have hystorectomy felt like crap for 2 days and had to visit abi in scbu in wheelchair, had ups and downs as i had to leave abi in hospital when i went home.

Would i do it all again definately although i've been told i must see a specialist brfore i become pregnant again.

 

[Lou]

Hi

I really wonder what my little girl would look like

Isaac is so special to me and Jarrod we can't imagine another baby in our lives and being able to share our love between 2 or more children when we love Isaac so much. Plus I am 32 in june so the risks of abnormalities are getting higher for me now.

I would love to adopt a child but Jarrod is not keen. I think its something we will talk about when it feels right but I have no problem with Isaac being an only child if thats what we decide.

Lou

 

[minikins]

Yes, would like another.

Need to get some sex in first though, chance would be a fine thing

 

[Lou]

I'm going back on the pill as soon as I get my next period. I am a bit worried about it though because it took us a year to get pregnant with Isaac so I am worried the pill could effect my chances of TTC if we want another baby.

Lou

 

[Imi-Maddie's-Mum]

This is the first i've carried through ... and the last ... OH wants more, but if he that desperate he can have it!!

Not enjoying pregnancy and im scared stiff all the time ... deff can't put myself thru this again .. i'll have no hair left!!!

 

[Duds]

I would have liked 3 but at the mo there is no way I could bear going through it all again. The pregnancy was terrible (sick all the time & in hosp) & the labour was just as bad.
Hopefully it will erase out my mind soon and I will have more but I'd be scared stiff knowing whats in store.

I also dont know how you cope with more than 1 ?!! Im struggling as it is?!

 

[Manda]

Bet most of you change your minds and have another one lol. i had horrendous pregnancy and birth (read earlier post) but she was worth it and i'd do it again probably have to wait until she's about 4 or 5 tho in case i have same problems as i was on bedrest.

I know the feeling about sex it's been nearly a year (about 2 weeks off i think) lol as we were banned through pregnancy by the dr then i was recovering then i went back to the uk for 3 months without him, then when i got back here it's bleeding to hot at night its anywhere between 27 and 32 degrees

Manda x

 

[Sarah W Baby Belly]

Well I am firmly back on the pill now, and due to finding motherhood very hard in the first month, and still finding it very daunting, I will probably be on the pill for many years to come!

We absolutely adore Samuel but I have realised that I would hate to have lots of children running around. I just don't have the patience for it. My brother and I used to run my mum ragged with our bickering and noise!

Is it really such a terrible thing to have just one child? What do you think?

 

[Dee1985]

defo 100% no more i hate being preg to much!!!!!!

ild like to make the baby then hold baby not give birth or b preg then i wud, but partner dont want any more cant afford 3

 

[Tiny Sue]

There are pros and cons Sarah...I was one of a family of four and so was OH, so we're used to noise and bickering! OH's sister has five kids too!

As I posted before we have planned four, and then if money and age allow (you can't after 50 here), to adopt a fifth. We want to give something back, but yes we are crazy!

Pros - more resources for one child, you keep your figure better, no scary pregnancies, you stay young (and sane) for longer, child more independent etc etc

Cons - an only child is a lonely child, no siblings if anything happens to you or OH etc.

I would always choose more children but more and more people are saying that one is the way to go!

Sue