Where are all the high risk mums-to-be?!

[Toffeegirl]

Mun2many- I am so sorry to hear you are having problems with your bloods fingers crossed your get them sorted soon.

Sprk - I think that is a great idea as there is nothing worse than feeling so low hopefully they can help you in someway or another. I do think it is also worth telling your husband so he can try to help.

Love to you all x

 

[Sprk]

Toffeegirl- thank you for the encouragement. Dh knows how low I am, I just don't like to discuss it with him because he feels responsible for my mood. (He has a lot of guilty feelings for needing to be cared for and not being able to help out, despite my telling him it's not his fault for not being well). I just don't want to make him feel worse.

How are you doing?

 

[Toffeegirl]

Sprk - I have to say I really feel for you and if you don't have anyone to talk to it makes it worse. I had very bad depression a few years ago and I understand how lonely it makes you feel. As I said before it is a great idea to talk to someone it always makes it easier.
As for me I am doing great I heard my baby's heart beat for the first time on Monday as it is so reassuring. I am slowly getting my blood sugars under control, only issue I have is with my bag as my tummy is changing shape it is becoming harder to keep the ruddy thing on :O)
Sending you HUGS x

 

[babyem]

LOL Toffeegirl... I'm so sorry for laughing but reading about your response to people made me laugh for the first time since I found out!

I'm dreading a nephrostomy bag if I'm honest. I've heard they strap it to your leg and I'm worried that I won't be able to hide it... Or that it'll split when I venture out the house and I'll end up covered in my own pee!

My DH is so worried about me that he said to me "if you want to end this now, I won't argue with you and I'll support you. I'll understand if you don't feel you can go through all this again"... I know I'm not doing well at the moment, and I know it'll only get worse but never, not even in my darkest moment, have I ever considered aborting this baby. I love her so much, I could never live with myself, just for the sake of a few months of ill health. I guess it's sweet of him to say and if I was that way inclined the Drs would be happy to do it, but it just made me feel worse, like I'm obviously not coping well with everything that he thinks I'd even contemplate doing that.

Ho-hum. Just got to remember the end goal. A sweet little baby to finish our family, who I've dreamed of being able to hold for years now and never thought I'd ever be able too.

Its usually catheters that are strapped to your leg, nephrostomys have a stoma bag xx

 

[Rach87]

20 week scan day today guys wish me luck that baba is a good size and I don't have to be monitored weekly and baba doesn't come early x

 

[Sprk]

Rach- I hope your scan goes well! Enjoy seeing your lo

 

[Rach87]

It's team pink ladies baby was fit fine and healthy have placenta previa again. Still don't know a plan for the next 20 weeks so booked in with the doc to see about steroid jabs and growth scan etc x

 

[Toffeegirl]

Rach- glad the scan went well I can't wait for mine to see baby again, but also like everyone I guess also nervous in case anything is wrong.

 

[lizzie1978]

Hi, i am high risk due to to previous pregnancy probs as follows

1) high bp from week 34 which they have no idea if pre eclampsia! Was under high stress levels too. im too on aspirin
2) induced which didnt work at all inc breaking waters when not dilated at all
3) emcs
4) small baby though only 2 days early

Not nearly anywhere near as bad as some have described on thread but i do feel fed up when people go on about their 'horrendous birth and pregnancy'.

Prime example would be my younger sister who had to have forceps and my mum saying if anyone needed a c section it was my sister!!!

Sorry for family rant. Sometimes feel unsupported and thats both my side and oh side

 

[Toffeegirl]

lizzie1978- that is what the we are hear for to have a good rant at the world with out upsetting anyone, as for family's I don't know what it is but they just seem to not understand.

Hope the rant has helped you, sending you HUGS x

 

[Sprk]

Just checking in to see how everyone is doing.....
My last scan was fine, but am booked in for another, in about a month as lo was traverse! Little stinker has been head down until now! My mood has improved a little and the community mw gave me a call to see if I need any support. She wanted to come over the day she called, but tbh I was just home from work and in a messy house. Talk about bad timing! I'll here back from her Tuesday, much better time for a chat then. Afterwards, I will decide whether or not I should see my Gp about my mood (I don't know what kind of support the mw and hv can provide, but I really just need to vent once in a while). BP is staying under control, so now I just need my iron levels to go up a bit.

How is everyone else?

 

[Toffeegirl]

sprk-I am glad your doing well and the scan went well, I have to say today I have been so weepy which is not me at all even when I was having IVF it never mad me sad or angry no side affects at all.
I still have 19 days to go till my 20 week scan I am looking forward to it but also scared. Don't know what has happened to me (silly fool) wish I could stop getting so weepy.
Anyway hope you are all doing well x

 

[Sprk]

Toffeegirl- I hope your scan goes well. I remember being bp very nervous at the 12 week scan but felt so reassured, I haven't worried much about all the others (5 in total so far!) I hope you are feeling better soon....I can sympathize with being weepy and know how much it just plain sucks.

 

[Sprk]

Just checking in to see how everyone is doing.....

 

[ema-lou24]

Sorry I haven't posted in here for a while.
I'm really struggling now with my back issues and SPD, I also have problems with my sacroiliac joint which I got steroid injections into it and my lower spine last year. I'm really struggling to walk now and with a 2 yr old in tow that doesn't quite understand, is heartbreaking. Feel like worst mummy ever.

I did have a growth scan this week, which was lovely to see our Lil man again. He's growing as he should which is a relief as I was worried something would be wrong with all the painkillers I'm on but he's proving to be quite happy in there and also a bit camera shy lol. He's laying at a strange position, he's head down but more into my left hip and his body then going across me diagnially so his bum is at my right of my ribs, but I'm sure he will move again.
I've to get another growth scan at 34 weeks across they keeping an eye on him with my 1st son being 9lb 7oz and then my daughter being a petite 7lb11oz. So its nice to know I'm being looked after.
I had my GTT test and thankfully I don't have it this time round, such a relief cos I was convinced I had it again. I do however have protein in my urine and have done since week 16. They send it away for further tests but nothing comes of it so not overly worried but again it's something they keeping an eye on.

So far all going well apart from the severe SPD. I was told that the tablets I take for my back I've to stop 4 weeks before birth but my consultant has confirmed if I am still taking them when I go into labour it's ok. He actually thinks it would be silly for me to stop taking them. I can barely move while on them so how I'm gonna cope for 4 weeks is a joke so I've not to worry. If all goes as it is then he's also happy to let me go over my due date but only 11 days over then to go in and get waters broken, I'm refusing induction due to previous induction experience with my daughter and thankfully he also is on my side and won't let me experience that again, so if waters can't be broken straight away then will get a c section.
So now it's just a waiting game and hope I can manage this pain for next 11 weeks. I honestly could cry but it won't help me in any way so it's pointless. I also pulled a muscle in my calf so I've also been limping along with plodding. It just hurts so much to walk or even stand. .
Sorry for the "woe is me" rant, I know there's worse out there than me x

 

[Sprk]

Emma - don't be sorry at all! I post all the time because it's the only things I have energy to do lol. Great news about not having GD I think you are right about your medication and it's great that your consultant agrees and also that he's not going to induce you.

My hubby finally saw a physio therapist for his chronic pain. She was wonderful...gave him some stretches and talked about trying to get back to doing normal activities, as it could help his brain forget that he's hurting. Sounds strange, but it really has been helping. His mood has improved a bit, which is having a good effect on mine too! It's also been so great having him do more to care for himself (as happy as I am do to things for him, it's been getting really difficult). Just had another blood test to see if my iron levels are finally starting to rise, but won't get the results till I see the consultant on July 10th - when we have yet another growth scan. Lo is growing fine, but the consultant thinks she might come early because I had a lo-ish papp a score. I think I'm going to start putting together the hospital bags, just in case. Going shopping next weekend to get a few more final bits too

Hope everyone is doing alright xxxxx

 

[leean10]

Hi ladies, might join you myself.

I am high risk as I have had 8 mc's in the past and this is now my 9th pregnancy. I have a blood clotting disorder like Lilmisshopeful but I do take clexane, as well as aspirin, high dose folic acid, Vit D and now starting on Prednisolone as the doctors believe my immune system has something to do with my problems too.

That is all for now xx

 

[Rach87]

Hope all you ladies are doing ok. Got my appointment with the consultant tomoz morning so I'll keep everyone updated x

 

[Sprk]

Hi Leeann and Rach!

Lean, sorry but also glad you are joining us. I haven't posted here in a bit as I've been so busy with work and dh. I hope the steroids help. The last time I took that one I swelled up...so drink loads of water!

Rach- good luck at the consultant tomorrow. I hope all goes well and look forward to hearing about it.

I have another scan on Thursday to check the growth. So far so good, but am getting worried about pre eclampsia. My BP is still controlled, but I've been waking up in the am with my face and hands feeling quite puffy. I'm going to try checking my BP as soon as I wake up tomorrow, just to make sure. I'm getting tired of the bh, kicks, and very tired of my bump feeling sore. I think lo has moved down (I can't imagine her feeling any lower lol)!

 

[Rach87]

Well back from seeing the consultant and I'm glad I went. I've got a growth scan at 28 weeks plus checking the blood flow and having steroid jabs then after the scan and the day after, got another growth scan at 34 weeks. Going to try and see if my placenta has moved when having them scans if not got another scan at 36 weeks. Got to keep an eye on measuring my bump too. I feel soo much better for going as the midwife I saw after my 20 week scan was happy for me to be left until 36 weeks but as soon as the consultant saw me today she said no chance I need to be kept an eye on closely x