i need some advice guys, my cousin who lives in Canada is due at the same time as me but over the weekend i heard some terrible news. sadly it seems that after having excess amniotic fluid her baby is severly mentally and physically handicapped and it has been reccomended she terminate, even at this late stage, so in effect she has lost her baby at 34 weeks. i feel so guilty in a way that my own pregnancy, touch wood has been perfect and i dont know what to say to her that wont make her feel even worse, i want to express my sympathy but not rub her nose in it. it has really put in perspective how stupid i have been to worry about getting my nursery ready when hers probably is but there wont be a baby to sleep there. any advice people, on what i can say to her? i just feel so bad and cant stop thinking about it.