uncomfortable about breast feeding

[Olive]

I'm open minded with it to. I want to try bf because of the benefits but you can only try these things and see how they go. As a first time Mum I have no idea what to expect with bf. You can only do your best

If anyone judges you, ignore them You will do what's best for you and your lo.x

 

[pixie17]

thanks everyone xx

 

[Lulabell]

I plan in breast feeding but more for convenience and cos it's free. I don't think anyone should be made to feel guilty if they want to bottle feed. Either way baby is getting fed and getting nutrients. Sometimes breastfeeding doesn't work out anyway so I'm prepared for not being able to. It's each to their own and what ever works for you Hun.xx

 

[Dollie]

I do plan to breast feed if i can but feel its most definatley down to personal choice. I know what u mean though as i wouldnt have comfortable telling a couple of midwives ive come in to contact with that i didnt want to as they were very much 'oh you MUST breastfeed' although one made me feel guilty for wanting to know the sex of our baby! They should keep their opinions to themselves and be supportive with the parents choices x

 

[Esoames]

The babies that I know who have been breast fed are clingy to there mum and weaning has been a major problem where the bottle fed babies have been easier to wean and not clingy.

xx

It's actually been really easy for me to wean Isla, she only has morning and evening boob with a cup of milk during the day. She's not clingy and has adapted well with me returning to work.

Also dads can do more than feed the baby, things like bathing, nappies, winding and lots of cuddles.

It's not easy doing every night feed but my argument was I was off for ten months, I could nap in the day; my husband had to work. It's not how everyone thinks but that's how I did.

Just thought I'd throw some real life experiences your way xxx

 

[Kerrieanne]

As said above by others just do what you feel is right/comfortable with you. Don't get stressed Hun x. I want to breast feed but if I can't for whatever reason I won't and won't feel bad about it. I'm sure our babies will be so loved and cared for we have no worries xx

 

[JoJo79]

Hi hunni thought id add in this is baby number 3 for me, ive never BF and never wanted to, both my girl are fine, no major illnesses both happy bright well adjusted children,

Like the other ladies have said its your choice no one elses and if i was you id tell them that too, mw's included!

(have to say most of the mw's ive met dont "like" me anyway cos ive got a gob on me haha) xxxxxx

 

[Lovisa]

Hi hun it definitely is your choice and no one elses, just remind them of that.
I did breastfeed my LO but had an open mind about it all as I didn't think I'd be able to bf due to a few reasons.
I bought bottlles, sterilizer ect before she was born and did use them when I expressed and gave her formula.

I also didn't have trouble weaning her she eats everything that I give her.
its terrible that some midwives try to make you feel guilty about your decision, they are suppose to be helpful not judgmenta

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

No problem with weaning Jasper either, and the added benefit of being able to stay in bed all morning if i am ill is fantastic, just give him a nappy change and food is on tap

 

[sweetpamii]

i know exactly how you feel, i was bottle fed so was all my brothers and sisters and i have an awesome immune system i'm never ill, but ive been feeling really pressured into it, even people saying why not just try it or a breast pump etc still sounds like pressure to me and i know its probably not meant to, i do feel bad but i dont want to breast feed at all. poeple telling me oh you'll lose weight quicker etc that doesnt matter to me i dont feel right doing it. xxx

 

[littlemiss83]

I breast fed my first for around 3 months and it gave me quite bad depression. Me and OH weren't able to share the feeds, it was me up during the night the whole time & baby couldn't be left with anyone as I was only expressing enough for 1/2 a feed and it took 3 hours to do that. She fed every hour and a half all day every day & I was miserable, while OH snoozed away.

I had enough one day, got formula from the shop, she slept for 6 and a half hours & it was bliss.

BF'ing is a biiiiig commitment to make, i didn't realise how big. It doesn't help with weight loss or stomach shrinking one bit. And its absolutely agony.

Everyone is different, try it and see how you get on. I'm going for bottle this time and I will defo not be feeling bad about it one bit!

 

[cosmicgirl]

I'd have to disagree there with the weight loss. It burns loads of calories and I know that I lost weight a lot quicker when I bf compared to when I didn't x

 

[cosmicgirl]

Bf burns between 500-700 extra calories per day if you exclusively bf x

 

[littlemiss83]

Everyone's different cosmic - Not everyone loses weight through BF

You'd disagree with me if I said white was white & black was black

 

[cosmicgirl]

Everyone's different cosmic - Not everyone loses weight through BF

You'd disagree with me if I said white was white & black was black

dont quite understand where that arsey comment came from, I wasnt aware that we had an issue but anywhhoooo.
All I know is that your body uses energy in the form off calories to produce the milk, therefore you burn calories and lose weight - google it, I'm not making it up.

Feel free to disagree if you like.

 

[littlemiss83]

Everytime the 2 of us are involved in threads together we always disagree, it gets a bit boring.

I disagree with alot of things on the forum, I dont always type it out though. Sometimes its best just to post an opinion then leave it. You posted again on this thread to specifically say you thought I was wrong.

Not getting into yet another disagreement with you cosmic, i'm a bit fed up with it.

Why dont we just leave it as it is - im sure the people who read this are capable of making up their own decisions about BFing.

 

[knopk@]

Girls, I think you are arguing about different things - yes, breastfeeding burns calories but if oyu stuff yourself with cakes, it will cancel things out and you wont lose the weight.
Like with any other weightloss really - amount of calories in/out.

 

[cosmicgirl]

it is very boring - at last we agree on something.
I say on this thread that it helps with weight loss and uterus shrinkage and the two things you specifically say on your reply is "it absolutly doesnt help with weight loss and shrinkage", that is you calling me out imo.
I can disagree with whoever I want on here, I wasnt offensive and was polite. If that gets to you then click the ignore button. You are more than welcome to disagree with me but I do not expect the arsey comment in reply.

 

[cosmicgirl]

Girls, I think you are arguing about different things - yes, breastfeeding burns calories but if oyu stuff yourself with cakes, it will cancel things out and you wont lose the weight.
Like with any other weightloss really - amount of calories in/out.

100T% agree, you can burn 500 calories per day but nt if you put in 2000 in cakes and chocoate.

 

[littlemiss83]

Exactly as i said....its not guaranteed to lose weight.

Same as with Weight watchers/going to the gym/being on a diet ect ect

Its about cals in/cals out. You'd have to be following a healthy diet for it to work.