uncomfortable about breast feeding

[cosmicgirl]

Completely agree with augustmum, more support is needed. I was told by loads of people (including health professionals!) that because I was having twins that I should consider bottle feeding. I had bf my previous children and did not want to bottle feed. I did bf the twins and it was bloody hard but so worth it. I was so proud of myself but felt unsupported.
I agree about the need for more classes, there where none in my area!
A lot of people are saying that they want to let their partner help with feeding and that's why they want to bottle feed.
That is totally possible with bf, I expressed and even had some in the freezer so oh and my mum could help with feeding, particularly at night.
I believe bf also helped my twins immensely when they were in scbu, I'd be up and down to their incubators like a yoyo carrying tubs of milk like a milkman in the early hours! x

 

[Amyrose]

I am shocked at the hostility on this thread I think some people need training in how to behave towards others when they express different yet might i add valid accurate opinions.
In my opinion breast is best its what our bodies were designed to do. but if for what ever reason you choose not to breast feed then its your baby and your god given right to do so. I honestly dont see the need in trying to put down those who are breastfeeding just to validate your choice. At the moment society makes it very hard for breastfeeding mums and they face enough battles on a daily basis that mums who bottle feed dont face. I think we should be applauding these ladies rather then having cheap silly digs. we are all woman and should be standing united not here waiting to rip each other apart.

 

[BevG]

i agree with amy. i congratulate anyone who managed to BF as its not easy. it is nutritionally best for baby and even 2 weeks of doing it does boost LO's immune system. noone should feel bad for not being able to do it and if ppl dont want to thats their choice too but its not the ideal best for baby if its formula. i know this, if i end up having to formula feed it will be after a hard slog trying to bf. i do find the idea that some ppl are creeped out by the idea of feeding their baby from their boobs a bit ridiculous if im honest, it strikes me as really odd that ppl feel that way when they all know that is their purpose in the first place.


i dont think it should devolve into a tit for tat argument so lets all agree to disagree huh?

 

[Princess81]

Girls
we are keeping a close eye on this thread. It's very informative from both view points so we don't want to see it being closed. I appreciate that it's a very personal choice, but please, put your view points accross without jibing/rubbishing what other people think/feel.

 

[JoJo79]

Girls
we are keeping a close eye on this thread. It's very informative from both view points so we don't want to see it being closed. I appreciate that it's a very personal choice, but please, put your view points accross without jibing/rubbishing what other people think/feel.

I agree 100% i put my point across and until now havent commented further,

Personally i can see all sides even tho i dont want to bf and never have done or wanted to try it,

What i do find amusing (yes amusing) is that ive watched this thread descend into a "your wrong/im right" argument,

Dont any of you realise really its a waste of time arguing/getting frusted with a computer screen!

xxxx

 

[redbear]

Im not stressed at all, im simply pointing out my views on the matter,
I ment a diet of only solid foods, if you thought it was best for your son to continue to have your milk and everyone put you down for it you would stick up for yourself right? al im trying to say is people who bottlefeed even if they are told not to have the right to stick up for themselves too and are not always just 'giving up' or 'not trying'...
I think that when you say i shouldn't say why i don't agree with everything i.e allergies i tell you from personal experience i also think you shouldn't rely on what you read as a given fact i.e 'breast stop's cancer' well no it doesn't always it can only help so much as i said,
Im not having a go at you, you brest fed well done but please don't try put mothers who don't down because thats how it comes across when you say 'i struggled' etc it makes it sounds like the other mums just didn't bother and are not a good as you or something.

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

You dont let your kids drink? or is it just drinking milk you have a problem with? I am So confused...

 

[redbear]

hhhmmmm.... Ill try explain again- if the midwifes said he should not have your breast milk after say 3 years old but you wanted to then you would have the right to without people putting you down.... I never mentioned not letting children drink i think you are a bit confused lol.

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

Why would drinking my breast milk be any different to drinking a different type of milk? What is it about it that is odd for you? The fact its milk, or the fact its come from a breast?

If someone told me i 'shouldnt' give Jasper milk after a certain age, i would ask what the facts are. See you are getting fact confused with opinion. It might well be somebodies opinion that children over 3 should not breastfeed, but actually the facts show a different story

it is not opinion that breast milk is better than formula, it is fact. If you suggest you dont want to breastfeed and someone points out that it is better for the baby to have a nutrient rich, specially designed and constantly changing milk instead of a generic powder, they are not pointing out their opinion, they are pointing out a fact.

Its like someone saying 'the sky is blue' and you saying 'No its not, i dont like blue' regardless of if YOU like it or not, its still blue...

 

[redbear]

Ok i think your missing my point that a mum can do what they like and shouldn't be judged.

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

Tomorrow morning i think everyone who doesnt think fresh milk is better than powdered milk, should start eating cereal with powdered cows milk... after all, its no different... its 'only' milk...

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

Ok i think your missing my point that a mum can do what they like and shouldn't be judged.

That there are different facts surrounding what is BEST for a child is NOT judging. Its not opinion, its just facts. The sky being blue is not changable based on wether or not the person looking at it likes the colour blue. It Just Is

fresh, human milk is better for fresh, human babies than powdered cows milk! Its not a judgement or a dig, its just a fact. If the person who hears that decided to take it personally or as a dig, that is really their problem i am sorry

 

[Princess81]

Thread closed, pending review.