Ttc shit boat - long term ttcers

[lisey]

Clementine, I love it xx

 

[stacesl3]

Love it clementine!!

So.... found out on Saturaday that my neice is pregnant!!! Its the news i have been dreading, although was expecting it. I was at my mums on sat and my sis and her hibby turned up and my neice and her husband were with them so i knew straight off. To add insult to injury she is due in April 5th which was my due date of the baby i lost I mean come on universe thats just f888ing cruel!
I'm happy for them, just a bit miffed I guess. I know you ladies will understand.

I am officially fed up of bloody queue jumpers now though, I am taking a stand...whose with me?

 

[lisey]

Oh stace, its hard enough hearing an announcement but so much harder with the dates. For each of my pregnancies there has been someone in my family due around the same time and I have found it hard watching those pregnancies progress and the babies being born, knowing that its what I should be experiencing too xx

I am with you on taking a stand, I am there in protest of all the queue jumpers xx

 

[stacesl3]

Yeah it does make it worse i think, especially at is progresses. The only thing that will help is if i were to get my bfp soon....not quite sure of that happening though

Cool, I'm gonna make a banner!! maybe we can go on a protest march lol

 

[lisey]

Oh I really hope it does happen soon stace x

Yes make a big huge banner that is impossible to miss and we can all go on a pf protest march xx

 

[snowbee]

Nightmare stace, we have had the same with my husbands best friend, his wife is due on my due date. I'll join on the march, come on ltttc bfps it must be our turn now!

 

[Clementine]

I can understand were you all coming from as sometimes it seems like everyone else is pregnant however I just can't begrudge people who are lucky enough to fall pregnant quickly. I would hate if I got pregnant and someone was looking at me thinking why not them instead of me (as they don't know me or my story). I think we should celebrate every girl who can have a trouble free bfp and pregnancy as I would not wish this heartache and disappointment on anyone else.
It's tough, it's crap, we don't deserve to be in the LTTTC but the hard reality is whether or not someone else gets pregnant quickly or not doesn't change my reality. Mother Nature or God can seem very cruel and I can understand how gutted you must have felt Staces especially as her due date is the same (it would have winded me to hear that news).
Before I started TTC I never noticed who was or wasn't pregnant however I know I would not swap my life with anybody else, I may not be blessed with a baby (at nearly 43 I'm well aware of my age constraints) but I have been blessed with so many other things - when I see someone in my family, at work, in a shop or on the street that is pregnant or has a baby this is just one part of their lives they may have huge stresses or other problems I know nothing about. So I wish them well (and I know you all do to)
I want us all to get our own happy endings - so to all.
ps I don't mean to offend anyone with my post and I know you would all be delighted if one of us gets our bfp it's just across the threads this topic has come up a number of times and I felt it was worth voicing a slightly different slant on it xx

 

[snowbee]

I don't think anyone is begrudging someone else's pregnancy, more commenting on the kick in the heart you feel and the jealousy pangs as you have to see people hitting the milestones that you would have been had things turned out differently.

 

[stacesl3]

Not offended at all hun, that's a nice way of looking at things. I think like snowbee said its not so much begrudging people its more that initial feeling you get....for me its actually a physical sensation, like when both the girls in work announced their pregnancy i felt like a panicking sensation and my heart would beat really fast and i wanted to cry, I dont want to feel that way but its something i cant help. It doesn't mean I'm not happy for them though, I cant begrudge anyone their happiness. It is also a bit of the old green eyed monster if I'm honest, I dont want to be jealous of anyone else and its an emotion I try and ignore but sometimes the feeling is just there.
I was genuinely happy for my neice and her hubby and we even sat and chatted about names and stuff, i think the whole date thing was a bit of kick in the teeth, but its something I will get used to I suppose.

I'm still gonna arrange a protest march though lol on a serious note I want you ladies to get your bfp's as much as I want it for myself, like clementine says lets hope its happy endings all round xx

 

[PurpleCloud]

Sometimes it's just nice to have a rant and make a joke of a crappy situation. Laughter is sometimes the best and only way through heartache without going crazy. How are all you ladies doing? What's new? I have been getting insanely stressed over work. I don't even get stressed, I'm quite laid back but recently the rage is taking over me! Lol! Xx

 

[Hopeful75]

Evening ladies,
Hope you're all ok. Love the poem Clementine! And I understand the jolt when you find out someone is due on a significant date Stace. Don't know if people know about this, but as several of us have loved and lost... the miscarriage association has a baby loss awareness day on 15th Oct. You can use the daysthatmatter.org.uk site to commemorate a specific day, or just tell your story, or say how you commemorate your angel(s). Thought it was a lovely idea. I got a keyring made for myself and the oh - a simple heart with 4sets of footprints and 'never forgotten' on it. I wasn't brave enough for a tattoo!
Anyway, just thought I'd share. Love and dust to all, I'm still waiting for company in the lifeboat.

 

[sandygems]

That sounds a lovely website hopeful I'll def have a look tonight.

I can understand others being happy when other are pregnant but I do just feel a real kick to the stomach and heart every time. I worry in case others pregnancies don't work out like mine didn't and worry that I'll never have a baby again, one that I get to keep forever. I just feel so jealous and as much as I am pleased or others I do wish it was me. I would never wish my heart break on someone else and we can never know everyone's story or what struggled they had in life but my heart says my struggle is worse. My heart says come on now it's surely my turn! My head has a quieter voice which says be happy for them, it will be your turn soon. It's so hard juggling those two! I have just started counselling tho so maybe soon I'll be able to see and hear of others falling pregnant quickly without being so hurt x

 

[Clementine]

That sounds a lovely website hopeful I'll def have a look tonight.

I can understand others being happy when other are pregnant but I do just feel a real kick to the stomach and heart every time. I worry in case others pregnancies don't work out like mine didn't and worry that I'll never have a baby again, one that I get to keep forever. I just feel so jealous and as much as I am pleased or others I do wish it was me. I would never wish my heart break on someone else and we can never know everyone's story or what struggled they had in life but my heart says my struggle is worse. My heart says come on now it's surely my turn! My head has a quieter voice which says be happy for them, it will be your turn soon. It's so hard juggling those two! I have just started counselling tho so maybe soon I'll be able to see and hear of others falling pregnant quickly without being so hurt x

Hi Sandygems, just wanted to send you a giant hug, to lose your baby so close to full term is heartbreaking. I thought you voiced the dilemma between heart and head really well and I fully understand your feelings of hurt. I think the counseling will give you ways to help cope with your loss. Take care of you and don't give up on the belief that you turn will come. xxxx

 

[Clementine]

Evening ladies,
Hope you're all ok. Love the poem Clementine! And I understand the jolt when you find out someone is due on a significant date Stace. Don't know if people know about this, but as several of us have loved and lost... the miscarriage association has a baby loss awareness day on 15th Oct. You can use the daysthatmatter.org.uk site to commemorate a specific day, or just tell your story, or say how you commemorate your angel(s). Thought it was a lovely idea. I got a keyring made for myself and the oh - a simple heart with 4sets of footprints and 'never forgotten' on it. I wasn't brave enough for a tattoo!
Anyway, just thought I'd share. Love and dust to all, I'm still waiting for company in the lifeboat.

Hi Hopeful that is a very nice idea, a friend give me two little glass angels in boxes when I had MMC with twins I put my scan pictures at 8weeks in each box. I only have my positive hpt's from my first MMC so I might get the keyring made as it's a lovely way to remember. Last week I felt overwhelmed by my age and had a meltdown in front of my Mum saying I'll never be a Mum and she pointed out that I was a already a Mum to 3 angel babies - it didn't make me feel better at the time but I think she has a point as I have experienced how attached and protective you feel of your baby bean from the very start. I'm still hoping to have a healthy baby so FX we'll be joining you on that lifeboat soon xxx

Ps great to read all went really well at your early scan x

 

[stacesl3]

Morning ladies, how are the waters looking today?
Hey purple, sorry your getting stressed over work are you able to take a few days or something maybe, that may help?
Hopeful - will defo have a look at that website, sounds lovely. And I am hoping that one of us can join you in that life boat very soon. x
sandygems - I agree with you re the head and heart thing. I hope your counselling helps x
clem - oh god i am always having meldowns about my age. There are some days where I am just convinced I wont be a mum, then have to mentally slap myself and change my attitude. JUst have to keep beleiving it will happen. Gets harder though x

 

[lisey]

That sounds like a lovely idea hopeful, I think its helpful to remember our little ones. I got myself a lavish locket and got the three birthstones of when my babies should have been born to put inside.
Purple, I am the same, so stressed lately, I have been getting headaches every day and I think its related to my stress and anxiety levels.
Sandygems, I really hope the counselling helps, sending you love and hugs. It is so hard not to feel that jealously and worry, I think its completely normal to have those feelings.

It seems we are all struggling a bit lately, I really hope we all get to have our dreams come true very soon. I am trying to stay positive but its incredibly hard and I am in a slump of negativity that I can't seem to pull myself out of. I just don't feel very happy lately or find any enjoyment in anything. Ttc and its obstacles have sucked the life out of me I think. Work isn't helping matters either. Need to find my happy hat and tell myself it can happen xx

 

[PurpleCloud]

I know exactly what you mean lisey. Hang in there. Will be worth it in the end.

Yep Stace, I'm taking Monday off for a long weekend.

 

[stacesl3]

Hi ladies

Gosh we all seem so down in the dumps lately dont we! I think we need an excursion off this boat. How about a remote exotic island, where its sunny all day and we can just lie round the pool completely chilled out, where we are served cocktails all day by sexy half naked men who wants to sign up??

Purple, you've given me an idea...i think i might take monday off as well!
x

 

[dolly26]

Staces that sounds like a fab idea sign me up I deffo need it between work being really busy and the bloody witch catching me today it's just wat I need lol mines a tequila sunrise

 

[Clementine]

Hi Staces I'm all for an exotic island break �� - palm trees ������, sunshine ��, bikinis��cocktails ������, dancing��
and friends ��