Ttc shit boat - long term ttcers

[Sugarpop]

Well ladies I'm still on this bloody thing! My AF hasn't showed (unless it was the brown spotting?) No idea when I'll be getting off at this rate either!

Any af ? Or any chance of a bfp? X.

IC says BFN. Still no AF so not sure whether the brown spotting was it! Going to try and get a gp appointment tomorrow. Had a few kidney twinges and my wee wee has been discoloured the last couple of days. Thinking its an infection somewhere

 

[snowbee]

Hi sandygems, of course you are welcome here. Sorry to hear about your little girl that must be awful for you to have experienced.

My husband has also had mumps and he had undescended testicles as a child so he was really worried that he had a problem. He has been more hopeful since we did get pg that we can do it again. Not had his sperm results yet even though he did both samples months ago, the policy at the clinic here is to give results at the appointments and they won't tell you before then. Hopefully you will get your results much sooner than us!

 

[Beckyb1991]

Can I jump on? ttc for 20 months. doctors won't do anything because I'm 23 and apparently too young. Feeling extremely disheartened. my oh is being a know ... waaaaaaa

 

[stacesl3]

Morning all

Welcome aboard sandygems and beckyb sorry to hear about your little girl sandygems, i've suffered an early loss and that was horrific, I cant even imagine what it must be like for you. xx
Ugh doctors! You are either too young, too old, too single, have a child already etc etc etc.... there is always something! It's easy to feel disheartened, I dont see why they cant send you for blood tests if you have been trying for over a year?? I would keep on at them.

I am back at work this week after a week off, it was lovely, I did feel rested until I came back to loads of emails and loads of crap ugh.

 

[Bethyboo87]

Can I jump on? ttc for 20 months. doctors won't do anything because I'm 23 and apparently too young. Feeling extremely disheartened. my oh is being a know ... waaaaaaa

What!!!? Really? Oh hun that's shit. I didn't think there was an age limit, but I guess I got looked at as I lost an ovary and tube when I was 24 (I'm 26 now). Where are you in your cycle? I'm cd7 today, starting another round of the clearblue trial tomorrow xx

 

[snowbee]

Feeling crap. Another day and another friend announces a pregnancy. As usual feel jealous then bad about feeling jealous about it! Ridiculous but right now I just want to cry.

 

[Beckyb1991]

I am changing doctors soon so wish me luck xxx

 

[Hopeful75]

Hello ladies and welcome on board to the newbies! Please remember that lifeboats are on all decks to support a quick departure for anyone who manages a bfp, alternatively a wide range of cocktails are available in the bar to drown the witch with when she arrives! Oh- and the sailors are all easy on the eye to make the wait a little more bearable!
It seems like we've all had rollercoaster weeks- I had a fantastic weekend but gutted we only dtd once (tmi as to why!). Then I've had to go out and buy a gift for a girl in my dept who starts maternity leave on Wed, exactly when I should have been starting mine. Bleurghhh this boat gets me down sometimes!
Chin up ladies, onwards and upwards as they say!

 

[Beckyb1991]

Hello ladies and welcome on board to the newbies! Please remember that lifeboats are on all decks to support a quick departure for anyone who manages a bfp, alternatively a wide range of cocktails are available in the bar to drown the witch with when she arrives! Oh- and the sailors are all easy on the eye to make the wait a little more bearable!
It seems like we've all had rollercoaster weeks- I had a fantastic weekend but gutted we only dtd once (tmi as to why!). Then I've had to go out and buy a gift for a girl in my dept who starts maternity leave on Wed, exactly when I should have been starting mine. Bleurghhh this boat gets me down sometimes!
Chin up ladies, onwards and upwards as they say!

First thing to make me smile all day xxx

 

[stacesl3]

Feeling crap. Another day and another friend announces a pregnancy. As usual feel jealous then bad about feeling jealous about it! Ridiculous but right now I just want to cry.

I'm right there with you!! Now my boss has just announced she is pregnant again! So thats two of the girls in my office, there's only 4 of us in my office including me! if the other girl gets pregnant any time soon I'm bloody walking out!!!! I hate feeling jealous but i am, i cant help it. I wanted it to be me and to sound even more like a cow i'm worried how this will affect me.... two girls now will be going on maternity leave

If/when i do get my bfp, I will actually feel guilty now telling work as that will be 3 of us out of action!

Sorry for the depressing post! I think i may go find some of those cocktails and maybe a sailor or two...

 

[LittleDalla]

Thought I would squeeze in if that's okay? We have been trying for two years now, even though it doesn't feel that long due to PCOS so have not been able to TTC every month religiously. Which is a big pain, cause I feel like I moan a lot!
When I got diagnosed with PCOS I was palmed off with a print out from my GP. I didn't know where I stood, if there was any treatment, if it could be cured, or even what it meant. AF was very regular until one time it didn't show for 6 month. Plucked up the courage to go back to GP and mention TTC etc, got referred to our Fertility Clinic, but when we attended we were told we wouldn't even be put on the waiting list until I was 23 and at this point I was only 20. We then received a letter a few weeks later telling us we would have to go private as same sex couples are not classed as infertile. I'm sorry I don't mean to offend but I do not agree with that!

Anyways, we decided to join forums, websites etc and find our own donor, had a few donations etc, some guess work wit OV, but with irregular cycles on top, it started to affect us and decided we needed to take a break, 1 year after using a donor. Which lasted 2 cycles. Started again, same routine.
Earlier this year I decided I really need to do something about this, booked a GP appointment, at my new practice. Seen a Junior Doctor, who in fact was so much more helpful compared to your normal Doctors who have been there years. Told her everything, length we had been TTC etc, how we were 'doing it', told her that I joined my local SW and at that point I have lost one and a half stone, prove to her that I am trying to help myself with stil a long journey ahead. Anyways, she kindly referred me to a specialist, had my bloods taken, Specialist talked us through everything, has put me on Metformin for 3 month, until next App. And they have help so much, I'm OVing properly when he told me not to expect miricles it will take 3 month to work, one month in and I'm extatic that I'm ovulating! Just need that swimmer to meet the egg and stick

Sorry about the length of this post girls, felt a little relieved to just type and type!
Good luck to you all

 

[Andreax2]

Hi ladies - can I join you? I'm ttc pregnancy number two, but everything crossed that the baby w make will make it home with us. We first began ttc in April 2012, fell after only three on this but sadly my little girl was born sleeping in feb 2013. We were given the go ahead to ttc in May 2013 but in July that year we were told to stop as I was diagnose with rare auto immune disease (which caused us to lose our baby). We began trying again officially in jan this year (tho pins fom
October we were dtd at the right time of the month so ntnp) so adding all months up we've been trying this time or 10 months but really since April 2012 to bring a baby home! We are so desperate to be parents, we have everything a baby needs (I still havnt been able to put our baby things up in the loft).

On Friday we went to the dr and explained we were concerned about fertility. My immune disease began when I was pregnant and I worry it stopping us from falling pregnant again. My oh had mumps at 21 and so he's really worries it's him. Thankfully after a few tears the dr agreed to some bloods and sperm analysis. So I'll be getting 21 day bloods done next week I think. I'm worried in case the results show something is wrong but also worried in case they don't show anything too!

Iv seen this thread a few times and thought about joining but because I've fallen pregnant before didn't know whether I would fit? But since it's now taking us a while this time round I hope I'm ok to join you all! X

Ur more than welcome in here with us lovely xx good luck with ur tests xx

 

[Andreax2]

Welcome 2 all the newbies !!
Well not much 2 report here 2/3 dpo and not much bding this month so thinking already about next cycle !
Good luck 2 the soy ladies , I really think it made my ov a lot stronger and felt ov pain in both sides which iv never had b4 ! Fx 4 the 2wwers xx

 

[Rooster30]

Just wanted to pop my head in and wish everyone here all the very best of luck and hope it happens for you soon.

I've only been TTC for 3 months and already frustrated, but this must be nothing compared to what you are all going through.

Shifting in an extra load of baby dust for you all. Good luck

 

[stacesl3]

Thanks Rooster x

Welcome LittleDalla - I was told my doctor last year (in not so many words) that you have to meet certain requirements to be referred... i.e, under a certain age, m/f relationship, so basically if you are gay, single, too young or too old you're screwed! I fall in the 'too old' category so I'm not entitled to any help otgher than the standard blood tests. It sucks!!! I understand they have to have guidelines but you shouldn't be discriminated against.

Andrea - you are only a few days behind me I think im 6dpo today, its really dragging, I have pretty much written myself off this month for various reasons.

xx

 

[Andreax2]

I hear u staces , I know I'm out anyway won't stop me looking 4 symptoms !!
How's every1 doing ? X

 

[stacesl3]

I always think getting symptoms early on is never a good sign as its just too early to be preg related, I've had tingly/sore ish boobs since OV day and never a good sign for me!

I'm already planning for next cycle lol!

 

[PurpleCloud]

Hey ladies, how are things? The witch has just left me. Felt a bit blah about it. Thought I'd done enough. Whine, moan, winge! Lol! What have I missed while I've been in a box of my own self pity.

 

[snowbee]

Hi purplecloud, me too. Have also finished taking my soy for this cycle and now it is just wait and see if it worked as it is looking like that is going to be our only hope.

Had a disappointing day, we saw our consultant for all of 10 minutes. We still didn't get to look at any of our results, he went on for ages about the chemicals my husband works with adversely affecting sperm and then said his sperm test was perfect. The only comment he made on my bloods was that one test had been missed off and gave me a form to get some more taken. Then he said I was too fat, that was why we were finding ttc difficult and that was why I had a mc. He then said he would see us again in 6 months when I was thin and then they would 'deal with' my pcos. Great. I know I am fat but I'm not that big (I'm a 14-16). Feeling pretty awful right now and that it is all my fault that we are in this situation.

 

[PurpleCloud]

Oh Hun. I know maintaining a healthy weight and eating well is a good thing but why do they blame any problem on either smoking or being over weight? As if it's a revelation and you had no idea! If losing weight was easy then nobody would be over weight. He can't know what caused your mc. Some doctors can be so insensitive. I'm sorry Hun. Don't blame yourself or let your consultant make you feel that way. Thinking of you Hun. Xx