So upset desperate for advice.

[DaisyPurple]

I always think the worst too, Im so paranoid but its just not something he would normally do.
Should I go through his phonebill?x

sigh!


hunny, it was a nice thing he did maybe he was trying to remind you of him, please dont ruin your relationship through paranoia go see him and stop him from leaving! x

 

[FebMum2Be]

I can't add much more than the girls have said already I think you should go talk to him.. x

 

[xshauna_bazx]

Hunny you are stunning! You have no need to feel like a fat minger! I don't think it was meant for someone else...and i am the paranoid type too, would it make you feel better if you went through his phone bill? In my opinion i would to put my mind at rest but i really don't think you have anything to worry about! I am having a bit of trouble with OH too at the min, i have posted in girly room...i think its the hormones making things worse xxx

 

[amandapanda]

I think you should give him the benefit of the doubt as you don't really have any proof of anything. He's not showing all the classic signs of being sneaky and secretive.....and I myself certainly have gone through phases where my pregnancy hormones have made me ultra paranoid about my husbands behaviour...I almost convinced myself he was leading some kind of double life!! But when the hormones lifted I could see how absolutely crazy I was being and you can read far too much into totally innocent behaviour and twist it into something terrible. Seriously I'd talk to him....give him a chance and see what he says.....xxx

 

[cosmicgirl]

I saw him but we didnt speak about it. I kicked him out.
Im so torn, i dont want to be one of those women who just gets taken for an idiot but i also have no other reason not to trust him.
He doesnt know i have all his email & facebook passwords etc & ive never found anything on there.
He leaves his phone lying round & I use it sometimes which he isnt bothered by but i just dont know if im being hormonal & paranoid because i feel such a fat minger that hes looking elsewhere?
x

Hi honey, hope you don't mind me nipping in but must post as I have been in your situation. My partner was cheating and the pic wasn't for me BUT..... he would always have his phone close to his chest, I wasn't allowed to see/use it, I knew he was up to something, he was very twitchy around his phone and email. I think if he's open with his phone, nothing dodgy on his email or fb (and he doesn't know you have access so maybe wouldn't delete messages etc) I think it probably was for you babe x

 

[Lexusno1]

To be honest I don't think any of us can say if he's been up to something or not. He could be doing something he shouldnt or a lovely man tryin to cheer up his woman? The only way you will have a better understanding is by speaking to him. You will know him best and whether he's lying when you ask him questions or not.

I really hope this is nothing but pesky hormones Gettin the better of you but you won't feel right until you speak to him honestly and frankly.

Big hugs to you and hope you feel better about things soon xx

 

[Cantstop]

I would say if he is totally innocent his reaction to your reaction should show you, can't really explain what I mean very well there but I hope you see what I mean.

Also though, if he doesn't know you know his passwords and you've still not found anything AND you can root through his phone whenever and he's not at all shifty about it, he's probably not being suspicious.

 

[nmf1987]

im also very paranoid but after reading all this thread i would say it was pretty innocent hun. my ex was going behind my back and wouldn't let me anywhere near his phone. when i did get hold of it i found messages i wish i had never seen.

talk to him. xxx

 

[pinkymum]

Hope you're ok and have a had a chance to talk to him
X x x x

 

[cherelle]

I hope youve managed to sort things out!

It certainly sounds from an outsiders perspective like he hasnt done anything wrong. In my opinion i think its dangerous to be finding out all his private info, going through facebook, phone bills etc because its ditrusting behaviour like that that can actually drive people away. I think its best just to be open and honest about how you feel xx

 

[Vicxzy]

No I'm not ok, thanks for all your advice ladies but hes gone, moved out & even taken the cat with him.
He just went mad with me for not trusting him as he insists he hasnt done anything wrong or given me any reason not to trust him.
I dont know what im going to do now x

 

[cherelle]

Oh babe. When did he go, this evening? Maybe give him tonight to calm down and call him in the morning and apologise? Explain how youre feeling and obvs that every feeling is a million times worse with pregnancy hormones running wild! Did you ask him to stay?? Maybe he wanted you to kick up a fuss and not let him leave - to show how much you want/need him? Everyone needs to feel wanted x

 

[Cantstop]

Sorry to hear that hun. I know it won't seem like it at the minute or be any comfort right now, but the dust WILL settle and you will be able to have a proper chat soon - you're pregnant, you've had a really rough time of it and your hormones are all over the place. I'm sure he'll calm down and come round

 

[Rósa]

Give him a text, explain you are sorry, from what you put I don't think you have reason to be suspicious, which is probably why he has got mad, Apologise to him explain its your hormones and hopefully he will talk to you

 

[nmf1987]

i really think you need to talk to him hun.

i think without thinking we all take alot if not all our attention off or oh's and concentrate on baby etc.

maybe he is feeling a little neglected and that's why he sent the pic as a look im still here.

it's so hard for us as we have alot of concerns about baby etc that they don't understand as we are the ones carrying them but they also do and we know what men are like for speaking out about how they feel.

i'm sure you will sort it out. always here xxxx

 

[mumofmany]

Oh sweetheart these hormones play hell with us. but from experience you either have to learn to trust or walk away, i was the one not trusted in my last relationship and in the end i had had enough and then kissed someone behind his back i got the blame for it all the time so thought may aswell do something to get th agro for. I was younger then and know its not right. Just wanted to try and give you some persective from other side. tell him its just your hormones that make you this way, My husband knows what i'm like when i'm pregnant but to be fair in my last pregnancy i caught a girl kissing him and even though i witnessed him push her away and fell to the floor, i had real problems with it and he shouldn't have even let her get her lips near, it took me a while to trust him again but i knew that i had to make a decision either put it behind me and move on or let it part us. i realy do feel for you and hope he comes round.

 

[amandapanda]

Awww so sorry hun....try not to stress too much. Like the others say...he's angry right now but the dust will settle in a day or so and you'll be able to talk sensibly. You're having his baby....I'm sure he'll think about it and not want to walk away so easily. Just give it a little time and take care of yourself and baby for now xxx

 

[FebMum2Be]

Hope you're feeling a little better today hun x

 

[nadine]

awwwww, well if im honest he should be more of a man and have more of an understanding that pregnant woman arent as ratinal as normal, and not been so eger to get out the door, and take the cat wtf??!!

i can understand, no one likes to be acused of some if they havent done it, but you have all this added emotion an hormones running threw your vains, so its to be expected if you get some thing out of the blue ie that pic, its going to get ur mind racing........he should know this or at least try to understand

i would just leave things for a day or two and see what he dose, if hes still being head strong an stubborn an not talking to you, you need to talk to him, but as i said im my earlier post, you know him best, its ok people sayin it could be hormones an he could just be being nice, he very well might be but you know n have your gut feelings................x x x good luck hunni bee

 

[Lou_1]

id prob agree with Nadine think its a bit much taking the cat... Everybody pregnant or not have these times when they think to much into situations and defo being pregnant makes it 10 times worse, he should have given u a bit of a chance to explain last night..

Agree that only u will really know what hes doing if it was hi being nice or more but go with ur gut and take it from there

Its a lot of stress for u hun so please take care x