i need some advice please.... when i first told my best friend i was pg, we went through a really tough time. She really really wants kids and although she is happy for me, it was clear that she really struggled with it. If i am honest, i underestimated how hard it would hit her, she admitted she was jealous but that she was dealing with it. She said some things to me that were pretty hurtful, she made me feel like the worst person in the world for being pg and that i was inconsiderate because i didnt take her feelings about my pregnancy into account. She also made comments about my OH and I's previous lifestyle choices (we were quite the party animals if you know what i mean) and that she didnt think my OH would be able to give that up, and if he didnt she would have to intervene because thats her job (she's a social worker). We seemed to work through it, despite her telling me that she might not be able to handle it when the baby came and really has tried to get involved. Last week she told me that she felt i had withdrawn from her over the last few months, she has been ill and i havent been round to see her all the time. I have told her that things are very different, that i have been tired a lot and have a lot going on. Its almost as if she feels that our relationship should be exactly the same, even though she knows it cant be because my priorities have changed. I told her i had backed off because of what she had said when she first found out i was pg, and that i wouldnt be able to deal with it if i had the baby and then she turned round and told me she couldnt handle it, in the way or timescale she would expect because i would have the baby. She txt me at 4am this morning to tell me to leave her alone unless i hadanything worthwhile to say. I have been trying to contact her all over xmas. My OH thinks I should leave it, that I have enough to deal with, and if I am honest i think i knew this would happen, that as i approached due date or even after i would say or do something that would upset her, i dont think i could have won, when i have backed off i dont care, and when i have seen her and talked about the pregnancy i have been patronising. sorry for long post but I need some female advice, she has been my closest friend for 9 years, and i really wanted her to be part of this but i dont know if i can take anymore. and for the record my OH has been fantastic!