Sorry it's not that pregnancy related but it was a toss up between texting her or writing in here. Basically when I first found out I was pregnant my friend announced she was pregnant, but unfortunately 4 days later she text to say she miscarried, this was back in sept. Then she text me on 4 Dec to say she is pregnant again and I was so happy for her. She told me she was about 9 weeks. After Xmas I asked if she had had her 12 week scan to which she said no and she was blaming it on Xmas post. I thought this was a good reason and thought nothing of it. She text me last fri to say she was having a scan mon just gone but when I text her mon she said she was too tired to go so rearranged it for fri. I asked her what time and she said 3pm. I replied and said I would see her there as I have a scan at 2.30. She then text to say I jinxed her as the hosp phoned her to change her scan to next thurs. I really don't want to think this way but I can't help but think she is lying. She has changed since being with her new fella and as he younger I'm wondering if she is trying to keep him? She has not told anyone else she is pregnant, yet I can't help but wonder why she would lie? I'm probably reading too much into it but stuff is not adding up. She has not even booked to see a midwife and by now she is well over 12 weeks. I am supposed to see her over weekend but don't feel like it as I want to tell her lying about a baby is a childish and stupid game to play. It's sounds like school ground stuff but it is winding me up as I'm worried she will say she lost it
an I will have to act supportive. What would u do?
Well seems my suspicions were right. She text yesterday to say she was bleeding really heavy and knew she was losing baby. As she doesn't drive I went over and told her I would take her to hosp. When me and OH arrived she was outside playing in the snow with a neighbour. Her face dropped when i pulled up. I told her she should be resting and she said what is point baby died. I told her she needs to get checked out to which she said she was fine and just viewing it as a cycle!!!! I then just said "you were never pregnant were you" and she replied saying no and that she was just trying to keep her OH. I told her if she can't keep her OH by being herself it is not worth it and that pretending to be sick and miscarry is worse. Se admitted that she lied the first time to see how her OH would react to a baby and as he was caring it made her want his attention like that again. My OH told her to stay away from us and I just stood there crying as I knew I lost a long term friend. It's sad but I'm so angry she could be so flippant over a little baby and disrespectful to women who have actually gone through the horror of a miscarriage.she has text to say she is sorry but I just told her she had her reasons but I don't understand and I would rather just leave things ad move on as she seems to have changed for the worse and I want nice friends so close to baby not drama. Going to miss her.
an I will have to act supportive. What would u do?
Well seems my suspicions were right. She text yesterday to say she was bleeding really heavy and knew she was losing baby. As she doesn't drive I went over and told her I would take her to hosp. When me and OH arrived she was outside playing in the snow with a neighbour. Her face dropped when i pulled up. I told her she should be resting and she said what is point baby died. I told her she needs to get checked out to which she said she was fine and just viewing it as a cycle!!!! I then just said "you were never pregnant were you" and she replied saying no and that she was just trying to keep her OH. I told her if she can't keep her OH by being herself it is not worth it and that pretending to be sick and miscarry is worse. Se admitted that she lied the first time to see how her OH would react to a baby and as he was caring it made her want his attention like that again. My OH told her to stay away from us and I just stood there crying as I knew I lost a long term friend. It's sad but I'm so angry she could be so flippant over a little baby and disrespectful to women who have actually gone through the horror of a miscarriage.she has text to say she is sorry but I just told her she had her reasons but I don't understand and I would rather just leave things ad move on as she seems to have changed for the worse and I want nice friends so close to baby not drama. Going to miss her.
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