My mother is visiting from the US until September. This was planned before I knew I would be having a baby in August. Before I had mentioned homebirth to my her, she would always talk about how she would not be in the labour suite with me because she wouldn't be able to handle it (seeing me in distress and also she had to have a section) and because she wouldn't have wanted her mother to be there. She squirms at anything painful looking on television, and gets stressed and takes it personally when I am uncomfortable. I mentioned homebirth in general a while ago and she seemed very sceptical...
Now, I am most likely having a homebirth. I had assumed that things wouldn't change just because I wouldn't be in a hospital room, and I suggested we look into nearby B&Bs for when I go into labour. I think I would really rather her go somewhere anyway because this is something between my husband and me (and my midwives I suppose haha). When I brought it up, though, she acted hurt and started saying things to make me feel guilty about not wanting her there. I explained my reasoning and she said she could stay in her room.
I don't want her to just shut herself in her room! Well, for one thing I doubt she would just stay in there because she would be too curious and concerned, but also I would feel stressed about how she's doing when I should be focussing on myself. She just makes me feel guilty anytime I try to bring it up. I really don't know what to do. Does anyone have any suggestions?
Now, I am most likely having a homebirth. I had assumed that things wouldn't change just because I wouldn't be in a hospital room, and I suggested we look into nearby B&Bs for when I go into labour. I think I would really rather her go somewhere anyway because this is something between my husband and me (and my midwives I suppose haha). When I brought it up, though, she acted hurt and started saying things to make me feel guilty about not wanting her there. I explained my reasoning and she said she could stay in her room.
I don't want her to just shut herself in her room! Well, for one thing I doubt she would just stay in there because she would be too curious and concerned, but also I would feel stressed about how she's doing when I should be focussing on myself. She just makes me feel guilty anytime I try to bring it up. I really don't know what to do. Does anyone have any suggestions?