separation anxiety

[isobel84]

I find it really hard to be away from noa. If he's with demba its ok, but that's it. I don't trust anyone with him. When I was in Sweden I broke down cuz my sister was gonna take Noa to the playground on her own. In the end I didn't let her go. I have left Noa twice to go to cinema with demba but I hate it.

I'm soooo scared something will happend to him. I'm not over protective when I'm with him, I don't fuzz with him, never have done. It's just when he's with someone else.

Is this normal?

 

[ZMD]

Aww Hun im the same i HATE leaving Tegan, i went out friday night and kept texting OH to make sure she was ok, i've got to go to hospital next month OH will be working so Tegan will be staying with my best mate im dreading leaving her xx

 

[Lulu_Laroo]

I hate leaving poppy with anyone but absolutely force myself to do it as I know I have to leave her at some point! I don't mind leaving her with OH, but my mother in law now takes her for a couple of hours each week and she practically has to fight me to get me to let go of her! I then go out to the car with them, kiss her loads, triple-check she's in her car seat properly, give MIL a huge set of instructions to follow, do's and don'ts etc (I'm sure I drive her mad) and then when they've gone I usually shed a few tears and have to keep myself really busy whilst she's gone.
I understand I have to do it though, as it gives me a chance to blitz the house and have that precious 'me' time that we all need, whether we like to admit it or not! So I think it's definitely normal to feel this way hun xx

 

[Lacey's Mummy]

I've only just started to relax with Lacey and she's 5! Its completely normal! There's no way I'd let anyone take charley out on their own yet, only tim's allowed x.

 

[Lulu_Laroo]

There's no way I'd let anyone take charley out on their own yet, only tim's allowed x.

This makes me feel like I really shouldn't be letting my MIL take Poppy. I hate her going! I might stop doing it for a while. I just know it will cause uproar.

 

[Esoames]

I dint even trust my oh all the time! Lol, I trust the child minder more than my family xx

 

[tinkerbell86]

I'm exacty the same!both mums keep asking when they can have him overnight and I don't see the need to as h is a good baby! We do probably need to go out once a month maybe for the evening but tbh were both collapses on the sofa at 8pm once baby is in bed! I'm again not possessive over him but I worry so much about leaving him with other people!

 

[riotfox]

I'm so pleased other people are like this. I don't mind leaving him with OH but I really don't want to leave him with other people. I've only left him with OH so far an that was only a short time. I will have to in February as I'll be going back to work. xx

 

[riotfox]

I also make sure we go lots of places and meet other people so he is used to other people and not just looking at me all day lol. xx

 

[isobel84]

I'm planning on going to Sweden in januari, only Fri-sun but that means Noa needs a babysitter Friday and will be with demba sat and sun. I'm doing it only to show myself he will be ok. But I'm dreading it

 

[don-don]

Hey ladies,

My lo stays at my mums twice a month over night. I trust her more than my OH lol. I do think its important to find someone who you really trust, and feel completely happy with. Because everyone needs some 'me' time. My Lo loves staying at nana's and i love having a little time to myself...perfect xxxx

 

[Amy_J]

im exactly the same! alhough we dont have family here and lo is with us 24.7. sometime i think it would be nice to haveme or us time, but when we do get the chance not often, i either dont take them up on it, or end up spending half the night ringing or texting to see how he is! x

 

[Pudds86]

ditto!!! hate hate hate it. only trust my mom and dad with him. xx

 

[Pudds86]

oh and OH obvs! x

 

[Piglet's Mama]

I am the worst! I don't even like my husband taking her out, in fact he's only done it twice & Brooke is 2 months tomorrow!
I have come to the conclusion though that I don't care! She's my baby, she's ultimately my responsibility, plus she's still so teeny so I don't see why I should leave her & upset myself to please someone else. For as long as I can I want her with me, in 7 months time I'll have to leave her to go back to work so why would I leave her now when I don't have to?
Xx

 

[lanny]

I would leave any of mine with o/h even over night I don't worry at all, but I would worry like crazy with other ppl, I don't think I would if done if they had left me from day one but nobody has eva had them so I'm not use to it,
I really don't think it is good for the child tho both monty and dolly have found starting school really hard, monty now 6 finds it hard to go on
His own to friends houses and I feel so sorry for him if I had the chance to leave them now and again I really would it has done me and them no good been stuck to each other all day everyday xxxx

 

[Lulu_Laroo]

I really don't think it is good for the child tho both monty and dolly have found starting school really hard, monty now 6 finds it hard to go on
His own to friends houses and I feel so sorry for him if I had the chance to leave them now and again I really would it has done me and them no good been stuck to each other all day everyday xxxx

This is something I worry about also. When I go back to work I don't want her screaming her little heart out when I leave her in somebody elses care because she's only used to being with me, that would break my heart even more than leaving her now!

 

[twinkle84]

I'm the same! Sometimes I think I've got a prob! I work 3 days a week and I hate it that he's with other people! It's not so much I don't trust them I just want him close by with me! Last week hubby and his parents took LO to a zoo for the day while I was at work! Hated every min! Some things don't help tho, the other day MIL brought him home and the car seat wasn't in right! So unsafe I was so upset and the then when I got in from work other day he was with OH and he was burning up, I was like cant u tell he got a temp! X

 

[Amy_J]

I would leave any of mine with o/h even over night I don't worry at all, but I would worry like crazy with other ppl, I don't think I would if done if they had left me from day one but nobody has eva had them so I'm not use to it,
I really don't think it is good for the child tho both monty and dolly have found starting school really hard, monty now 6 finds it hard to go on
His own to friends houses and I feel so sorry for him if I had the chance to leave them now and again I really would it has done me and them no good been stuck to each other all day everyday xxxx

i definately think this a very valid comment and it relates to me too. we dont have anyone here who we leave LO with, and now when we do visit family he is terrible! cries when i leave the room, mil had to ring us to come home from our day out to the beach etc.

at toddler group yesterday he followed me round, clinging to my leg and broke his heart when i went to the toilet. im worried about what this is going to be like in the years to come, and am now thinking of enrolling him in nursery even just 1 day a week, so he can be without me and socialise with other babies, i think it will do him the world of good!

 

[Maria1977]

I hate leaving Oscar too. I'm ok with OH having him, but usually he would take him out coz I don't think he actually knows what to do with him at home for more than 30 mins lol. We leave him with either my or OHs mum approx once a week for about 2 hours, but I HATE it and I miss him so bad and worry about him, esp if he's with mil I find that really hard. Oscar's always fine though and has a lovely time and don't even notice we've left him lol