Bloody hell on a stick.
My god, I can't wait until I'm about 5 years older, I really hate those (no ofence but you're only..." comments. One,age is no criteria. Two, even when it is,the person in question doesn't need to be reminded.
SarahH, I agree with what you were saying about maintainance. That is EXACTLY how I feel.
It should be the choice of the mother, whether to claim off the man.
Poor, poor ickle men. Whipping out their John Thomas, making a baby, then having to pay f*ck all a week.... like it actualy measures up to the time,money or effort the parent who sticks around will be putting in
Shaft em if you wish, that's what i say, they are grown men and they know the consequences as well as the rest of us. A man has a responsibility to his own child, end of.
ANYWAY......Jazz, I have a Grade A qualification in Teenage Motherhood from the University of I Made an Oopsie....and what i would say would be
1) If you are off school for a year,go back. I continued at school all through pregnancy and got 11 bloody good GCSE's. Also, four months is nothing. I only had four months of school to learn my AS level courses, and I ended up with 2 A's and a C. If you really don't want to go back, study at home and do your exams anyway. it's perfectly feasible to believe you'll pass them. If you work that is. Pregnancy isn't a disability, as my granny would say
of course there is the depression, but still... it will be so much easier for you if you can get some decent GCSE grades, then you can go to 6th form college or w/e....otherwise you'll be playing catch up til you're 30.
2) Talk to your mother. Keep on at her (in a nice way) to see if she'll change her mind. She IS your mother after all. If not, can you not try to get into a special mother and baby unit? I think i mentioned before about a girl I know in one of those, and she actually really liked it, there was such a lot of support and friendship from the other young mums. Which is something you need so much in this position
3) Your ex has to face up to his responsibilities, if not emotionally then financially. End of.
I agree with what others have said about saving and getting a small saturday job. Now is the time, over Xmas...I've been eharing my friends talk about how much they are getting for working Christmas and Boxing Day...Call centres especially, my mate is getting like 170 for working one day or something crazy