Putting Daughter's on Pill?

[FebMum2Be]

I know I have a son, but once I have a notion he is having sex I will be putting condoms in his underwear drawer, he's going to do it wether I give him protection or not, I hope we will have a relationship where he can talk to me about things x

 

[Amyrose]

i will be laminating the boys bits just to make sure lol

 

[evie_smith]

Lol xx

 

[l_maclean]

I'd like to hope that any kids I have would be able to talk to me about that kinda stuff. (fingers crossed). My mum was the first person I told after my first time. I certainly dont intend to be one of those parents who thinks my kids wont be doing that. If they're gonna do (no matter what age ) - id rather it was safely.

I have to say i think i'd be aiming to encourage girls to go with the implant - i wasnt great at remember to take my pill - and i'd definitely say that the implant is the way to go.

I have a miniscule mark where mine came out - it like a little white dot - you know the kind of scar you get if you pick chicken pox - but i doubt if even DH notices them. lol

xxx

 

[cosmicgirl]

I will do anything and everything in my power to prevent my children (boy or girl) having a baby in their teens xx

 

[BevG]

id advocate the implant, and i have a close relationship with my mum to the point where i know where and how each of us kids was concieved..... and her fave positions etc. its odd but its just how close we are, i told her when i planned to lose my virginity at 18 and a half. long term bf, first proper one and it was because she taught me to respect myself and to make guys respect me, not just give it up cos they want to.

 

[saraian26]

I was 13 when i lost my v plates and was too young! but I shall be having the chat with all my kids not just immy about sex, contraception and STDS.

I want them to be well clued up teens who i shall try my best to make sure they make the best choices for themselves.

 

[FebMum2Be]

I'll def be teaching about STD's too, I knew about pregnancy and safe sex but not so much about STD's x

 

[Toonlass]

If I had a daughter I think my OH would fit her with a chastity belt lol, thankfully I have all boys!

If they are anything like my 2 brothers they will be male sluts so I will hammer into them about STD's and tell them if they get a lass pregnant I will chop their nuts off!! Should be enough motivation to be careful

On a serious note tho, I plan on being a very open parent who they can discuss anything with so I will be completely at ease about talking condoms etc. Xx

 

[Princess81]

You know what - I'm just hoping that I have a boy **hides**
Seriously though, I would make sure that if I had a daughter she was on the pill etc and was well briefed on safe sex, pregnancy and STD's. My parents brought me up to respect myself etc but I still got drunk and lost my virginity at 15 and then had to go and take the morning after pill and my mum found out and went beserk, but she woudln't have been able to stop me doing it no matter what she said . So even though I mightn't condone a daughter of mine doing it, I'm not naive enough to think that it woudn't happen and I just pity the boy that would have to face my o/h because he's literally the sort that would sit there with a shotgun

 

[youngmummyd]

I got caught on the pill and im 18. So im not a big fan of the pill although i dont want my baby if its a girl to make the same mistakes i did. I went on the pill at 14 to help with periods and stupidly lost my virginity although didnt have sex again for a few years after. I love my oh and im very lucky hes stood by and we are in a good situation considering our little accident baby but he/she will definitely be clued in on safe sex and i think id give her the choice of which contraceptive she would prefer as soon as she started thinking about sex! She/he will def know that i was caught on the pill so hopefully they realise nothing is 100% and ill also be explaining how hard it is at this age to be in the situation of becoming parents so young. At the end of the day though i think all kids are gonna make their own choices and mistakes regardless of what we are going to drum into them. My parents would die if they knew when i lost my virginity as they are good living and never brought me up like that :/ My sister on the otherhand is 15 on the pill (fr periods) and still insisting no sex before marriage lol quite the opposite we are....

 

[WILMAFLINSTONE]

Hmmmm heres my two penneth!!

So my mother especially was really strict about sex and babies before getting married! The only sex talk I got was when my periods started and she told me 'you can get pregnant now mind so dont do anything wrong'!!!

So my upbringing and their thoughts and views on it all was enoughto put the fear of God in me and for me to know I better not dare have sex at a young age which I didnt!

However her strict words didnt stop my sister who was honestly the most unlikely child to be having sex or even thinking about boys getting pregnant at aged 13, had a baby at 14 and dispite my parents being furious, she then got pregnant again at 15 and had the baby at 16!!! Maybe if my mother had talked to her openly then there wouldnt be 2 innocent children who were put up for adoption!

I have Kate whos nearly 18 and Matilda of course, but dont have to worry about her for a while lol, but with Kate, Ive always been really open with her and honest when she has come and asked questions about the most intimate things and Ive answered her honestly. Weve talked about relationships, love, emotions, sex, contraception etc etc when I thought it was age appropriate so when she got her first serious boyfriend who shes now been with nearly a year we had another open and honest talk!

I told her I didnt want her to think I was encouraging her to have sex, but that I wasnt stupid and knew that she may get to that stage and that if she was sexually active then I wanted her and him to both be protected!

So a couple of months ago she came and told me they had talked about sex,and that she felt mature enough ready to deal with a sexual relationship and that she wanted me to come to the Drs with her to sort out contraception! So off we went, she got the Depo injection and I armed her with Condoms too! Id already explained about STI's so she knew to be as protected as possible and be sensible! (I also had the please be respecful and dont have sex while were in the house talk too!) lol so I say yes, they are going to do it regardless of what we as parents say or want them to do so protect them as much as we can!!! I didnt want her having sex at 17 but she has and I respect her for coming and talking to me about it all..times have changed since I was her age and thats life!

Thankfully Ive got a good few years till I have to do this all again with Matilda xxx

 

[FebMum2Be]

Wilma you sound ace! What a wonderful relationship you and K have to be able to be so open and honest about it all, I love it xxx

 

[WILMAFLINSTONE]

Ah thanks FM2B.....I just knew I wanted to be able to talk to her like I couldnt talk to my mam..... xxx

 

[FebMum2Be]

That's how I hope to be, I am so close with my mummy but that is the area we never spoke about, I think it's a good thing to be open about it and able to talk xx

 

[WILMAFLINSTONE]

Totally agree.....I was extremely close to my mam in every other way but I think that after what happened with my sister, she drummed it into me that the same better not happen to me lol xx

 

[BevG]

thats the kind of relationship i have with my mum, she knew when i lost my virginity and we went the docs so i could get the implant, we always talked openly about it and its a lovely thing to have that relationship with your mum, i hope if i have a daughter i will have that kind of closeness too.

 

[isobel84]

I'm hoping I will be very open with Noa n he can talk to me. But I will do my best to tell him sex should be with someone special and it shod be special.
But I will be very strict on him. He will concentrate on school and study hard not running around on the streets. He got plenty of time when he's finished school to party n have girlfriends, then hopefully with a good education behind him x

 

[x_PlaceboDanii]

I was on the pill for nearly 5 years, and i resented my mother for it!. I felt that she didn't trust me enough for her to just let me get on with my life without constantly wrapping me in cotton wool!. Of course it made me gain loads of weight and my skin was awful!, another reason why i decided to stop the pill (That and me and OH wanted a baby). Shes extremely strict and thinks its wrong to have children outside of marriage, its not the 60's anymore, we're in 2011, theres kids younger than me having kids thesedays!

I think, that the pill isn't that good!, it still has its flaws like every other contraception out there!

 

[AnnaWiggles]

Not read the whole thread but I hope that if/when I have a daughter she will feel comfortable enough to tell me when she loses her virginity and we can agree on a form of BC for her - NOT condoms cos I don't think they're reliable (as in teenagers will very often just 'not bother' or not want to ruin the mood or whatever without really thinking about the consequences). I mean she can use condoms as well lol, but I'd feel much more comfortable if she had a long-term form like the implant or coil. The pill would be second best but its easy enough to miss one or stop taking it or whatever. I don't care what age she loses her virginity to an extent (like not 12 or something daft) I just hope she waits for someone she loves and doesn't just hand it out to anyone. Me and my mum don't talk about things like this but if we did I think she'd be proud to know I lost mine to FOB and only once I was sure how I felt about him, shame he turned out to be a twat lol.