but I am not really feeling anything for what is inside of me?? I have tried talking to it and rubbing my belly but I just feel stupid. I am not bonding at all. And i have really really tried. dont get me wrong, when i was in EPU last week I was delighted to see the heartbeat after the pain I had been getting, but even then i couldnt really connect with the blob I saw on the screen. And i was upset when the doc mentioned ectopic before the scan. I have never been very maternal, and never really wanted kids. I always assumed this was because I have PCOS and have grown up being told by Docs that I might not be able to get pregnant. this baby is very much wanted, we were TTC and got lucky quickly. Hubby has always wanted kids and I guess i had hoped that when I got pregnant my maternal instinct would kick in and i would want one! (I am nearly 35 so it was really now or never!) i am just terrified i am not going to bond with this baby, if i dont feel anything for it now?? I am dreading my 12 week scan when I actually get to see a baby shape on the screen. What if I still feel nothing???