Not having the 'prefect family'

[russellmuscle]

It was kind of the other way around for me. When we had a boy and a girl people kept saying our family was complete but I wanted at least 3.

My husband is annoyed by the 'as long as they are healthy' comments because he says its not like he would love them any less if they had problems.

Think people just like a reason to have input no matter what or how many you have lol.

I got so many comments second time about finding out gender. One woman even says "I think all that pain and pushing seems a bit pointless if you know what it is" or "I'd much rather the surprise" as if I'm not going to be any less excited just by knowing the gender. I'm meeting my child for the first time!!

I get some people like the wonder that can add to ones excitement but for some it's stress lol I'd wanna try not find out for a third but then I don't know if my nose would get the better of me lol.

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[redbear]

It was kind of the other way around for me. When we had a boy and a girl people kept saying our family was complete but I wanted at least 3.

My husband is annoyed by the 'as long as they are healthy' comments because he says its not like he would love them any less if they had problems.

Think people just like a reason to have input no matter what or how many you have lol.

I got so many comments second time about finding out gender. One woman even says "I think all that pain and pushing seems a bit pointless if you know what it is" or "I'd much rather the surprise" as if I'm not going to be any less excited just by knowing the gender. I'm meeting my child for the first time!!

I get some people like the wonder that can add to ones excitement but for some it's stress lol I'd wanna try not find out for a third but then I don't know if my nose would get the better of me lol.

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Trust me when your baby is born with breathing problems there is no magic gender reveal your told quickly and then your baby is rushed away. People assume they are going to get this moment but they don't think it doesn't always happen like that.

 

[BunnyN]

We didnt find out with our 3rd. I had a lovely home birth, fast labour and healthy baby. I thought finding out would be a special moment. I know it sounds awful but I found it a bit of a let down. Not that it was bad in any way but it wasnt really the great moment I was expecting. Not sure I'd bother keeping it a secret next time as thar was hard work.

 

[russellmuscle]

It was kind of the other way around for me. When we had a boy and a girl people kept saying our family was complete but I wanted at least 3.

My husband is annoyed by the 'as long as they are healthy' comments because he says its not like he would love them any less if they had problems.

Think people just like a reason to have input no matter what or how many you have lol.

I got so many comments second time about finding out gender. One woman even says "I think all that pain and pushing seems a bit pointless if you know what it is" or "I'd much rather the surprise" as if I'm not going to be any less excited just by knowing the gender. I'm meeting my child for the first time!!

I get some people like the wonder that can add to ones excitement but for some it's stress lol I'd wanna try not find out for a third but then I don't know if my nose would get the better of me lol.

xxxx

Trust me when your baby is born with breathing problems there is no magic gender reveal your told quickly and then your baby is rushed away. People assume they are going to get this moment but they don't think it doesn't always happen like that.

Lion King moment!!

My two births although I knew the gender were amazing. I wouldn't change them. Second labour was better as I was in the pool and went into labour alone and did only on GA which was a bit different from the fast induction first time.

When I found out about Jackson it was nice because the sonnographer let us find for ourself then confirmed with us I couldn't believe I seen it flapping in the fluid lmao. Second time Jackson told us. We didn't tell everyone gender first time and second time I couldn't be arsed hiding it because the comments the OP were on about are hard enough. No doubt I'd have people bashing on about a girl when I'd have known he was a he. But a third I'd atleast try not to know and tell people that even if I did.

Home birth would he nice if I didn't have a neighbour that hears me each time I leave or enter the house or ppl come to the door. She's a nosey witch. I was discharged after a few hours so I got best of both.

I think the main point is everyone's wants needs and preferences are different too so no one should really assume about anyone but themself.

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[redbear]

We didnt find out with our 3rd. I had a lovely home birth, fast labour and healthy baby. I thought finding out would be a special moment. I know it sounds awful but I found it a bit of a let down. Not that it was bad in any way but it wasnt really the great moment I was expecting. Not sure I'd bother keeping it a secret next time as thar was hard work.

Yes this with my first, my husband told me it was a girl and k didn't care if he had told me she was a radiator! I was just glad she was out lol.

You say lion king moment I did start singing the circle of life and held her in in the air... I'm not even joking me and my dh have a weird humour. We also played salt and pepper push it during labour. Hahaha we are not normal at all.

 

[russellmuscle]

Lol sounds funny.

Have you seen the viral lion king birth it's this guy the dad acting as rafiki and he does it and shows the baby round and all the family and hospital staff are all jumping about like the animals. It's brilliant. I was just wanting home swung by mcds on the way the bath and bed

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[redbear]

Lol sounds funny.

Have you seen the viral lion king birth it's this guy the dad acting as rafiki and he does it and shows the baby round and all the family and hospital staff are all jumping about like the animals. It's brilliant. I was just wanting home swung by mcds on the way the bath and bed

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Yes it's so funny. We didn't gave an audience it was just me and I can't sing. I had a blast for her labour much better than the first which was too fast. It was just the after bit that went south. She was fine though just wet lung in the end xx

 

[BunnyN]

We didnt find out with our 3rd. I had a lovely home birth, fast labour and healthy baby. I thought finding out would be a special moment. I know it sounds awful but I found it a bit of a let down. Not that it was bad in any way but it wasnt really the great moment I was expecting. Not sure I'd bother keeping it a secret next time as thar was hard work.

Yes this with my first, my husband told me it was a girl and k didn't care if he had told me she was a radiator! I was just glad she was out lol.

You say lion king moment I did start singing the circle of life and held her in in the air... I'm not even joking me and my dh have a weird humour. We also played salt and pepper push it during labour. Hahaha we are not normal at all.

Lol. My husband kept saying "its a baby boy, its a baby boy!". I was like "yeh its a baby(what did you expect it to be). Oh, its a boy"

 

[Babygiz]

Holi I could of wrote your post myself it's the biggest bug bear of my life at the moment. I have 2 boys, 2 boys I love dearly and would not change for the world. However I will always remember a family member asking me two days after giving birth was i going to try for another for a girl ...... so so rude. I feel blessed to have had two children and the sex of them doesn't matter to me.

 

[russellmuscle]

I was asked today. By the baby massage lady. I actually didn't mind though because in this instance she asked if I'd have another first then I says probably she asked if I'd like a girl but she also had two boys then a girl.

I don't mind when people are nice about it and not like pressuring if it comes up as it is now but it's the nosey people I don't appreciate.

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[Holi]

I'm glad I'm not the only one who gets wound up by these comments, and I'm glad it seems to happen to mums of boys too cos sometimes I feel like it's boys are seen as the preferred sex to have! But like everyone says, it really doesn't matter it's our little people's personalities that make them wonderful!

I actually had one lady say to me when she bumped into myself and a friend (I had a girl and she had a new baby boy) 'how lovely a boy, there's something so lovely and special about having a boy!' - as I stood there with my newest pink bundle! If I didn't laugh I'd cry!

 

[JD.Deedee]

I used to get strangers who felt the need to have an opinion on me not wanting more than one child! How sad it was and how he'd be lonely.. this kind of stopped after he turned about two and people seem be to minding their own business more now he's older. But I'm glad I never took it to heart. My son is very delayed in his communication and is likely to be on the spectrum meaning he need a lot of attention. The chance then becomes greater a future child would have additional needs and I don't think It be fair. I think people just want to make conversation and not often realise in such situations how they'd be better off minding their own business! X