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[TashaWink]

Don't get me wrong if I was in the situation I would probably just have cried and shouted and then the day after I've calmed down would have done everything i said.

Definitely bring all of this up. It doesn't make for a good working environment for you. And 28 is well too hot! 21 is what I keep my house at and that's enough.


Oh I always lose what I write...I try to keep them short so I can just re-write it quickly

 

[TashaWink]

Do you get weekends off? If so, just one more day to get through and then you get a break. Be honest with how things are with HR though, you cant go on feeling this unwell and worse - being ridiculed for it!!

Random question, does anyone know how you'd measure your own bump to see if you're on track? My 24 week midwife appointment isn't for another 2 weeks (26 weeks) but she said if I'm still measuring big shed send me for a growth dcan as she was suspicious about excess fluid. So I'm just laid here feeling curious and wondering how to do it?

If I remember rightly you find the top of your uterus and then measure from the top of your pelvis. I tried doing mine earlier but I'm so unsure of where the top of the uterus is

 

[blueeyes34]

Yes Jessie I work monday to Friday and between now and Maternity I have two weeks holiday I have to use (or lose), so only got a 4 day week next week as I have booked friday off

I know what you mean about calming down afterwards, I do usually and haven't cried due to work the 9 years I have been there, but it's been going on for weeks now and think it just all got a bit much.

Don't know about bump measuring I'm afraid. I have midwife Monday, maybe she will measure bump then? xx

 

[blueeyes34]

Can't get to sleep tonight.......it will soon be time to get up for work at this rate! xx

 

[blueeyes34]

Finally nodded off, but wide awake again. Really need some sleep before work xx

 

[blueeyes34]

Ooh on a positive, I've reached v day that's huge for us after the last 12 months of two loses. Hang on in there little baby and keep growing healthy and strong xx

 

[Elliott]

Excellent need blueeyes

I think little'un is a night owl as that's two nights at about 2am I think I've felt her kicking. Kind of like a flick or a pop feeling???

 

[Durhamchance]

Oh Blueeyes what a bunch of pigs! You're right that 28c is far too hot, I keep my house at 21-22c and that's just right. I've worked in many male dominated environments and know what they can be like, although I usually end up trying to be filthier than them They need a kick up the backside and to learn some respect. I hope you have a better day today.

We put Blake to bed at 7:30 and he woke up at 80. We put him back to bed and didn't hear a peep until OH got up this morning! He can't join us in bed as I'm a cruel horrible mummy who has a safety gate fitted to his door! I'm very strict and have never allowed him to sleep with us. I never slept in my parents bed so see it as something very strange. He was playing and jumping on his bed when I went into him, little monkey.

On another note I must have had a 24hr bug because I feel fine now and a full nights sleep was just what I needed. I hope you all have a great Friday! And congrats on v day Blueeyes

 

[caseysmummy11]

What an awful situation to work in blueeyes, they definitely need to be more considerate to you. A manager should definitely not be treating you that way! Congratulations on v day!
Durham when I first put my son into a bed from a cot, I also put a stair gate on his bedroom to encourage him to stay in his bedroom and go back to sleep. my little one used to get in my bed every night after we took it off. I don't mind if he's not feeling well but since having a huge bump, I have to put him back to bed as I get stick im the middle like a sardine and can't sleep. Wish I'd done it from the beginning now as he now doesn't bother and calls me if he needs me or if he wakes he just goes back to sleep. Could have saved myself so many uncomfortable nights. I know this time I will be more strict on it! Glad you are feeling better Durham!
I slept much better last night. Baby moved out of my rib yay! and went to sleep by 11 as back ache has eased off now. 23 weeks today! Only one more week til v day. 1 more week til im back at work also. Then 3-4 weeks til mat leave. It's going so quickly lol. Xxx

 

[bigbee]

Sorry, Blueeyes, went to bed early last night and missed your post.

Their behavior is completely inapproptriate. One comment would be fine, as people do say things they don't mean, but what is happening to you is bullying. I would also stretch it to sexual harrassment.

I work in male-dominated enviroment too, and I appreciate how you feel. If I were you, I would start recording times/comments, and then report it to HR (As someone has already suggested).

The comment about miscarriage really pissed me off. Do you remember when that was exactly? You should report it. Don't be worried about making things worse for yourself with your boss, as he should be the one stopping this behavior in the first place!

As long as it is all recorded, and brought to HR attention, they don't have a leg to stand on. Assholes.

P.S. Congrats on V-day

 

[Elliott]

Just played catch up and blueeyes it is disgusting how they've been behaving and what they've said. Also work in a pretty male dominated workplace and there's aleays lots of inappropriate jokes and comments but they wouldn't ever go to that extent and if they did i would definitly report to hr.

Hope things improve soon xx

 

[buttonbear]

Blueyes i can only reiterate what others have said, poor you I also cannot believe the miscarriage comment, I don't know how anyone would think of that as a joke or banter! Bigbee is right, record it all down and can't you get a risk assessment done on the temperature of the room, its not healthy 28 is boiling!!

Well I still feel horrendous, no idea what to put my finger on but I just feel beyond crap, bottom of bump was agony in bed last night as was my back so barely slept so m even more exhausted today! woe is me

I had my fly jag ages ago, i think about 12 weeks pregnant or something, way before flu season started.

 

[buttonbear]

Oh congrats on V day!

 

[Willowburn]

God blue eyes that is ridiculous!! How about suggesting they move their ridiculous selves to the equator??! 28 degrees?! I'm a cold person but that's just crazy!! Horrible individuals!! Happy v day though that's great
Hasn't happened much but I had a crying meltdown a couple of weeks ago and once it was over I felt much better!! Hope you have a better day...and everyone else has a good day- Friday yey!! Xx

 

[NatEvz]

Congrats on V day lovely. I really do need to keep up to speed with this thread xxx

 

[Durhamchance]

Sorry you're feeling so poorly button, you know that I can sympathise!

I'm sure I'm getting braxton hicks now, I went into town this morning with Blake in his pushchair and all of a sudden started to feel pressure at the bottom of my bump. It was enough to slow me to a shuffle and make me concentrate on breathing. After a bit it just stopped and I was able to walk at a normal pace again.

 

[Jessiecat]

Sounds like BH Durham.

I know this is a silly thing to moan about but still crippled with SPD and can't get out of bed again today. I am sooooo bored! Any suggestions what I can do?

 

[blueeyes34]

Thanks Elliot, Durhamchance, caseysmummy, Bigbee, Buttonbear and willowburn

Its really hot in here again today. This morning one of the guys brought in bacon and sausage sandwiches in for the other men in the team! Whenever i bring in cakes or biscuits (homemade becasue I love baking) I always leave them on the side and say they are for everyone. So i decided to say something and I just said 'oh thanks for my sandwich, is it a mens only thing?' to which i got 'women dont like bacon and sausage sandwiches'??!! What??!! I didn't even want one, but yet again feel like i am not part of the team as i'm not a bloke!


Bigbee - Yes i remember when the comment was made, morning of 18th December, I was really gobsmacked. Got HR risk assessment on Monday.

Glad you feel better now Durham

Thanks for all the V day wishes Not letting it get me down today, after all its v day

Couldn't sleep last night, however bean was very active and could feel her moving a lot between 12am and 2am, still gentle movements, but no mistakes they are kicks or punches

Only 4 more hours until the weekend, I have decided definitely not working over time on the run up to maternity. We don't get paid it, just time back in lieu and I have no time to take it back as work diary is busy until maternity.

Jessie - Hope SPD eases soon - I don't know much about it, so apolgies if it's not something that eases until baby is born

xx

 

[bigbee]

Jessie, it is not a silly thing to moan about!

Can you watch a film? I do like a cheesy romcom or a comedy when I feel shitty - always cheers me up

My OH is out tonight, so this is exactly what I will be doing when I get back from the gym Cannot actually wait.

 

[bigbee]

Blueeyes, this is just getting me angry! What a bunch of knobs. Really sorry you have to deal with this, but hopefully once HR get involved, the comments and this disgusting attitude will ease off. You are right - this is V day, which is a happy day, so ignore them

And yeah, I wouldn't work overtime either We had a 10% paycut from the 1st of January, so I am putting 10% less effort in.