Long termers 6 months or more

[miamia]

Star128 - good luck with your journey and wish you 1st time success

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

@star128 welcome to the thread

Wishing you all the luck for IVF keep us posted and we will support in anyway we can.

You will likely be similar IVF timings to Alexis then I think? Xx

 

[Alexis2017]

Welcome Star128. I've been on here since I started ttc Dec/Jan 2017 I joined the IVF waiting list in May and that's me at the top so going to sign my consent forms Dec 3rd. We can be IVF buddies!

I had 4 days of brown discharge a d then suddenly yesterday AF appeared eith full force like never before. It's so heavy but watery with loads of clots. I don't get why I'm having such weird cycles . The cramping is awful too. I am so so stressed. We still don't have a car and to make things worse Mini don't have any space to look at the car until end of November. Still not got a courtesy car and won't have for 10 days at least.

 

[Peony1]

Hi Ladies, hope you don't mind me joining in. I haven't posted much on here - last post was a long time ago (Hi peony and moomin!). I've been ttc since May 2016. Saying it doesn't even sound real. So far all fertility test have been ok - except I have a uterine abnormality, I've been told it's most likely a bicornuate uterus which "shouldn't" affect fertility. Not very reassuring. I was added to the ivf waiting list in July. Really not sure how I feel about ivf, I feel like I'm going through the motions but it's all so daunting. Mostly I just try to get on with things and not talk about it too much. I'm 37 and ttc my first x

Hi! I know what you mean, to say I’ve been trying since October 2016 doesn’t sound right! I keep thinking surely I must have got the dates wrong you do well to just get on with things, I really try but it is rarely not on my mind now! best of luck with everything, know that you can rant and rave in this thread and we won’t mind! Xx

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

This frigging AF is driving me crackers....So far

1 day spotting
1 day nothing
1 day light flow but then nothing on the nighttime

Today who knows? I feel like this isn't a good sign...it's the weirdest flow I've had so far. I normally do start slow then have 2 heavy days then done. But this is just weird. Wish she would just gush and then naf off lol x

 

[Peony1]

How frustrating Nikkibiscuit! Nothing worse than af messing you about! Has it been any better today?

I’m currently about 7dpo and this afternoon for a good couple of hours, I had pain in my right ovary. When I say pain, it was more like a really noticeable twinge that was constant! As I’m 7dpo, I’m at the time of the month for me where I’m no longer happy and positive and I’m now paranoid and negative. I’ve convinced myself this can’t be a good thing!

Also, to those who’ve had tests on the nhs, did you get an amh test? The one to check your ovarian reserve I think? Anyway, looking at all my results I can’t see that one on there, but I do have a diagram where my fertility doctor had written a chart of one to 20 and he’d written my number as 7.6 - I can remember at the time he was definitely talking about my egg reserve, but I was wondering if anyone knows if this can be measured in another way, not just an amh test? He told me 7.6 was normal and fine - but I’ve looked up amh results with that number and it’s says that 7.6 is not good! However, none of these results have a chart of 0 to 20 that the doctor has shown me! I’m so confused!

 

[Vintageling]

Hi ladies cab I join you??
We are 6 months in but have had 7 cycles

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

Hi ladies cab I join you??
We are 6 months in but have had 7 cycles

Absolute vintageling welcome to the LTTTC world! Altho I have no idea what actually classes us as long termers I just went with 6 months when I started this thread cos that's when I hit my brick wall. Xx

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

How frustrating Nikkibiscuit! Nothing worse than af messing you about! Has it been any better today?

I’m currently about 7dpo and this afternoon for a good couple of hours, I had pain in my right ovary. When I say pain, it was more like a really noticeable twinge that was constant! As I’m 7dpo, I’m at the time of the month for me where I’m no longer happy and positive and I’m now paranoid and negative. I’ve convinced myself this can’t be a good thing!

Also, to those who’ve had tests on the nhs, did you get an amh test? The one to check your ovarian reserve I think? Anyway, looking at all my results I can’t see that one on there, but I do have a diagram where my fertility doctor had written a chart of one to 20 and he’d written my number as 7.6 - I can remember at the time he was definitely talking about my egg reserve, but I was wondering if anyone knows if this can be measured in another way, not just an amh test? He told me 7.6 was normal and fine - but I’ve looked up amh results with that number and it’s says that 7.6 is not good! However, none of these results have a chart of 0 to 20 that the doctor has shown me! I’m so confused!

Hmm kinda peony had something more like a flow but still light for me. Been rushing round like a manic today. My friend and I took 2 horses to a wedding. The bride has them on our yard and her mum arranged for us to take them as a surprise...was so lovely got mint pics of bride and groom Sat on the both and put flowers in their manes and tails so they looked lush. Sometimes it's just nice to do a nice thing for other people.

Trying to keep positive and plan forward. Altho got a hen do invite today for August next year and couldn't stop the thought of what if I'm going through IVF by then.....but I think I need to eradicate that thought or I will write off my whole summer next year for something that may or may not happen x

 

[Hearyoume]

Feeling totally defeated.
Really thought it had happened this time,3 days later and no sign of AF whatever.
Thought to myself last night I’ll get up tomorrow and go buy a test - well no need woke up in the middle of the night to mild spotting and cramps yup AF is on her way and just began to think this could actually happen.

Told my Drs last month that PCOS runs in my family and if I could be tested for it. Honestly he couldn’t care less saying things it’s a waste of a NHS resources, that if there is a history and if I GOOGLED it I’d be able to compare symptoms... like that the hell. That was it. Nothing else was said and he just did not want to listens I even said could I just have a have a blood test to see if that burnt anything up in regards to it (bearing in mind I was already going to be booked in to have a blood test anyway for possible IBD he could have just requested that too even the nurse said last week his rest was not professional and that they could have easily asked for another bloods to be used for other testing.

Me and my partner have planned having a baby and it just seems everyone around me who doesn’t is getting pregnant from one night stands or we just wasn’t careful that night.

Each month my heart is breaking and it just isn’t fun for me anymore

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

Feeling totally defeated.
Really thought it had happened this time,3 days later and no sign of AF whatever.
Thought to myself last night I’ll get up tomorrow and go buy a test - well no need woke up in the middle of the night to mild spotting and cramps yup AF is on her way and just began to think this could actually happen.

Told my Drs last month that PCOS runs in my family and if I could be tested for it. Honestly he couldn’t care less saying things it’s a waste of a NHS resources, that if there is a history and if I GOOGLED it I’d be able to compare symptoms... like that the hell. That was it. Nothing else was said and he just did not want to listens I even said could I just have a have a blood test to see if that burnt anything up in regards to it (bearing in mind I was already going to be booked in to have a blood test anyway for possible IBD he could have just requested that too even the nurse said last week his rest was not professional and that they could have easily asked for another bloods to be used for other testing.

Me and my partner have planned having a baby and it just seems everyone around me who doesn’t is getting pregnant from one night stands or we just wasn’t careful that night.

Each month my heart is breaking and it just isn’t fun for me anymore

It sounds like your doctor is awful! It's so frustrating when people just don't understand the emotion and stress that goes with TTC especially when it just isn't happening.

Sending hugs your way.....if only it was as simple as one night of passion! Xx

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

Well AF update ladies she has finally got her finger out and is cramping like fuck this morning and heavy flow. Don't know why this has been such a slow starter but I will be glad to see the back of her!

I've forgotten what sex is like! This stupid on off periods just steal a week of the month away x

 

[SugaryIris]

Feeling totally defeated.
Really thought it had happened this time,3 days later and no sign of AF whatever.
Thought to myself last night I’ll get up tomorrow and go buy a test - well no need woke up in the middle of the night to mild spotting and cramps yup AF is on her way and just began to think this could actually happen.

Told my Drs last month that PCOS runs in my family and if I could be tested for it. Honestly he couldn’t care less saying things it’s a waste of a NHS resources, that if there is a history and if I GOOGLED it I’d be able to compare symptoms... like that the hell. That was it. Nothing else was said and he just did not want to listens I even said could I just have a have a blood test to see if that burnt anything up in regards to it (bearing in mind I was already going to be booked in to have a blood test anyway for possible IBD he could have just requested that too even the nurse said last week his rest was not professional and that they could have easily asked for another bloods to be used for other testing.

Me and my partner have planned having a baby and it just seems everyone around me who doesn’t is getting pregnant from one night stands or we just wasn’t careful that night.

Each month my heart is breaking and it just isn’t fun for me anymore

The NHS are awful, how long have you been trying? They won’t even consider testing for anything until it’s been at least a year.

I think private clinics will do a blood test relatively cheap though if you wanted that.

 

[MoominGirl]

Feeling totally defeated.
Really thought it had happened this time,3 days later and no sign of AF whatever.
Thought to myself last night I’ll get up tomorrow and go buy a test - well no need woke up in the middle of the night to mild spotting and cramps yup AF is on her way and just began to think this could actually happen.

Told my Drs last month that PCOS runs in my family and if I could be tested for it. Honestly he couldn’t care less saying things it’s a waste of a NHS resources, that if there is a history and if I GOOGLED it I’d be able to compare symptoms... like that the hell. That was it. Nothing else was said and he just did not want to listens I even said could I just have a have a blood test to see if that burnt anything up in regards to it (bearing in mind I was already going to be booked in to have a blood test anyway for possible IBD he could have just requested that too even the nurse said last week his rest was not professional and that they could have easily asked for another bloods to be used for other testing.

Me and my partner have planned having a baby and it just seems everyone around me who doesn’t is getting pregnant from one night stands or we just wasn’t careful that night.

Each month my heart is breaking and it just isn’t fun for me anymore

Your doctor's attitude sounds disgusting!! Is there anyone else you can see instead? In my experience, sometimes persistence pays off.

 

[Hearyoume]

That you all. Sorry for the bad spelling I was on mobile and didnt notice the autocorrect.
I spoke to some friends about it and they said that I should complain about his attitude at least as he shouldn’t of made me feel like I was wasting nhs resources or that he shouldnt of even said to google it either.
I called them yesterday and went to put in a complaint and they asked why, they’ve now agreed that he should not of said anything like that and they have offered me an appointment with someone else to discus it with them.

Like I said to them I’ve not asking to be helped with getting pregnant or anything like that but I just want PCOS confirmed as I’ve got a few of the other symptoms and looking into it (plus hearing from family that have been diagnosed) if you show two or more symptoms they should at least offer a blood test

 

[MoominGirl]

How frustrating Nikkibiscuit! Nothing worse than af messing you about! Has it been any better today?

I’m currently about 7dpo and this afternoon for a good couple of hours, I had pain in my right ovary. When I say pain, it was more like a really noticeable twinge that was constant! As I’m 7dpo, I’m at the time of the month for me where I’m no longer happy and positive and I’m now paranoid and negative. I’ve convinced myself this can’t be a good thing!

Also, to those who’ve had tests on the nhs, did you get an amh test? The one to check your ovarian reserve I think? Anyway, looking at all my results I can’t see that one on there, but I do have a diagram where my fertility doctor had written a chart of one to 20 and he’d written my number as 7.6 - I can remember at the time he was definitely talking about my egg reserve, but I was wondering if anyone knows if this can be measured in another way, not just an amh test? He told me 7.6 was normal and fine - but I’ve looked up amh results with that number and it’s says that 7.6 is not good! However, none of these results have a chart of 0 to 20 that the doctor has shown me! I’m so confused!

I never had an AMH test on the NHS. Only from my own research when we were preparing for IVF, I was expecting to have this is done as part of the early work up as it helps them decide what protocol to put you on. I wonder if the test he was referring to was FSH? They definitely test that on the NHS and I'm sure it's an indicator of egg reserve but not as accurate as AMH. I hope that helps and isn't complete rubbish.

 

[Peony1]

Thanks MoominGirl that would make a lot more sense! I suppose there’s no point me getting one done privately at the moment as it’s not as though it’s something I can change! Xx

 

[MoominGirl]

How frustrating Nikkibiscuit! Nothing worse than af messing you about! Has it been any better today?

I’m currently about 7dpo and this afternoon for a good couple of hours, I had pain in my right ovary. When I say pain, it was more like a really noticeable twinge that was constant! As I’m 7dpo, I’m at the time of the month for me where I’m no longer happy and positive and I’m now paranoid and negative. I’ve convinced myself this can’t be a good thing!

Also, to those who’ve had tests on the nhs, did you get an amh test? The one to check your ovarian reserve I think? Anyway, looking at all my results I can’t see that one on there, but I do have a diagram where my fertility doctor had written a chart of one to 20 and he’d written my number as 7.6 - I can remember at the time he was definitely talking about my egg reserve, but I was wondering if anyone knows if this can be measured in another way, not just an amh test? He told me 7.6 was normal and fine - but I’ve looked up amh results with that number and it’s says that 7.6 is not good! However, none of these results have a chart of 0 to 20 that the doctor has shown me! I’m so confused!

Hmm kinda peony had something more like a flow but still light for me. Been rushing round like a manic today. My friend and I took 2 horses to a wedding. The bride has them on our yard and her mum arranged for us to take them as a surprise...was so lovely got mint pics of bride and groom Sat on the both and put flowers in their manes and tails so they looked lush. Sometimes it's just nice to do a nice thing for other people.

Trying to keep positive and plan forward. Altho got a hen do invite today for August next year and couldn't stop the thought of what if I'm going through IVF by then.....but I think I need to eradicate that thought or I will write off my whole summer next year for something that may or may not happen x

Definitely keep planning ahead and plan to go to the hen do. There's only a few scenarios.

You get pregnant naturally between now and then. You either go and don't drink or cancel and don't care cos you're pregnant and it just doesn't matter!!

You still aren't pregnant but the NHS is so slow at getting things together that you actually aren't ready start IVF by then. In which case, you go and make sure you have a damn good time!!

You are at the point of starting IVF close to the hen do in which case you can make a conscious decision to delay the start date until afterwards. We would have done this as we had a holiday booked so we wouldn't have agreed to start until after we came back. Waiting an extra couple of months just wasn't an issue in the grand scheme of things.

If you would be starting IVF way in advance of the hen do then I would treat it exactly the same as a natural pregnancy.

I really wish I'd found this way of thinking much earlier. It makes me a little sad how many things I missed out on cos of 'what if'.

 

[MoominGirl]

Thanks MoominGirl that would make a lot more sense! I suppose there’s no point me getting one done privately at the moment as it’s not as though it’s something I can change! Xx

I think the only reason I could think of for getting it done privately is if you would seriously consider funding IVF privately instead of waiting for the NHS. If you got it done and results were normal then it wouldn't change anything. If you got it done and it was poor then it would possibly help you find answers and get you away from the horrid 'unexplained' category but I doubt it would be enough to qualify you for NHS IVF sooner. If you were prepared to privately fund then you would probably be more focused on getting on with it.

That was my reasons for not pursuing it privately as we would have definitely done the NHS cycle first and knowing I had a poor result and all I could do is wait would have driven me crazier than I already was!!

 

[Peony1]

Your reasons are my exact reasons for not wanting to get the amh test done privately!!! I really would rather wait to get my free cycle with the nhs and if the results came back and they weren’t great, it wouldn’t help anything!

Now you’ve said about the 7.6 result probably being the fsh, I’ve looked at my results and it all adds up! So I feel a lot more reassured now that it wasn’t the amh result as googling it, that would have been a worrying result! If only I’d have known what all these different things meant before seeing the fertility doctor, things would have made a lot more sense! Thank goodness for these boards! Xx