Long termers 6 months or more

[Nikkibiscuit]

My appt involved virology bloods and they gave me my consent forms home. We need to go back on 3rd Dec (nearest appt they had as so busy) so going then to sign consent and then I think I phone up on day 1 of my next cycle start of january to book in for day 21 bloods and a scan to then start the treatment on the following cycle in February.
.it just goes on and on on nhs. I wish we could afford to go private as we don't habe much time being age 35 and he's 37 so all this waiting just worries me more. Anyway the next appt is 1 hour long then hopefully once Christmas is over it will all go quickly. Af is about to appear as on day 2 of my brown discharge as per. No surprise there !

Aw Alexis it does sound so long and drawn out. 2019 is going to be your year....Just hang in there a little bit longer. This has to be it for you...you have been so strong to come this far.

I would be curious to know the private costs altho I think I wouldn't dare find out. It's awful yo have to add a monetary cost as well as the emotional and physical stress of this process x

 

[Alexis2017]

My appt involved virology bloods and they gave me my consent forms home. We need to go back on 3rd Dec (nearest appt they had as so busy) so going then to sign consent and then I think I phone up on day 1 of my next cycle start of january to book in for day 21 bloods and a scan to then start the treatment on the following cycle in February.
.it just goes on and on on nhs. I wish we could afford to go private as we don't habe much time being age 35 and he's 37 so all this waiting just worries me more. Anyway the next appt is 1 hour long then hopefully once Christmas is over it will all go quickly. Af is about to appear as on day 2 of my brown discharge as per. No surprise there !

Aw Alexis it does sound so long and drawn out. 2019 is going to be your year....Just hang in there a little bit longer. This has to be it for you...you have been so strong to come this far.

I would be curious to know the private costs altho I think I wouldn't dare find out. It's awful yo have to add a monetary cost as well as the emotional and physical stress of this process x

It's about 5 or 6k for 1 round of IVF I think? Yeah for some reason I always thought it would be 2018. I can't wait to say goodbye to 2018 its been such a shit year for me , it's brought nothing but heart break. It's been my hardest year in my life and I don't think I can have another year like this again. I am still so unsure if I will be able to do a and round of IVF if 1st doesn't work. I have spent the past 2 years stuck in this nightmare and I just can't do it for much longer. If we get treatment in Feb then we would have our baby around Nov 2019 before the year was out. Please please please please.

I think 1 more pregnancy annoucment will tip me over the edge!

 

[SugaryIris]

I spoke to dh last night and he wants to wait until the new year for our first appointment, I get why we’ve just bought a new house so we are busy with diy all the time and workman in the house etc. Still feels like an age though when I could have been having my first appointment on the 9th November.

Alexis, I know what you mean about the nhs, my sister has been trying for 6 years but because her cycles are so irregular, any over 45 don’t count so she doesn’t count as having been trying for 3 for the ivf! She’s so lucky to have got referred before the cut off but at the same time they mess her about so much.

The private clinics have lots of fee structures so there are lots of different ways to do it, most even offer a service where if you don’t fall pregnant after the ivf you don’t pay!

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

Crikey no win no fee IVF?! What an interesting concept!

 

[SugaryIris]

Crikey no win no fee IVF?! What an interesting concept!

That’s what I thought! Obviously it will be more expensive for the round that is successful.

As there is no funding at all though in the area I guess they are just trying to make it accessible as possible and then obviously they have to be competitive fees as well.

 

[Akua]

I looked into no win no fee ivf.... they have such stringent criteria as to who they’ll accept for it, it’s not really a fair offer. They often discount anyone that they think have slim chances, eg certain medical conditions, bmi, age, etc. Plus if it does work it’s about twice the cost of normal ivf it’s a tempting concept though

 

[SugaryIris]

I looked into no win no fee ivf.... they have such stringent criteria as to who they’ll accept for it, it’s not really a fair offer. They often discount anyone that they think have slim chances, eg certain medical conditions, bmi, age, etc. Plus if it does work it’s about twice the cost of normal ivf it’s a tempting concept though

Ahhh well we probably won’t qualify anyway because of my pcos anyway!

I am really scared about the cost of it all, I don’t want it to break us financially but I can’t seem to think of a figure I wouldn’t pay! You can’t put a price on a baby.

 

[MoominGirl]

After a 67 day cycle af is finally here! I’ve never been so happy to welcome her!

I get so jealous when girls are on the testing threads every month with their 28 day cycles, they get two goes at ovulation and my body can’t even manage one in that time!!

I hope it goes well Alexis, fingers crossed for you xx

I have a regular cycle and still haven't got preggers...glad af showed for you and you can get ready to try again. I only had 1 weird cycle where I had brown spotting in the middle of my cycle for 2 weeks and I am sure it was a chemical pregnancy. Apart from that I'm always day 28-30 without fail. I just wonder how can I not catch the egg when ovulation is so regular too. I get loads of ewcm and ov pain and just no luck. I just hope IVF works. I am just about to go innto the hospital for my ART appt for screening bloods etc. I'm on my own for this appt as hubby doesn't need to come to this one. 1st time I've been on my own. My skin is a mess spots all over it. I think my body is so sensitive to hormones in my cycle

Oh bless you! Must feel strange going on your own but I hope the results are ok. Do you know how long until you do the cycle of ivf?

My referral came through from the doctors, basically it said this one appointment is free on the nhs but you have to pay for all investigations, appointments and treatment after. I just looked at my husband and cried, I thought we’d at least get some help on the nhs, but apparently we don’t in this area at all.

I think I’ll go to the appointment but I’m not wasting my times on nhs waiting times if I have to pay for it as well. He’s up for going private, no idea how we will afford it or where to start. Feeling really abandoned right now.

The postcode lottery for fertility treatment really is shocking. I'm surprised you're getting so little as I thought investigations were generally covered and it was usually just IVF that was off the table. It seems quite pointless that they would see you once and then charge you for everything else.

It sounds like private is the way to go but as you have PCOS, could you consider something like clomid first which would be much cheaper.

 

[MoominGirl]

After a 67 day cycle af is finally here! I’ve never been so happy to welcome her!

I get so jealous when girls are on the testing threads every month with their 28 day cycles, they get two goes at ovulation and my body can’t even manage one in that time!!

I hope it goes well Alexis, fingers crossed for you xx

I have a regular cycle and still haven't got preggers...glad af showed for you and you can get ready to try again. I only had 1 weird cycle where I had brown spotting in the middle of my cycle for 2 weeks and I am sure it was a chemical pregnancy. Apart from that I'm always day 28-30 without fail. I just wonder how can I not catch the egg when ovulation is so regular too. I get loads of ewcm and ov pain and just no luck. I just hope IVF works. I am just about to go innto the hospital for my ART appt for screening bloods etc. I'm on my own for this appt as hubby doesn't need to come to this one. 1st time I've been on my own. My skin is a mess spots all over it. I think my body is so sensitive to hormones in my cycle

I had to be realistic in that I would have been going to a lot of appointments on my own. Distance and time between home, work and clinic would have just made it impossible for OH to attend everything unless he told his work what we were going through and he really didn't want to. If you think of a triangle the clinic was at the top, his work was at one of the other corners and mine was at the other while we live bang in the middle of them all!! I would have loved if he could have been at everything but when it was weighed up against his privacy, I knew it was the lesser of 2 evils for me to go alone if it was reasonable. We agreed that he would be at consultant appointments, egg collection and embryo transfer. Everything else I would aim to handle by myself with him at the end of the phone on the drive back if I needed it. It felt like the best compromise for us.

 

[MoominGirl]

I looked into no win no fee ivf.... they have such stringent criteria as to who they’ll accept for it, it’s not really a fair offer. They often discount anyone that they think have slim chances, eg certain medical conditions, bmi, age, etc. Plus if it does work it’s about twice the cost of normal ivf it’s a tempting concept though

Ahhh well we probably won’t qualify anyway because of my pcos anyway!

I am really scared about the cost of it all, I don’t want it to break us financially but I can’t seem to think of a figure I wouldn’t pay! You can’t put a price on a baby.

The costs are frightening actually and when you add that to the physical and emotional aspects it is so daunting. Although funding in our area is pretty poor overall, we did get all investigations and procedures paid for and would have been entitled to one fresh IVF cycle funded as our only next step. We wanted to be totally realistic and not pin our hopes on one shot. We also wanted to have a very realistic discussion about how we would approach the prospect of approaching privately funded future cycles in advance so that we had agreed our next steps with our heads screwed on rather than waiting until a cycle had failed and the emotions that came with that clouded our judgement.

I know exactly what you mean that it feels like you're putting a price on a baby which just seems impossible. What was helpful for us was to break it down into the physical and emotional as well as the financial as this helped us to work out where our limits were. Of course that's very different for each couple but we realised the more we went through our options the priority one was us as a couple coming out the other end with our relationship intact even if that meant we didn't get the outcome we wanted. So a big part of that was not finding ourselves in crippling debt and losing everything we had worked so hard for up to that point. We cut back on non-essentials and started some serious saving but kept room for treats and trips away as we needed to know that we were still living life even if it wasn't quite how we planned it. We were very lucky that we both found a compromise that we were both comfortable with as a starting point.

I hope that helps you a little right now.

 

[Alexis2017]

Ahhh another cycle with just brown disharge this time hardly even a flow. This is day 5 of it and I am so gutted this is happened again....was okay last cycle but one before was like this but heavier.


Could this mean menopause ? Like I can't stop worrying.

Top top of off my car that broke down on motorway is gubbed. Got it 20 montjhs ago and timing chain fault and came off and smashed up my engine. Waiting to see if the garage who sold us it -evan Halshaw will pay to replace it as we took out a mechanical repair policy for 2 years to cover any faults not wear and tear. If not we have no car and a loan to pay for nothing. Feel sick with worrying about that and the fact I have no period again just brown not even blood...it's not a good sign is it?

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

Ahhh another cycle with just brown disharge this time hardly even a flow. This is day 5 of it and I am so gutted this is happened again....was okay last cycle but one before was like this but heavier.


Could this mean menopause ? Like I can't stop worrying.

Top top of off my car that broke down on motorway is gubbed. Got it 20 montjhs ago and timing chain fault and came off and smashed up my engine. Waiting to see if the garage who sold us it -evan Halshaw will pay to replace it as we took out a mechanical repair policy for 2 years to cover any faults not wear and tear. If not we have no car and a loan to pay for nothing. Feel sick with worrying about that and the fact I have no period again just brown not even blood...it's not a good sign is it?

Could it be the stress affecting your period Alexis? I know I've had a couple of months where AF has been slow starter and they have been the ones where we have tried hard and I've been super anxious about it. When I mentally relaxed I found the flow came. Could be unrelated but I felt like that was happened for me.

My AF started today....slowly...last couple have been like this...slow for a day or two then one super heavy day then a swift exit. So it's on to cycle 19 I think now....altho I'm sure I count it diff every time x

 

[MoominGirl]

Ahhh another cycle with just brown disharge this time hardly even a flow. This is day 5 of it and I am so gutted this is happened again....was okay last cycle but one before was like this but heavier.


Could this mean menopause ? Like I can't stop worrying.

Top top of off my car that broke down on motorway is gubbed. Got it 20 montjhs ago and timing chain fault and came off and smashed up my engine. Waiting to see if the garage who sold us it -evan Halshaw will pay to replace it as we took out a mechanical repair policy for 2 years to cover any faults not wear and tear. If not we have no car and a loan to pay for nothing. Feel sick with worrying about that and the fact I have no period again just brown not even blood...it's not a good sign is it?

Could it be the stress affecting your period Alexis? I know I've had a couple of months where AF has been slow starter and they have been the ones where we have tried hard and I've been super anxious about it. When I mentally relaxed I found the flow came. Could be unrelated but I felt like that was happened for me.

My AF started today....slowly...last couple have been like this...slow for a day or two then one super heavy day then a swift exit. So it's on to cycle 19 I think now....altho I'm sure I count it diff every time x

Sorry you're both out this month. I was thinking the same as Nikki - could it be stress related? I know someone who went through IVF and she admitted herself that she did occasionally stress herself out of a period.

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

Well my AF is playing silly buggers. Had light bleeding yesterday....2 tampons over the day both were only 1/4 stained if that. Then wore pantyliner yesterday evening and overnight and nothing on them or this morning.

Now I went to a birthday party last night and had a good dance and went riding this morning. That usually gets things going but no...nothing now at all for the whole night and morning. Even with a little CM check.

Frigging witch taunting me x

 

[SugaryIris]

Well my AF is playing silly buggers. Had light bleeding yesterday....2 tampons over the day both were only 1/4 stained if that. Then wore pantyliner yesterday evening and overnight and nothing on them or this morning.

Now I went to a birthday party last night and had a good dance and went riding this morning. That usually gets things going but no...nothing now at all for the whole night and morning. Even with a little CM check.

Frigging witch taunting me x

I had about 3 weeks of af taunting me last cycle it was horrendous! Maybe a bath and a little bd tonight? That’s what I always try to get af to hurry up!

I hope she arrives soon so you can get off of ‘panty-watch’ as I have named it in our house 😂

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

Well my AF is playing silly buggers. Had light bleeding yesterday....2 tampons over the day both were only 1/4 stained if that. Then wore pantyliner yesterday evening and overnight and nothing on them or this morning.

Now I went to a birthday party last night and had a good dance and went riding this morning. That usually gets things going but no...nothing now at all for the whole night and morning. Even with a little CM check.

Frigging witch taunting me x

I had about 3 weeks of af taunting me last cycle it was horrendous! Maybe a bath and a little bd tonight? That’s what I always try to get af to hurry up!

I hope she arrives soon so you can get off of ‘panty-watch’ as I have named it in our house ��

Haha that's so funny i call it knicker obsession.

Sadly no BD as told hubby she had started yesterday so he won't be feeling it. He has never been one to DTD during time of the month....and it's not worth the explanation that I may or may not be bleeding lol.

Hopeful she cracks on soon cos I'm off work Mon and Tues and would prefer not to be cramping and feeling shit x

 

[Peony1]

Seriously, this is getting boring now Mother Nature! At least give one of us in this thread a bfp (or all of us...we all deserve it!)

I’m in the tww at the mo. I’ll be ok this week, but I dread next week! I have to clear my diary for the evenings when I’m due on so I can cry if I want to lol notice how we all assume af will show now as well and never symptom spot anymore!

At least this month, so far, I feel like I’ve really tried - not just dtd but I mean keeping myself healthy physically and mentally! I usually get my af and blame myself because I got stressed out a couple of times! But then I suppose the real challenge will be the week before af, that’s when the monster in me usually appears lol think I need to plan lots of baths and constantly have happy songs playing around me - shame I can’t avoid work, then I’d have a fair shot at being calm!

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

Seriously, this is getting boring now Mother Nature! At least give one of us in this thread a bfp (or all of us...we all deserve it!)

I’m in the tww at the mo. I’ll be ok this week, but I dread next week! I have to clear my diary for the evenings when I’m due on so I can cry if I want to lol notice how we all assume af will show now as well and never symptom spot anymore!

At least this month, so far, I feel like I’ve really tried - not just dtd but I mean keeping myself healthy physically and mentally! I usually get my af and blame myself because I got stressed out a couple of times! But then I suppose the real challenge will be the week before af, that’s when the monster in me usually appears lol think I need to plan lots of baths and constantly have happy songs playing around me - shame I can’t avoid work, then I’d have a fair shot at being calm!

Haha peony so true....one of us must be overdue some luck.

I know the feeling....at least this TTC business means I know my body so well that I at least recognise now when I'm a mardy cow the week before AF that it's hormones and try to keep a lid on it. Xx

 

[Star128]

Hi Ladies, hope you don't mind me joining in. I haven't posted much on here - last post was a long time ago (Hi peony and moomin!). I've been ttc since May 2016. Saying it doesn't even sound real. So far all fertility test have been ok - except I have a uterine abnormality, I've been told it's most likely a bicornuate uterus which "shouldn't" affect fertility. Not very reassuring. I was added to the ivf waiting list in July. Really not sure how I feel about ivf, I feel like I'm going through the motions but it's all so daunting. Mostly I just try to get on with things and not talk about it too much. I'm 37 and ttc my first x

 

[MoominGirl]

Hi Ladies, hope you don't mind me joining in. I haven't posted much on here - last post was a long time ago (Hi peony and moomin!). I've been ttc since May 2016. Saying it doesn't even sound real. So far all fertility test have been ok - except I have a uterine abnormality, I've been told it's most likely a bicornuate uterus which "shouldn't" affect fertility. Not very reassuring. I was added to the ivf waiting list in July. Really not sure how I feel about ivf, I feel like I'm going through the motions but it's all so daunting. Mostly I just try to get on with things and not talk about it too much. I'm 37 and ttc my first x

I remember you!!

Sorry you've not had better news. It's such a difficult time and it's not particularly reassuring when they tell you that there's nothing that should be stopping you yet you're still not pregnant.