Long termers 6 months or more

[Nikkibiscuit]

@peony I did the exact same thing about Meghan!! Lmfao when I read this x

 

[Sugarpop]

Thank you everyone for your input with this... I honestly can’t tell you how greatful I am for these boards! It makes me feel less alone with this
So I’ve got the results from the tests we had done this time last year (I had spotting then too) ...my progesterone level is 41 nmol/L ...am i reading the right thing? Does anyone know if that is a good result or is it on the lower end of normal?!

Although I’ve been tested all I can during the process so far, I don’t feel like they’ve asked me enough questions and not acknowledging me when I’ve mentioned the spotting has bothered me. I guess I just want someone to look into it!

I am finding it hard to accept that it’s just bad luck. If nothing else, I’m hoping this might slowly start to help me come to terms with it not happening naturally (finally after 2 years!) and it has made me motivated more than ever to eat well and exercise (moderately but not too much ) I’m cooking from fresh 95% of the time and I can’t fit any more fruit and veg into my fridge now

On another note, after hearing about Meghan and Harry, did anyone else immediately think “of course she is ...she’s been married 2 minutes” I actually like the royals but it did annoy me

If that was your day 21, then anything over 30 is ovulation.

I have been staying away from the forum. I am struggling and just at the end of my rope with it all. Currently CD35 (after ovulation pains around CD20) and no AF and no BFP. Forever in limbo. Like it should be my middle name.

Its going to sound really bad but I am really struggling with coming online & seeing people who have been TTC for a month or two who are getting their BFP's. I know I should be like good for them, but I have been on this forum for almost 5years and still no further along than I started. I know im just bitter. But its all bullsh*t.

 

[Unicorn]

Sorry if I made it sound like spotting always means low progesterone what I was trying to say was that I felt that the fertility consultant was much more competent in analysing all the information I'd collected and diagnosing our situation. I also felt this process was much quicker than our experience with the NHS xx

 

[Peony1]

Sorry if I made it sound like spotting always means low progesterone what I was trying to say was that I felt that the fertility consultant was much more competent in analysing all the information I'd collected and diagnosing our situation. I also felt this process was much quicker than our experience with the NHS xx

Don’t worry I didn’t think that.... I’ve read a lot that spotting can be normal or it can mean something. And I think that what you’ve said above is exactly what i want... for somebody to go through all my results and all my worries, questions etc in more depth and for me not to feel rushed. I already feel better for having all my results printed out...even know I don’t really understand any of them, it somehow feels like I’m taking back a bit of control of this whole process...even if I am kidding myself lol

@sugarpop I’m so sorry you’re having such a rough time. I know what you mean, I can’t look in the monthly threads as it upsets me seeing people getting bfps so quickly. Sounds mean, but we can’t help that bitter feeling. The only time I don’t mind seeing people getting bfps if they are long termers! Can’t imagine how tough it is and has been for you. I really hope you get good news soon xx

 

[Alexis2017]

Thank you everyone for your input with this... I honestly can’t tell you how greatful I am for these boards! It makes me feel less alone with this
So I’ve got the results from the tests we had done this time last year (I had spotting then too) ...my progesterone level is 41 nmol/L ...am i reading the right thing? Does anyone know if that is a good result or is it on the lower end of normal?!

Although I’ve been tested all I can during the process so far, I don’t feel like they’ve asked me enough questions and not acknowledging me when I’ve mentioned the spotting has bothered me. I guess I just want someone to look into it!

I am finding it hard to accept that it’s just bad luck. If nothing else, I’m hoping this might slowly start to help me come to terms with it not happening naturally (finally after 2 years!) and it has made me motivated more than ever to eat well and exercise (moderately but not too much ) I’m cooking from fresh 95% of the time and I can’t fit any more fruit and veg into my fridge now

On another note, after hearing about Meghan and Harry, did anyone else immediately think “of course she is ...she’s been married 2 minutes” I actually like the royals but it did annoy me

41 is good mine was 44 ...Yeah I heard megans news this morn ..It really annoyed me...gimme a break hen....I feel even more hopeless

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

Thank you everyone for your input with this... I honestly can’t tell you how greatful I am for these boards! It makes me feel less alone with this
So I’ve got the results from the tests we had done this time last year (I had spotting then too) ...my progesterone level is 41 nmol/L ...am i reading the right thing? Does anyone know if that is a good result or is it on the lower end of normal?!

Although I’ve been tested all I can during the process so far, I don’t feel like they’ve asked me enough questions and not acknowledging me when I’ve mentioned the spotting has bothered me. I guess I just want someone to look into it!

I am finding it hard to accept that it’s just bad luck. If nothing else, I’m hoping this might slowly start to help me come to terms with it not happening naturally (finally after 2 years!) and it has made me motivated more than ever to eat well and exercise (moderately but not too much ) I’m cooking from fresh 95% of the time and I can’t fit any more fruit and veg into my fridge now

On another note, after hearing about Meghan and Harry, did anyone else immediately think “of course she is ...she’s been married 2 minutes” I actually like the royals but it did annoy me

If that was your day 21, then anything over 30 is ovulation.

I have been staying away from the forum. I am struggling and just at the end of my rope with it all. Currently CD35 (after ovulation pains around CD20) and no AF and no BFP. Forever in limbo. Like it should be my middle name.

Its going to sound really bad but I am really struggling with coming online & seeing people who have been TTC for a month or two who are getting their BFP's. I know I should be like good for them, but I have been on this forum for almost 5years and still no further along than I started. I know im just bitter. But its all bullsh*t.

Sugarpop I feel your pain....I have come away from the testing threads for this exact reason....I wish ladies well I really do but I was finding it too painful seeing BFP when people had only been trying a short while. And struggling to empathise with ladies feeling frustrated 2 or 3 months in when they got BFN. I know I was there once too....but I don't think I was so impatient so early on as some people seem to be.

That's why I just stick to this thread....it is my safe zone and all you poor ladies get to listen to me rant and ramble on lol x

 

[Sugarpop]

Glad that I don’t sound like a complete and utter bitch! I understand that when you want something so bad a few months feels like forever, however, quite a few of us have basically been here forever now and it’s just difficult. The whole thing is difficult and I am just so fed up. After my next cycle of letrozole I am coming off it all together and just having a long break before we go see about IVF.

I am literally just waiting for AF to come. Don’t even feel like it is on the way but I know in the next few days it’ll arrive.

 

[MoominGirl]

@peony I did the exact same thing about Meghan!! Lmfao when I read this x

I also thought the same as I was driving along and they announced it on the radio My second thought was they announced it at someone else's wedding - very classy

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

@peony I did the exact same thing about Meghan!! Lmfao when I read this x

I also thought the same as I was driving along and they announced it on the radio My second thought was they announced it at someone else's wedding - very classy

Lmfao too true moomin.....talk about thunder stealing lol

 

[SugaryIris]

Sugarpop and Nikki, I have also been staying away from the forums because it’s just too painful for me to even think about ttc right now.

I’m currently cd63! No sign of AF at all, there was no evidence of ovulation and I’ve had a few bouts of spotting over the past month with plenty of bfns.

DH had his SA back and now waiting for the doctors to refer us to a fertility clinic. I’ve not had day 21 bloods because my periods are so irregular the doctor didn’t know how to do them.

Getting the referral is also difficult I work 9-5.30 and they need to speak to you on the phone before you get an appointment which means I’d have to take the call at work but I work in an open plan office so I can’t!

 

[MoominGirl]

Sorry if I made it sound like spotting always means low progesterone what I was trying to say was that I felt that the fertility consultant was much more competent in analysing all the information I'd collected and diagnosing our situation. I also felt this process was much quicker than our experience with the NHS xx

Don’t worry I didn’t think that.... I’ve read a lot that spotting can be normal or it can mean something. And I think that what you’ve said above is exactly what i want... for somebody to go through all my results and all my worries, questions etc in more depth and for me not to feel rushed. I already feel better for having all my results printed out...even know I don’t really understand any of them, it somehow feels like I’m taking back a bit of control of this whole process...even if I am kidding myself lol

That was exactly the sort of thing I needed. I'd never wanted to be clinging on to false hope but I wanted to have a realistic understanding of our situation and actually have someone take the time to answer my questions. I did not get that at the NHS clinic and it just left me feeling in the dark, out of control and with no way of finding my way out.

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

Sugarpop and Nikki, I have also been staying away from the forums because it’s just too painful for me to even think about ttc right now.

I’m currently cd63! No sign of AF at all, there was no evidence of ovulation and I’ve had a few bouts of spotting over the past month with plenty of bfns.

DH had his SA back and now waiting for the doctors to refer us to a fertility clinic. I’ve not had day 21 bloods because my periods are so irregular the doctor didn’t know how to do them.

Getting the referral is also difficult I work 9-5.30 and they need to speak to you on the phone before you get an appointment which means I’d have to take the call at work but I work in an open plan office so I can’t!

Iris what a nightmare. I have come close to telling my boss a couple of times at work but haven't as ultimately right now I have nothing to tell. So until we either fall pg or start the IVF ball rolling I don't want people at work to know.

What a strange system with needing the phone call....is this NHS based? It amazes me how much the process seems to differ across the country. Our GP booked us in while we were Sat in the office with him and printed us out the appt straight away....for a few weeks after obviously x

 

[Peony1]

Sugarpop and Nikki, I have also been staying away from the forums because it’s just too painful for me to even think about ttc right now.

I’m currently cd63! No sign of AF at all, there was no evidence of ovulation and I’ve had a few bouts of spotting over the past month with plenty of bfns.

DH had his SA back and now waiting for the doctors to refer us to a fertility clinic. I’ve not had day 21 bloods because my periods are so irregular the doctor didn’t know how to do them.

Getting the referral is also difficult I work 9-5.30 and they need to speak to you on the phone before you get an appointment which means I’d have to take the call at work but I work in an open plan office so I can’t!

Ugh, ttc is so unfair. I hope things settle for you soon xx

I work in an open plan office and when I’m expecting a call I just tell my manager that I’m expecting a call from the doctors without going into detail - when they do call, I ask the doc to wait a mo while I find a private space. Is there anywhere you can go to get a bit of privacy? Even if you had to run out to the car park?! Xx

 

[MoominGirl]

Nikki - I was the same. I didn't tell my manager until I had something to tell but I did tell her once we started investigations as I needed so much time off for appointments that it was just easier. I'm glad I did as it really did take that pressure off.

SugaryIris - I'm with the others. That does sound like a strange system. I found it was difficult to take calls at work as there always seemed to be someone around. Like Peony suggested, I used to nip out the back and hide behind the shrubs next to bin store!! No one was hanging around there!! Sounds ridiculous but it was the only way I felt private enough to talk briefly. Could you do something similar but hopefully not quite so ridiculous on your lunch break?

 

[SugaryIris]

Thanks ladies, yeh it’s an nhs system, apparently to reduce the number of unnecessary appointments I ended up having to run out to the car park when I called. I’ve got to go in for a chlamydia screen and then I’ll get the referral. They booked the test for tomorrow and typically I’ve started cramping today so now af might arrive tomorrow and delay my referral! I’m sure I’m cursed.

 

[SugaryIris]

So according to the nurse I’ve just seen I have pcos, it’s on my file apparently. I suspected it but the doctor never told me. I guess they must have confirmed it with my blood tests earlier in the year.

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

So according to the nurse I’ve just seen I have pcos, it’s on my file apparently. I suspected it but the doctor never told me. I guess they must have confirmed it with my blood tests earlier in the year.

Aw iris that's ridiculous why didn't they tell you!? I hope at least you have some reassurance for finally having some sort of answer and they give you some advice on how best you go forward x

 

[SugaryIris]

So according to the nurse I’ve just seen I have pcos, it’s on my file apparently. I suspected it but the doctor never told me. I guess they must have confirmed it with my blood tests earlier in the year.

Aw iris that's ridiculous why didn't they tell you!? I hope at least you have some reassurance for finally having some sort of answer and they give you some advice on how best you go forward x

I know Nikki it’s awful! At least I have some information so I’m feeling a little more in control.

I can’t get ivf on the nhs in this area and the nurse suggested going abroad! How awful! The amount of horror stories you hear and she’s recommending it! I’m almost tempted to put in a complaint, imagine an unsavvy and desperate woman receiving that advice?!?

Hopefully I’ll finally get my referral now!

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

So according to the nurse I’ve just seen I have pcos, it’s on my file apparently. I suspected it but the doctor never told me. I guess they must have confirmed it with my blood tests earlier in the year.

Aw iris that's ridiculous why didn't they tell you!? I hope at least you have some reassurance for finally having some sort of answer and they give you some advice on how best you go forward x

I know Nikki it’s awful! At least I have some information so I’m feeling a little more in control.

I can’t get ivf on the nhs in this area and the nurse suggested going abroad! How awful! The amount of horror stories you hear and she’s recommending it! I’m almost tempted to put in a complaint, imagine an unsavvy and desperate woman receiving that advice?!?

Hopefully I’ll finally get my referral now!

Crikey that's not good. Crazy woman. So pleased you feel like you have some answers and at least something you can know try to deal with and increase your chances x

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

Totally unrelated but my salt cravings last 2 days are off the charts! I know it usually means I'm thirsty but I've been drinking normal amount for me which is quite a lot to most people as I don't drink tea or coffee I drink a lot of no sugar squash. Very odd x