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So AF arrived 5 days early in France. Lovely of her to drop by. I got back 2.30am on Sat morn and had a wedding that day. The wedding was nice but everyone had their babies there. All dressed up in kilts and pretty dresses. It was tough.. that's us been officially trying 21 months now. It's so so so draining. We are rescuing a dog from Serbia next month so looking forward to that. Then in November we should be at the top of the waiting list for IVF. I have decided to look for a new job so I habe so far applied for 1 new job staying within nhs for now

My puppies are my babies, I am so over the top with them and they love me unconditionally so it’s so rewarding, and when I’m blue about ttc it really helps, especially as my youngest loves to be cradled like a baby!

I hope the job goes well for you xx
 
Officially given up this month already. Looks like I’m not going to ovulate. After over 9 flashing smileyes on the clear blue advanced opks they say you won’t ovulate and I had 10 so I’ve stopped testing now. Going to Crete one week today and looking forward to unwinding.

DH did his SA on Friday so those results will hopefully be waiting for us when we get back.
 
Officially given up this month already. Looks like I’m not going to ovulate. After over 9 flashing smileyes on the clear blue advanced opks they say you won’t ovulate and I had 10 so I’ve stopped testing now. Going to Crete one week today and looking forward to unwinding.

DH did his SA on Friday so those results will hopefully be waiting for us when we get back.

good luck with his results. I have yet convince my husband to do this test. Af arrived for me again making my cycles very short. It feels like its never going to happen, the longer it takes the worse it gets
 
Social media making me sad this morning. Everyone's back to school picture just reminding me that we are not even close....don't even have a bump...or a bean....Just still an empty shell of a person.

My Oct appt that seemed an age away is gonna come round pretty quick now I think with only one more shot at beat the doctor before then I'm not feeling optimistic. We are both shattered from work and haven't had sex for 2 weeks. After gunning it over fertile period we went back to work after hols and have been knackered since.

On a positive note we have a 3 day weekend this weekend to spend together for our wedding anniversary next week x
 
So I got my letter in today with my next appt at the ivf clinic. Our next appt checks virology bloods and AMH levels and swabs 23rd oct then we go back in November for the results and then they know what protocol we will be on. Only down side is I would be due to start About December but the clinic shut over Christmas so prob start January if there is a space for me .

I am glad the ball is rolling but I'm sad its happening too. Oh and I am terrified it doesn't work.

Nikki whats your next appt for ? To join waiting list for IVF? If so you will have a good few months to beat the doctor yet. I know the school thing is awful seeing all the kids in there uniforms. I hope your doing okay. TTC is exhausting montj after month. We are only trying a few times now in our fertile period as its all too much now approaching 2 years very rapidly now I know we have no chance ... but We will still try I guess. We prob have another 4 cycles before we start IVF
 
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So I got my letter in today with my next appt at the ivf clinic. Our next appt checks virology bloods and AMH levels and swabs 23rd oct then we go back in November for the results and then they know what protocol we will be on. Only down side is I would be due to start About December but the clinic shut over Christmas so prob start January if there is a space for me .

I am glad the ball is rolling but I'm sad its happening too. Oh and I am terrified it doesn't work.

Nikki whats your next appt for ? To join waiting list for IVF? If so you will have a good few months to beat the doctor yet. I know the school thing is awful seeing all the kids in there uniforms. I hope your doing okay. TTC is exhausting montj after month. We are only trying a few times now in our fertile period as its all too much now approaching 2 years very rapidly now I know we have no chance ... but We will still try I guess. We prob have another 4 cycles before we start IVF

Hang in there Alexis....all we can do in this game is try and keep the faith. My OH said the other day he still believes it will happen for us....I told him yo keep believing for the both of us cos deep down I think I lost hope a long time ago.

We ve just had nearly 3 weeks of no sex since last fertile period. Only just getting back in the swing the last couple of days. Both been so busy at work just haven't had the energy.

Not really sure for October appointment she just booked it when we had our first referral appt at the hospital for 3 months time. Cos that was enough time to get the HSG done and keep trying. I have a funny feeling they will just tell us to come back at the 2 year mark which would be fab if they are counting since I had my coil out....which they seem to be. Altho we weren't actively ttc for a couple months after that. I'm not sure what I'm more frightened of.....being told to go away and come back in a few months or being told IVF might be our only option x
 
So I got my letter in today with my next appt at the ivf clinic. Our next appt checks virology bloods and AMH levels and swabs 23rd oct then we go back in November for the results and then they know what protocol we will be on. Only down side is I would be due to start About December but the clinic shut over Christmas so prob start January if there is a space for me .

I am glad the ball is rolling but I'm sad its happening too. Oh and I am terrified it doesn't work.

Nikki whats your next appt for ? To join waiting list for IVF? If so you will have a good few months to beat the doctor yet. I know the school thing is awful seeing all the kids in there uniforms. I hope your doing okay. TTC is exhausting montj after month. We are only trying a few times now in our fertile period as its all too much now approaching 2 years very rapidly now I know we have no chance ... but We will still try I guess. We prob have another 4 cycles before we start IVF

Hang in there Alexis....all we can do in this game is try and keep the faith. My OH said the other day he still believes it will happen for us....I told him yo keep believing for the both of us cos deep down I think I lost hope a long time ago.

We ve just had nearly 3 weeks of no sex since last fertile period. Only just getting back in the swing the last couple of days. Both been so busy at work just haven't had the energy.

Not really sure for October appointment she just booked it when we had our first referral appt at the hospital for 3 months time. Cos that was enough time to get the HSG done and keep trying. I have a funny feeling they will just tell us to come back at the 2 year mark which would be fab if they are counting since I had my coil out....which they seem to be. Altho we weren't actively ttc for a couple months after that. I'm not sure what I'm more frightened of.....being told to go away and come back in a few months or being told IVF might be our only option x


Yeah I have now got to the place I know I will be having IVF. Got myself an IVF diary and just on a mega health kick but still struggling to cut out coffee 100% so having 1 in the mornings and 1 about 3pm or so if I am struggling . I have my smear test soon so can't wait for that treat.

I wish so badly this was all a bad dream but it's happening for whatever unknown reason I can't get pregnant so this is my only shot now. I am mostly scared that if we try it and doesn't work then what do we do? At least at this point we have it all to win
 
So I got my letter in today with my next appt at the ivf clinic. Our next appt checks virology bloods and AMH levels and swabs 23rd oct then we go back in November for the results and then they know what protocol we will be on. Only down side is I would be due to start About December but the clinic shut over Christmas so prob start January if there is a space for me .

I am glad the ball is rolling but I'm sad its happening too. Oh and I am terrified it doesn't work.

Nikki whats your next appt for ? To join waiting list for IVF? If so you will have a good few months to beat the doctor yet. I know the school thing is awful seeing all the kids in there uniforms. I hope your doing okay. TTC is exhausting montj after month. We are only trying a few times now in our fertile period as its all too much now approaching 2 years very rapidly now I know we have no chance ... but We will still try I guess. We prob have another 4 cycles before we start IVF

Hang in there Alexis....all we can do in this game is try and keep the faith. My OH said the other day he still believes it will happen for us....I told him yo keep believing for the both of us cos deep down I think I lost hope a long time ago.

We ve just had nearly 3 weeks of no sex since last fertile period. Only just getting back in the swing the last couple of days. Both been so busy at work just haven't had the energy.

Not really sure for October appointment she just booked it when we had our first referral appt at the hospital for 3 months time. Cos that was enough time to get the HSG done and keep trying. I have a funny feeling they will just tell us to come back at the 2 year mark which would be fab if they are counting since I had my coil out....which they seem to be. Altho we weren't actively ttc for a couple months after that. I'm not sure what I'm more frightened of.....being told to go away and come back in a few months or being told IVF might be our only option x


Yeah I have now got to the place I know I will be having IVF. Got myself an IVF diary and just on a mega health kick but still struggling to cut out coffee 100% so having 1 in the mornings and 1 about 3pm or so if I am struggling . I have my smear test soon so can't wait for that treat.

I wish so badly this was all a bad dream but it's happening for whatever unknown reason I can't get pregnant so this is my only shot now. I am mostly scared that if we try it and doesn't work then what do we do? At least at this point we have it all to win


How many rounds do u get on nhs Alexis? I guess you have to put the failure option out of your mind for as long as you possibly can. The success rates with IVF are pretty good these days and if this was the oath you were meant to take then I believe it can still happen for you.

Well done to you on the health kick....every now and again I think I should lose a little weight. I'm not big....I'm a size 16 and I'm nearly 6ft so as people always point out i 'carry it well' but I do wonder if it would help. They never mentioned my weight at the last appt but I suppose they might this time.

Did u have to be a certain BMI for ivf? I've read somewhere that you do on the nhs x
 
So I got my letter in today with my next appt at the ivf clinic. Our next appt checks virology bloods and AMH levels and swabs 23rd oct then we go back in November for the results and then they know what protocol we will be on. Only down side is I would be due to start About December but the clinic shut over Christmas so prob start January if there is a space for me .

I am glad the ball is rolling but I'm sad its happening too. Oh and I am terrified it doesn't work.

Nikki whats your next appt for ? To join waiting list for IVF? If so you will have a good few months to beat the doctor yet. I know the school thing is awful seeing all the kids in there uniforms. I hope your doing okay. TTC is exhausting montj after month. We are only trying a few times now in our fertile period as its all too much now approaching 2 years very rapidly now I know we have no chance ... but We will still try I guess. We prob have another 4 cycles before we start IVF

Hang in there Alexis....all we can do in this game is try and keep the faith. My OH said the other day he still believes it will happen for us....I told him yo keep believing for the both of us cos deep down I think I lost hope a long time ago.

We ve just had nearly 3 weeks of no sex since last fertile period. Only just getting back in the swing the last couple of days. Both been so busy at work just haven't had the energy.

Not really sure for October appointment she just booked it when we had our first referral appt at the hospital for 3 months time. Cos that was enough time to get the HSG done and keep trying. I have a funny feeling they will just tell us to come back at the 2 year mark which would be fab if they are counting since I had my coil out....which they seem to be. Altho we weren't actively ttc for a couple months after that. I'm not sure what I'm more frightened of.....being told to go away and come back in a few months or being told IVF might be our only option x


Yeah I have now got to the place I know I will be having IVF. Got myself an IVF diary and just on a mega health kick but still struggling to cut out coffee 100% so having 1 in the mornings and 1 about 3pm or so if I am struggling . I have my smear test soon so can't wait for that treat.

I wish so badly this was all a bad dream but it's happening for whatever unknown reason I can't get pregnant so this is my only shot now. I am mostly scared that if we try it and doesn't work then what do we do? At least at this point we have it all to win


How many rounds do u get on nhs Alexis? I guess you have to put the failure option out of your mind for as long as you possibly can. The success rates with IVF are pretty good these days and if this was the oath you were meant to take then I believe it can still happen for you.

Well done to you on the health kick....every now and again I think I should lose a little weight. I'm not big....I'm a size 16 and I'm nearly 6ft so as people always point out i 'carry it well' but I do wonder if it would help. They never mentioned my weight at the last appt but I suppose they might this time.

Did u have to be a certain BMI for ivf? I've read somewhere that you do on the nhs x


Hey we get 3 rounds free on NHS so 1 round counts as your fresh transfer then using up any frozen embryos you also had from that 1st round then same happens with 2nd and 3rd. The clinic we are going to have a big reno last year and there stats are now 1 in 3 transfers result in a live birth so I was hoping that means 1 of my 3 rounds will work?? I am just hoping we have never got the timing right and this should in theory work.

I am nervous about all the screening tests as you start to worry about what they find ...I always think the worst ! I am more nervous about the AMH results as I don't want to find out I have low ovarian reserve but I guess I need to know these things.

I am a size 10/12 but used to be a size 8-10 before all this started and I habe been comfort eating alot so want to loose a stone asap for treatment starting in about 3 months time. I think it's bmi 30 or less to have IVF
 
So I got my letter in today with my next appt at the ivf clinic. Our next appt checks virology bloods and AMH levels and swabs 23rd oct then we go back in November for the results and then they know what protocol we will be on. Only down side is I would be due to start About December but the clinic shut over Christmas so prob start January if there is a space for me .

I am glad the ball is rolling but I'm sad its happening too. Oh and I am terrified it doesn't work.

Nikki whats your next appt for ? To join waiting list for IVF? If so you will have a good few months to beat the doctor yet. I know the school thing is awful seeing all the kids in there uniforms. I hope your doing okay. TTC is exhausting montj after month. We are only trying a few times now in our fertile period as its all too much now approaching 2 years very rapidly now I know we have no chance ... but We will still try I guess. We prob have another 4 cycles before we start IVF

Hang in there Alexis....all we can do in this game is try and keep the faith. My OH said the other day he still believes it will happen for us....I told him yo keep believing for the both of us cos deep down I think I lost hope a long time ago.

We ve just had nearly 3 weeks of no sex since last fertile period. Only just getting back in the swing the last couple of days. Both been so busy at work just haven't had the energy.

Not really sure for October appointment she just booked it when we had our first referral appt at the hospital for 3 months time. Cos that was enough time to get the HSG done and keep trying. I have a funny feeling they will just tell us to come back at the 2 year mark which would be fab if they are counting since I had my coil out....which they seem to be. Altho we weren't actively ttc for a couple months after that. I'm not sure what I'm more frightened of.....being told to go away and come back in a few months or being told IVF might be our only option x


Yeah I have now got to the place I know I will be having IVF. Got myself an IVF diary and just on a mega health kick but still struggling to cut out coffee 100% so having 1 in the mornings and 1 about 3pm or so if I am struggling . I have my smear test soon so can't wait for that treat.

I wish so badly this was all a bad dream but it's happening for whatever unknown reason I can't get pregnant so this is my only shot now. I am mostly scared that if we try it and doesn't work then what do we do? At least at this point we have it all to win


How many rounds do u get on nhs Alexis? I guess you have to put the failure option out of your mind for as long as you possibly can. The success rates with IVF are pretty good these days and if this was the oath you were meant to take then I believe it can still happen for you.

Well done to you on the health kick....every now and again I think I should lose a little weight. I'm not big....I'm a size 16 and I'm nearly 6ft so as people always point out i 'carry it well' but I do wonder if it would help. They never mentioned my weight at the last appt but I suppose they might this time.

Did u have to be a certain BMI for ivf? I've read somewhere that you do on the nhs x


Hey we get 3 rounds free on NHS so 1 round counts as your fresh transfer then using up any frozen embryos you also had from that 1st round then same happens with 2nd and 3rd. The clinic we are going to have a big reno last year and there stats are now 1 in 3 transfers result in a live birth so I was hoping that means 1 of my 3 rounds will work?? I am just hoping we have never got the timing right and this should in theory work.

I am nervous about all the screening tests as you start to worry about what they find ...I always think the worst ! I am more nervous about the AMH results as I don't want to find out I have low ovarian reserve but I guess I need to know these things.

I am a size 10/12 but used to be a size 8-10 before all this started and I habe been comfort eating alot so want to loose a stone asap for treatment starting in about 3 months time. I think it's bmi 30 or less to have IVF

The odds are deflooking good then Alexis. And I would think the odds are probably stronger for those with unexplained infertility than for those with diagnosed fertility problems.

I best get back to slimming world then me thinks. I'm def over 30 BMi but have been pretty steady in my weight for a while. I lost a bit for our wedding then put about 1 and a half stone back on. Sounds a lot but because of my height that amount is only just about a dress size for me. But I have maintained my weight within the same half stone over the last 2 years and just go up or down a bit depending on how much I'm riding usually x
 
Cycle day 26 for me today and surprise surprise the spotting has begun. It’ll probably be dragged out for a couple of days as per usual. The thought of having to do this for another year until I can get ivf is guttering. Aaaagh.
 
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Cycle day 26 for me today and surprise surprise the spotting has begun. It’ll probably be dragged out for a couple of days as per usual. The thought of having to do this for another year until I can get ivf is guttering. Aaaagh.

Aw peony. It's just so brutual. The one thing that's tells us our body is working is the same thing that reminds us that is it not doing what we want it to.

Our chances this month are pretty slim. Hubby has 2 nights away for work this week right across our fertile period and we both snowed under with work so no idea how many chances we will actually get to try. Ah well it only takes one shot so they say lmfao I stopped believing that a long time ago x
 
Well today is the day....our 3 year wedding anniversary. A day i never thought i would see with just the two of us. But I'm counting my blessings because I am so lucky I have a loving husband who adores me and I adore him in return....And if that's all the love we are meant to have then tthats ok...we have each other x
 
Happy anniversay Nikki. I know how you feel, I celebrated 4 years married lin July. We just got to find hope and keep going.

One of my wee silkie hens died in my arms this morning. Feeling sad all day. I had to deal with a work colleague tellibg me to get a grip when I told them I was sad about my hen dying suddenly. Meh ppl don't get it . My pets are my babies !
 
Hi ladies, I’m new to this forum but been ttc nearly 2 years. I never thought this journey would be this hard! I have tried nearly everything and it’s starting to really affect my mood, I’m emotional a lot of the time especially at the end of the 2ww!
I was convinced this cycle we had done it, we was on holiday at the time used the smep method with preseed everytime. I really had a good feeling about it all. Then a week before af was due I started getting mild achey cramps, something I never get until the day of af, then I was two days late, again I’m never late you could practically tell the time when af arrives. So I actually started to get my hopes up. Then after two days brown spotting started then eventually af. I’m gutted.
I’m going to try and go back to the doctors again today. I had my bloods done 11 months ago and the doctor said it could be taken on any day of cycle, which I’ve since read should be done on days 3 and 21 or something, so not sure how accurate mine was but all was fine. She wasn’t very helpful and not really concerned given my age, early forties, and we’d been ttc over a year then. Hopefully I’ll have more luck today.
It’s nice to find somewhere with people in similar situation, all my friends have children and my bf has two young children and sometimes feel they don’t really understand how I’m feeling x
 
Happy anniversay Nikki. I know how you feel, I celebrated 4 years married lin July. We just got to find hope and keep going.

One of my wee silkie hens died in my arms this morning. Feeling sad all day. I had to deal with a work colleague tellibg me to get a grip when I told them I was sad about my hen dying suddenly. Meh ppl don't get it . My pets are my babies !

Aw how sad Alexis at these you were able to hold her so she felt safe. We lost our family jack russell a few weeks ago and I sobbed for about 3 days on and off. We pour love into these creatures cos they give us love in return. Xx
 
Hi ladies, I’m new to this forum but been ttc nearly 2 years. I never thought this journey would be this hard! I have tried nearly everything and it’s starting to really affect my mood, I’m emotional a lot of the time especially at the end of the 2ww!
I was convinced this cycle we had done it, we was on holiday at the time used the smep method with preseed everytime. I really had a good feeling about it all. Then a week before af was due I started getting mild achey cramps, something I never get until the day of af, then I was two days late, again I’m never late you could practically tell the time when af arrives. So I actually started to get my hopes up. Then after two days brown spotting started then eventually af. I’m gutted.
I’m going to try and go back to the doctors again today. I had my bloods done 11 months ago and the doctor said it could be taken on any day of cycle, which I’ve since read should be done on days 3 and 21 or something, so not sure how accurate mine was but all was fine. She wasn’t very helpful and not really concerned given my age, early forties, and we’d been ttc over a year then. Hopefully I’ll have more luck today.
It’s nice to find somewhere with people in similar situation, all my friends have children and my bf has two young children and sometimes feel they don’t really understand how I’m feeling x

Welcome to the thread pebbles. This forum and this thread of lovely ladies have helped me immensely over the past 18 months. It is lovely to have somewhere you can not only get advice but openly rant and vent frustrations that other people just could not understand.

I hope the docs are more help for you. Mine was surprisingly upbeat when we first went as I'm 31 he said we had time but he did say if i was early forties they would treat it different so hope you can give them a kick and get them to run some more tests for your peace of mind x
 
Has anyone on here tried reflexology and or acupuncture? I think Alexis you have talked about acupuncture before?

From what I can tell there is no evidence that is conclusive to say that either could support fertility. I just wondered if anyone had experience. Reflexology in particular for relaxation and stress reduction I wondered if maybe could help indirectly?

Clutched at straws I guess but sick of feeling like there is nothing we can do x
 
Has anyone on here tried reflexology and or acupuncture? I think Alexis you have talked about acupuncture before?

From what I can tell there is no evidence that is conclusive to say that either could support fertility. I just wondered if anyone had experience. Reflexology in particular for relaxation and stress reduction I wondered if maybe could help indirectly?

Clutched at straws I guess but sick of feeling like there is nothing we can do x

Hi well I’ve had both and it is relaxing but didn’t really do much else for me think it lengthened my cycle by a few days but that was it.
Well I saw a doctor today and this one took me much more seriously. Apparently the blood tests I had 11 months ago would have been accurate but she said as a while ago we’ll repeat again 7 days before next period. Has also referred me to a fertility clinic as urgent so I will wait to hear. My blood pressure was high and she wants me to have it checked again next week. I was feeling very low and emotional today and got stuck in bad traffic getting to appointment which probably didn’t help. But spoke to bf tonight and he is happy to have his sperm checked, which I wasn’t sure he would be. Being typical man and has two young children already and has so far been under the impression that all will be fine but think he’s realised how upset I’ve been.
So feeling a little more positive than I was earliar.

How long have you been trying @Nikkibiscuit?
 
@Pebbles we have been TTC for 17 months now I think...my signature underneath has our story for where we up to so far with docs etc. But the months start to roll together now!
 

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