I posted the other day about being pissed off with my OH texting a girl he works with out of work. On saturday I was watching the telly and he was sitting on the PC- I looked up and could see him on MSN so asked who he was talking to- NOT in an accusing way I was just curious. He said "some bird he hasn't spoken to in ages, who "he doesn't know where she lives". Now, before me and OH were together we were "friends with benefits" and he was quite open with the fact he used to find girls he thought were attractive and add them to MSN- his whole MSN contact list is made up of girls he barely knows but thught he'd try his luck with. We moved in together back in July/August but have onlt just got our broadband sorted so he hasn't spoken to these girls in a long time- as far as I know...
It erupted into a big argument with me saying that it made me feel like shit and that if he wanted to be a family man then he had to give up that kind of thing- I don't do it out of respect for him and I don't feel like I get that respect back. He basically said that I tell him he's not allowed to do ANYTHING. He got up, picked up his keys and told me to 'F OFF' and said he was going out (he didn't in the end- he went outside and fiddled with some car parts) After a couple of hours, some tears (from me) and the silent treatment (from him); I tried to talk to him and he just ignored me. About half an hour later h came and gave me a cuddle- no apology, no "I love you".
THEN last night, we went to the local pool club with one of his mates- I don't normally mind just watching (I CAN'T PLAY TO SAVE MY LIFE!) but last night I was getting really bad Braxton Hicks and baby was kicking me like hell so all I really wanted to do was go home. About 9 (an hour after we'd got there) he went to get a drink and I just said "it's 9'o clock" thinking that was enough of a hint for him to work out that I was uncomfortable and wanted to go home. He looked at me, threw his wallet down on the table and stropped off back to the table. When his mate went to the loo, I asked what he had the ache about and he told me yet again that I "don't even let him have a drink".
I feel like I am treading on eggshells with him- he's not affectionate towards me, unless sex is a possibilty and he refused to come to antenatal classes with me because they are "boring" (TRY BEING PREGNANT FOR 40 WEEKS!
). Its not fair to bring a baby into the middle of a relationship like that- but I don't know how I can make it better without him making an effort too, which he wont.
I feel like I'm banging my head on a brick wall.
It erupted into a big argument with me saying that it made me feel like shit and that if he wanted to be a family man then he had to give up that kind of thing- I don't do it out of respect for him and I don't feel like I get that respect back. He basically said that I tell him he's not allowed to do ANYTHING. He got up, picked up his keys and told me to 'F OFF' and said he was going out (he didn't in the end- he went outside and fiddled with some car parts) After a couple of hours, some tears (from me) and the silent treatment (from him); I tried to talk to him and he just ignored me. About half an hour later h came and gave me a cuddle- no apology, no "I love you".
THEN last night, we went to the local pool club with one of his mates- I don't normally mind just watching (I CAN'T PLAY TO SAVE MY LIFE!) but last night I was getting really bad Braxton Hicks and baby was kicking me like hell so all I really wanted to do was go home. About 9 (an hour after we'd got there) he went to get a drink and I just said "it's 9'o clock" thinking that was enough of a hint for him to work out that I was uncomfortable and wanted to go home. He looked at me, threw his wallet down on the table and stropped off back to the table. When his mate went to the loo, I asked what he had the ache about and he told me yet again that I "don't even let him have a drink".
I feel like I am treading on eggshells with him- he's not affectionate towards me, unless sex is a possibilty and he refused to come to antenatal classes with me because they are "boring" (TRY BEING PREGNANT FOR 40 WEEKS!
). Its not fair to bring a baby into the middle of a relationship like that- but I don't know how I can make it better without him making an effort too, which he wont. I feel like I'm banging my head on a brick wall.
sounds like he has put you in a righ possition with it all...
