How are all you new mummies doing?

[Natalilly1288]

Macie's used to being in the car alot too as I'm always nipping about I'm rarely in it's not been dark when she's started doing it n she's got a mirror n toys on car I just don't understand it she's always crabby between 5-6 as she gets ready for her bath n bed at 6 but normally when we fetch him she has a nap n doesn't make a murmur it's been everytime I put her in car seat this past 3 days she's started screaming then calmed down after a bit except for when we fetch pete at 6 I've tried diff music switching it up down off! It's awful I'm worried I'm going to have an accident as it's literally screaming tue was 51 mins wed 57 n today 48 mins non stop screaming until I took her out of car seat I even thought of putting her in front with me but don't want to compromise her safety and ISO fix base is in back xxxxxx

 

[Natalilly1288]

That's meavt to say fetch pete at 5 xxx

 

[StaceyRainbow]

Macie's used to being in the car alot too as I'm always nipping about I'm rarely in it's not been dark when she's started doing it n she's got a mirror n toys on car I just don't understand it she's always crabby between 5-6 as she gets ready for her bath n bed at 6 but normally when we fetch him she has a nap n doesn't make a murmur it's been everytime I put her in car seat this past 3 days she's started screaming then calmed down after a bit except for when we fetch pete at 6 I've tried diff music switching it up down off! It's awful I'm worried I'm going to have an accident as it's literally screaming tue was 51 mins wed 57 n today 48 mins non stop screaming until I took her out of car seat I even thought of putting her in front with me but don't want to compromise her safety and ISO fix base is in back xxxxxx

Can you turn off the airbags in the front of your car? I would consider putting her in the front if she is screaming for that long, but then is she starts doing it in the front she could end up distracting you more? X

 

[mrs_b_x]

I duno if I'd trust a turned off airbag?! That's just always been my thought!

Without prying too much, why do u need the car everyday nat? Do u not live within walking distance of things?

I saw ur post on fb about that documentary as bex had commented on it, sounds like I might need to watch it, sounds controversial! X

 

[StaceyRainbow]

Is it that peadophile hunter documentary it's deffo worth a watch, but ultimately just shows how crap and f***** 'the system'really is 99% of the guys caught got suspended sentences and didn't serve any time in prison!!! Absolutely insane IMO

In other news I'm at specsavers tomorrow As my eyes have stated hurting, I'm supposed to wear glasses but don't like to as when I take them off my eyes feel even worse!
My last employers give paid time off for the lads going to ante natal classes, I thought everywhere did to be honest!

 

[Pumpkin9]

arrgghh, was about to go to bed, thought i'd just look at some of the photos ive taken on our camera as ive been sorting them all out. Looked at first one, thought 'that's fuzzy i'll delete it' and then as ive deleted it, realised it was actually a really good video of hubby blowing bubbles at thomas.

Now got to stay up and try and recover the damn thing.. can't believe my stupidity sometimes.

 

[Pumpkin9]

If anything happens to my parents there will be nothing! Il prob have to pay for there funerals they haven't got a pot to p**s in lol
I'm at my wits end we can only afford one car so I have to take n fetch pete from work n when I fetch him Macie has started screaming for the full 50 mins it takes to get there and back! This is the 3rd night now a d today she's started screaming everytime I put her in the car seat! Arghhh xxx

Is it because of the dark? do you have a reading light in the back you can keep on? Or do you have ewan? That helps austin!

If it's day time we bought a mirror which seemed to help massively at first. Now he's not bothered.

I need to rant! I love my in laws very much. They're lovely people but I'm getting extremely annoyed with them. I have asked hubby on several occasions to ask them not to Ring the house phone yet they still do. If it's not a bloody emergency ring mobile & we will call back. I've asked this of everyone from day 1 of bringing austin home yet FIL & his step mother persistently do it!! How difficult is it?! They've just rang again at 8pm. I swear if have gone ape if they'd have woke him.

We've said the same to everyone about ringing house phone. If anyone rings after 7, I hang up straight away. They will get the idea.

feel your pain, my parents have done this twice to me! (we don't give out our home phone number to anyone, only close family). I don't think ive ever sprinted as quick to the phone as both times it was when thomas was asleep in our room and we have a phone in our bedroom.

First time my mum apologised and said that she told my dad that thomas would be asleep but he insisted. Second time my dad did it.. I was like er.. hello phone my mobile like your normally do in the day!! FFS. They've learnt now lol.

 

[Natalilly1288]

I live in a village n I do use the bus sometimes to get to my mums it's about 4 miles but now I'm back at work It's too much faff as buses are only every hour I hate not having a car to nip about the only thing in my village is small tesco we need yo look at getting a small cheap run about but funds won't allow ATM
I've hardly been able to sleep now I've watched that peadofile hunter last night it really touches a raw nerve with me as my grandad that I lived with growing up is currently serving a 14 year jail sentence for bring a paedo not to me I might add but I had to give evidence in court n it was horrific it really did destroy our family and it took me a long time to get over it having a girl ( not that it doesn't happen to boys) makes me so anixous n worried I no it's silly really but it's just so awful xxxx

 

[mrs_b_x]

Ah I see that is a pain in the bum, I forgot u were back at work! Hopefully it won't be long til u can get something to help make it easier.

That's so horrible Nat I'm so sorry u had to go through that. I really sympathise with the anxiety, I work in a prison and have to read and write about stuff like that all day, and I found when I had Ryan I was so ridiculously anxious about leaving him with people cuz I'm so scared of it happening to him, but then I'm scared of loads of stuff cuz of my job!! It's got easier as he's got older but it is still scary xx

 

[Natalilly1288]

Thanks Hun I just find it hard that someone I thought so much of for the first 22 years of my life could have done something so horrendous I'm normally ok about it now it took a lot of counselling n was even on anti depressants at one point but I managed to put it behind me until Macie came along it was actually my health visitor that bought it up when I was 27 weeks she needed to know I wasn't in contact with him then they bought it up again whist I was in labour as the have to do some sort of report I understand they have to do these things but made me feel horrendous I shouldn't have watched that programme last night they say curiosity killed the cat which is true as after I had given my evidence I went into court to listen to the rest of it which I shouldn't have as it was awful so I really feel for you having to deal with stuff like that daily! Xxx

 

[mrs_b_x]

That must be so hard and horrible to go back over it at a time that should be happy. It's weird at my job as with most stuff morbid curiosity takes over, murders, gang stuff, terrorism and drug stuff becomes very normal. New one comes in 'whats he in?' 'Oh just murder' it has to be something unique to shock you eventually. But the sex crimes are always too much for me. I hate how normal they are when u talk to them! Some of them seem like the nicest men in the world which I'm sure ur all too aware of xx

 

[Mummybexee]

Crikey nat how awful

I live 1/2 mile from a guy Stinson caught he lives opposite a primary school - may I add with his brother who is also ordered to sign sex offenders register due to sex with a minor

The council havnt moved them or anything awful!

 

[Natalilly1288]

That's horrendous bex! I bet they get some right abuse tho or do the police protect them?! X

 

[mrs_b_x]

That should say what's he in for*

 

[Natalilly1288]

I think if be interested in all the other stuff I just find stuff with children so horrendous and then last night on the programme there was the bloke that thought the girl was 11 with autism think it was that as my sister is 11 in December n has autism that's the reason all the stuff with my grandad came out in the first place as the 2 victims saw what an easy target she would be xxxx

 

[Jojo84]

Nat that sounds like such an awful thing for your family, I didn't watch the padophile hunters thing because it made me too angry, firstly because they hardly ever get the punishment they deserve and also because I don't agree with vigilantes or putting peoples names out in public as a friend of my husband was beaten up in a pub because he had the same name as a padophile.

Our company works with padophile and sex offenders when they get a conviction and provide in house forensic services. They usually wear a tag and must have staff with them 24/7 - I can't usually do them thankfully because I'm female - but we also have a few female padophile a I've had to go and works for and it's not nice, but we have to be completely impartial and that's hard but a necessity, it's a dangerous job for the staff (this is also why I'm not in favour if vigilantes) because were helping padophile so but were also putting a barrier between then reoffending... Some of them have klearning disabilities and have trouble understanding why what they're doing is wrong so it's a very very tough job sometimes and I'm so thankful I don't have to do it much.... I worry about my impartiality when I return to work as having a child does change things, but if I do go back to forensics I will have to shut it all out. My dad sometimes does forensic services and he finds it very hard and as asked to limit his hours but there's so few people who will do the work at all he does sometimes have to do it.


On a different topic... Does anyone know if the babies need their flu jab or if that's included in their inoculations? I have to take my grandma for hers a week on Saturday and it got me thinking about it. I'm supposed to be going to the HV fir a weigh of Luke but I'm so nervous of it - she makes me. Dry paranoid. He's 7 months today - I can't believe it!

 

[iWitch]

How awful nat! I thought I had it bad working in social services & having family that neglect their children. Can't imagine ever having to go through that. Very brave of you to give evidence.

I have the programme recorded after watching a couple of clips on fb. I admire what this Stinson Hunter is doing! JoJo he's not just naming people, he's showing their faces! It's scary how normal some of them are. The clip I watched was of the one who was walking the dog. Shocked at his job! He needed an advanced crb for that & obviously cleared it because he's never been caught.

 

[Jojo84]

Our staff hsve been attacked by vigilantes in the past and even though this guy is peaceful - I believe he gives their names to the police and doesn't act himself - some arebt and some just act on hunches and dont care if they're wrong. They're the dangerous ones and sometimes if harms them more than the paedophile - people have been jailed for hurting a paedophile for longer than they serve for the act!

The police need more funding and resources but that shoukd mean resources need to be cut from other areas and that's not always possible. They also need to do something win legislation so that paedophiles can get tougher sentences, because that's just a joke what they're getting for the crimes they commit and lives they ruin.

 

[Mummybexee]

stinson is fully aware of the risks- also being run over and having bad injuries hasnt put him off. his passion and determination is what makes him get up to so it everyday. Hes aware of the risks associated however hes been diong this for more than 3 years and knows his stuff.

on a different note- im managing one of my trucks which is been involved in an RTA when this happens we all have to jump through hoops and get stuff sorted.

the driver of the car has approached cross roads from teh left - to turn right. we have gone through our green lights...obviously you should give way to turn right...shes come out of no where.

the 3 children aged between 8-12 aer out of the vehicle and alert - however the trucks main impact point was driver door- the women ( mum ) was trapped inside with injuries ( the extent unknown ) and had to be cut out- roof off the car

our drivers are extreamly shaken as are the kids. Hate it when this happens as beign a HGV we have to provide the masses amounts of legal documentation that comes with operating them.

happy friday! just praying shes ok and kisd are ok!

 

[Maud]

Have missed our prepaid activity today due to sleepy baby Hate wasting money and now I need to find something else to do to get us out of the house so will probably end up going to buy ingredients to bake a cake and so spend even more money!