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How are all you new mummies doing?

We said we were trying at Christmas but very tempted to start now and see what happens.
 
Harry does that too bless him screeching away!! We r guna try again end of this yr too can't wait.

Michelle.x
 
After the way my employer has treated hubby I'm dreading going back! Spoken to CAB and now back on ohone to ACAS trying to find out if we can cause some upheaval with the way he's been dealt with

I really wish we could afford to have another baby - only way we could afford it was if we sold up and went into rented !
 
Aw Bex I hope you get sorted. All the ladies wanting to TTC I wish you all the best of luck. I think we are sticking with just Joseph. I don't have any desire to have another one (this may change time will tell). Joseph hasn't hit the screeching stage and I am hoping that he doesn't. x
 
im a bit worried because we wanted 2 but now im kinda wanting 3 lol. one when luke is about 18mths-2 years and anpother a few years after. i think i might need to halt myself lol
 
Just the two for us hopefully I really want to get on with trying because if I have probs like last time I need to know sooner rather than later.

I hope u can get things sorted Bexs there is never a right time to have another but there is better circumstances I suppose.

Michelle.x
 
PAH! ACAS have again said they are within their rights - but could try compo claim route - so frustrating!

Not even entitled to any tax credits or working tax credit because I earn more than 26k a year!

Pile
Of
Shit
 
Aw Bex that is crap. Yep unfortunately you won't be. I used to work in tax credits. Bloody hated it. I hope things start to turn a corner for you x
 
I just don't understand how I'm not Entitled because despite earning 26k - I've been on maternity pay for 20 weeks and hubby is out of work - but because we are paying for childcare and he's out of work they say we Arnt entitled because he can look after baby! That almost says - don't bother looking for work!!
 
It was only when I went swimming that I realised I have no idea when AF is due! I think it's been about 5-6 weeks since my last ? I guess my hormones are still all out of whack.

Went to mediation today, just a one-on-one with the mediator to discuss everything. Next one with be with my and Craig and the mediator. I was quite happy today as craig phoned me as traffic was busy so he was letting me know he was going to be late. In the end he was still on time, but it was good of him to actually let me know. He had text me this morning to say he forgot hayleys bag so asking if i could give him everything she would need for the 3 hours he would have her, i said yes but he needs to be more organised next time. I'm hoping he continues to be civil, but i need to remember it was just on sunday when he refused to bring her pram and bag down the stairs to my front door whilst i was inside holding hayley, so he can go from 1 extreme to the next in just a few days.

That's rubbish bex! You're lucky that you do have such a well paying job, but it's annoying when they have rules in place that basically say your soo much better off not working at all
 
Bex, had a similar issue. My boss tried to make me redundant while I was pregnant, then basically forced me out. I could have taken them to court. Even the HR lady said I could. She resigned soon after as she couldn't believe how the company treated people. Anyway, I couldn't because my oh worked for the same company. They knew I wouldn't do anything to cause him issues so got away with it.

So your oh lost his job because he can't work cause he's injured, and yet they want him to care for a baby? That's just ridiculous.

Kaedin, he's obviously been told by his solicitor to be civil in the hope you back down.
 
It's rubbish Bex. I remember when I worked on that section if one parent isn't working they won't pay for childcare as that parent is available to look after that child. It's crap I know but that is the hard way they look at it. It's a stupid system. I hated working on it as I used to get so irate x
 
Bex, sorry if I'm being dumb here, but as tax credits won't give you some money could your OH not look after oscar u too he does find something? ThT would save you some much needed money.
 
The benefit system is pretty shit!

Austin had a bad cough & wheezing from last thurs. Had him at docs tues & they have him amoxicillin. Tues he was faffy with his food but still had some, yesterday would eat at all (still took milk). Since 2am this morning, I've changed 4 dirty nappies! Guessing no food has loosened him right up, if not he has a bad tummy :(
 
Sorry to hear that Bexs it seems such a stupid system to me that only helps those already on benefits, we looked into wen I was redundant n because of hubby wage we won't receive anything either. I'm guessing u don't Wana lose his place at nursery if hubby then gets a job.

Michelle.x
 
aw well that's our wedding anniversary knackered. Huuby has just got his shifts for the week of our anniversary he'a at work on the sunday, off the monday, work tuesday, wednesday (our anniversary), thursday and saturday. we were hoping to book a night away but we have no chance with these shifts. never mind can't be helped x
 
Aw that's a shame hun, hope u get to do sumthing.

Michelle.x
 
Thanks Michelle. I hate his shifts at times. They have a rolling shift pattern but every 6 weeks you have 2 relief weeks which you only get a max of 4 weeks in advance. He starts he course the following week as well so if we want a night away we will have to try and do it the week before but he is at work that weekend and my mam looks after my niece during the week so we might just have to scrap it x
 
My hubby works shifts but not as bad as that, hope u can manage to get away me n hubby r planning a little trip in a month up to Kent just trying to find sumwhere nice to stay that's not really expensive!!

Michelle.x
 
Bex, sorry if I'm being dumb here, but as tax credits won't give you some money could your OH not look after oscar u too he does find something? ThT would save you some much needed money.

Sort of - he can't pick Oscar off the floor with his bad back though ... Or lift him from the bath etc - but we have paid for September nursery fees already - and I have to give a months notice to changes to his nursery so come the start of sept I'll have to give notice - then what if hubby gets a job ? His nursery place won't be available - good baby spaces in this area are hard to come by - we are going to keep him in for a couple of months and re asses - Oscar is at a very good nursery with a fantastic reputation - with a waiting list

ATM we don't want to comprise that so soon - if that makes sense- We'd kick ourselves if hubby got a job after we had pulled him out - not going to jump the gun too quickly
 

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