i did say on my post that there are some women who find it harder to give up than others and that they are at least trying, i was critical of mothers who dont seem to give a shite and don't have any shame about lighting up with a huge bump whilst talking to me at the bus stop. i understand as someone who was a heavy smoker before i got pregnant how hard it is..i personally found it hard but the guilt was too bad just because someone else finds it harder than that and has a slip it doesn't make them a bad mum..so plz don't think thats what i'm saying.. 
