Grrrrrrr!!!!!

[laurat]

Well I wish I was updating with news of my IUI starting in a couple of weeks. June is the 16 month wait finally up but found out this afternoon that 16 months wait was for a bloody letter!!!!

Finally got in touch with the hospital after countless non anwering of the phone. The hospital are a nightmare. Anyway I ask so I was told IUI was a 16 month wait and June was my 16 months. She said oh its gone up slightly. Ok then whats the script I ask. Well I have missed the end of May sign off as she called it (basically when you get your letter) so I SHOULD get sent a letter at the end of June! So when does the actual treatment begin is in fact all I care about. After all the humming and avoidance basically it eventually comes out its at least 3 months till the treatment starts. After bloods and forms and all sorts! So 16 months is for a letter. What a pile of rubbish!!!

I am officially GUTTED and feel yet again a big bloody slap in the face. Ive held out for June, longed, hoped and it suited in June as its my summer holidays. Now to be told September! Stupid body not working its been 16 blooming months. Im having a rage and freak out! No ovulation nothing! No chance of anything. Now another 4 months!!!
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[itisbabytime]

Oh god how frustrating! It amazes me how unhelpful they are.

 

[rea2012]

I'm not surprised you're gutted and angry Laurat... Having a focus of when something's going to actually happen makes all this somewhat bearable and when it's dragged 3 months away it's crushing... Keep venting till it's all out hun xx then do something nice for yourself

 

[nicky1987]

Oh my love - that is just shit!! Its so unfair and cruel

 

[JJ Mum]

Hugs , that's ridiculus, they should be more clear on actual full wait times inc the 3 mths, as it's far too long for you to have to wait at 16 mths XX

 

[hayes]

Im sorry to hear this hun, bloody hospitals they never make anything clear.

Michelle. x

 

[skeando]

I feel you pain (

3 months feels like forever... I am just trying to look at it like I have the summer to relax since I have now a date for an appt (albeit not till aug).

I guess we just need to think that we might as well make the most of this summer, as next summer we may be pg or have a new baby to run about after /

 

[Gizzy Kelly]

It sounds like an utter nightmare up there Laurat! I really feel for you. All I can say is that we are all here to support you. Try and think of it in terms of cycles rather than months so 3 more periods. I know this might not help but I always think that speaking in terms of cycles makes it sound less. Big hugs! I think you are very cool on the phone I would have been banned by now! xxx

 

[laurat]

Thank girls, the most depressing thing is that its just another 4 months of absolutely nothing. I can't even get a glimour of hope as just nothing is working so no chance of a BFP at al. I know most of you are to opposite but I every day wish to see the bloody witch!!! At least Id know I had ovulated. Its all just typical for us lltc's we all need a wee bit of what each other have! Glad weve got each other though! Xxx

 

[blondy13]

Oh Laura they are so rubbish!! I just can't believe they can mess you around so much!!
If I was you I'd be tempted to write to your PCT and complain, it just seems ridiculous.
I don't understand how the wait can be to receive a letter- that's just pointless, and why didn't your private doc tell you this when you saw her? Did she mention it at all?
Feel free to rant away on here honey, and I completely understand what it feels like to not even have a shot too
Hope you have a nice weekend in the Sun, and why don't you book a nice summer holiday to have something else to look forward to?
Xxxxx

 

[NickNack]

Hi Laurat

I can relate and know exactly how you feel Hun..the waiting game is so painful!

When i had my ectopic i had to wait 3 months before we could try again that 3 months felt like 3 years!! - before they gave us the go ahead to try again i had to go back in for a scan to check everything was ok to find out one of my tubes was blocked and then we had to wait until September to recieve IVF if we didnt fsll pregnant naturally. So im playing the waiting game aswell and boy does it suck. 3 months to go and again it every day feels like torture!

Im excited for the appointment but also setting myself up for another wait after the september appointment because although the doctor says i will have my first cycle within 16weeks from that appointment realistically with the NHS i dont see us starting till 2013 as i know how long everything takes.

I dont understand why they make us wait so long - just make it happen!!!!

I even have a countdown on my desk at work and i tick of the days to the appointment (sad i know) but i know when i go to my appointment to tell the doctor "guess what im not pregnant" and he says "ok lets start IVF" Im going to be in for yet another wait!!

So i 100% feel your frustrations. and unfortunatly it is out of our control so we have to try and find comfort in other things to get us through. Its so hard though.

Lets just hope the next 3 months fly by!!

Nicks x

 

[LouiseB]

Honestly Laura, get in touch with the PCT. They'll contact the hospital on your behalf and request clarification on the situation and request answers that they can dodge giving you.

Apparently it gives them a pile of paperwork to sort through and they'll hopefully push you through to avoid getting any more

Which is your PCT?

 

[Princess81]

I'm sorry you've had such awful awful treatment. How disheartening for you x

 

[laurat]

I dont think we have a PCT in Scotland Lou!

 

[skeando]

PCT is just like a health board I think, so it will be Greater Glasgow and Clyde or whatever it's called.

 

[LouiseB]

Bloomin 'eck

There must be someone that regulates and oversees hospital performance?

Maybe here then?

http://www.nhsggc.org.uk/content/default.asp?page=s759_5

Just let them know your point of view on the whole situation to date and that you fear it will happen again and no one tells you anything and you would like them to find out why xx

 

[laurat]

Ill take a look at this! Thanks honey! I had thought a while back about a letter to the Scottish parliament actually and my local MP's and actually a whole lot of folk!!

 

[Kay Kay]

Laura & skeando you know I'm right there with you in the hell that is the GRI! I curse being born here! I am so gutted that it will be a further 3 months so instead of the October for iui I had prepared myself for it will be Jan!

Do you know if its the same for ivf? My 2 year wait will be up April 2013 so does that mean its actually July??! If so then I give up! Think that's what they want us to do anyway! No sane person would put themselves through this! Not getting any younger here! *rage*

 

[laurat]

I thin your right Kay Kay they want is to give up and go private! I dont know about the IVF I asked Dr Lyall about the wait for IVF if the IUI failed and again she was very very vague but did say that you time for IUI (16 months) counted for the wait with IVF too. She gave me the impression that if IUI fails you go to IVF but if Im honest now the phrase is How long is a piece of string! I think I may get looking into it anc perhaps be a little more pro active now. Ive had enough!!!

 

[itisbabytime]

Can you girls not choose to go straight to ivf rather than doing iui first? Much higher success rates and my nhs consultant told me that iui is really no different than sex except the "drop off area" is a few inches further up!