***December babies! Tri 2 :) ***

[Lulu90]

My son has a chromosome disorder and I opted out of the screening. He has a piece of his 16th chromosome missing and with downs, you have an extra piece. My son's condition affects his muscles but he's mildly affected, wouldn't know there's anything wrong with him to look at him. I knew the test would come back high risk even though it's a different disorder so we didn't want to put ourselves through the stress. I'm the carrier of the condition so I already know this baby will have it. Luckily it isn't a life threatening or life limiting condition xx

 

[GF91]

I think that knowing can put you into a difficult situation as well. I know of a woman who had a low risk for chromosonal defects, but gave birth to a child with down syndrome saying that if she had of known she may not have proceeded with the pregnancy and she was so glad she didn't know. But saying that I got the tests done, knowing that I would keep the baby regardless and my partner thought itis better to know so we can prepare. Haven't got my score back yet, but the measurement was within normal range and I'm 29 so don't think I will be high risk.

Such a difficult thing to consider, raising a child with a disability.

It's such a personal decision, with no right or wrong answer. To me personally, i would keep the baby regardless- so it wouldn't matter the outcome. However, if i'd of had the test done, i know that I would've spent the next 6 months googling measurements, signs, symptoms regardless of my score. Which was why I didn't opt for it. With scans being so detailed these days I would hope that something would be picked up if there was an issue.

Unfortunately there is still such a stigma with disabilities. But those with Down syndrome especially have such a quality of life! My friends sister has DS. She lives in her own house, works full time, she's been travelling, she's not let it stop her. But then again I know someone who had the screening done, had a perfectly healthy baby- only for him to contract viral meningitis as a toddler & he's now completely disabled, can't talk, can't see, can't walk.

 

[1sttimer]

Hi ladies, so I'm joining tri 2 now if that's ok? I was 14 weeks yesterday. So interesting that you're talking about the Trisomy tests, because I had a high risk tst and therefore a harmony test last week and was in the situation where you are thinking about your options. The nice thing was that all I kept reading was how lovely and happy and amazing downs children are. It's a tough choice for anyone and not one anyone should judge you on because until you are in that situation its a very different thought process. Totally agree with you GF, I think these days being downs is a far less risky and difficult prognosis, and there are far harder things to deal with but it's just such a shock when you get that call! Joeyclarepops, try not to worry, it's highly unlikely to be an issue! 2.9 is still low!

I don't blame you either Lulu, I am now a firm believer that sometimes you are better off not knowing. As my MIL said, once upon a time they didn't have all these tests and people lived in blissful ignorance, there is just too much to worry about these days.

 

[Lulu90]

Your MIL is a wise woman 1sttimer. I'm so anxious this time around that I don't want added stress.

Anyone else feeling rubbish in the evenings? I went from all day nausea, to nothing for 2 weeks to now having horrific nausea from 5pm until I fall asleep. I'm really really struggling. It's mixed with severe heartburn, my GP has prescribed tablets so I hope they start to kick in soon xx

 

[GF91]

I'm getting to around 3pm & I feel like I've hit a wall. From then on I'm dead on my feet until bedtime which isn't great when I'm trying to pack to move house! Red to find some energy from somewhere... currently can't be bothered to get out the bath.

My MIL is still really giving me a hard time. I know it's going to result in an argument which of course will be my fault!

 

[JoeyClare]

I don't think I could do an amnio if we had a higher risk. That 1% of miscarriage just scares me! So to be honest, I wonder why I opted to have the screening! I don't need reasons to stress myself out. I can do it easily enough any way. I guess we'd consider a NIPT test, but it's so expensive at a time when I'm trying to get money for a wedding we're going to and staying over, baby things (I chucked all my old stuff- oops) and then put some money aside for maternity leave. I've decided every day I don't have a letter is a good thing! Though I am hoping my 20 week scan comes through this week. Work is really tiring me out at the moment. 28 work days till the summer hols. There's so much to do in this last half term and I just want to sleep.

 

[claireyt]

Just had my 16 week midwife appointment, it was all very routine she didn't even weigh me which was the thing that I was most panicked about!! She asked me if I wanted her to try and listen to the baby, but she was very honest and said that there was only a very small chance of anything being heard. Decided with hubby not to chance it as if she couldn't hear anything it would probably have panicked me! Hope I made the right decision!

 

[MrsS15]

Hi ladies,

Had my scan today and measuring 12 weeks exactly so still a bit behind some of you! All was perfect though and due date 27th of December xx

 

[JoeyClare]

I'm pretty sure I my midwives don't do it at all at 16 weeks for this very reason. I think I'd hold off till later as well. No post for me today. My friend who had her appt the day before me for scan already has her 20 week scan date which she got 2 days ago! I want mine! In my notes there's a loose form with a referral to the consultant and a request for a glucose tolerance test which I think the hospital are meant to have- not me! So I'm going to ring them tomorrow and ask.

Saw your scan went well on the first tri thread! So pleased for you.

 

[CLL94]

Hi ladies, so I'm joining tri 2 now if that's ok? I was 14 weeks yesterday. So interesting that you're talking about the Trisomy tests, because I had a high risk tst and therefore a harmony test last week and was in the situation where you are thinking about your options. The nice thing was that all I kept reading was how lovely and happy and amazing downs children are. It's a tough choice for anyone and not one anyone should judge you on because until you are in that situation its a very different thought process. Totally agree with you GF, I think these days being downs is a far less risky and difficult prognosis, and there are far harder things to deal with but it's just such a shock when you get that call! Joeyclarepops, try not to worry, it's highly unlikely to be an issue! 2.9 is still low!

I don't blame you either Lulu, I am now a firm believer that sometimes you are better off not knowing. As my MIL said, once upon a time they didn't have all these tests and people lived in blissful ignorance, there is just too much to worry about these days.

Brilliant when is your due date and I'll add you to the first page xx

 

[CLL94]

Had my combined scan results back the other day and came back as low risk so a nice sigh of relief! I've got my gender scan in 2 weeks ! I'll have to get your gender guesses!
Xx

 

[Lulu90]

Glad the 12 week scans are going well. Can't believe our 20 week scans will be coming up soon. Mine is the 19th of July.

My midwife said she'll listen in for baby at our 16 week appointment. I didn't even get offered that when I was pregnant with Luca so it's news to me xx

 

[MrsS15]

Thanks again joeyclare

As soon as my 12 week scan was done I went out to reception and got a date for the 20 week scan, that seems to work much better than people anxiously waiting for letters! Mine is 10th of August - I'll be 20+1!

Midwife checked for heartbeat at 16 weeks when I was having my son, that was 9 years ago though so don't know if they still do it. I have a consultant appointment at 15 weeks so I won't expect it xx

 

[candymycandy]

Yep hey still do HB st 16wks - had mine today! I hate this period in between scans so it's such a relief to hear. My 20wk scan is on the 14th July. It's flying right?! I'm rhesus negative which I knew so just have to be careful about knocks to my belly. Anyone else?
Next mw appt isn't until 28 weeks, they really don't care about second babies as much! x

 

[Skyeway]

Yep hey still do HB st 16wks - had mine today! I hate this period in between scans so it's such a relief to hear. My 20wk scan is on the 14th July. It's flying right?! I'm rhesus negative which I knew so just have to be careful about knocks to my belly. Anyone else?
Next mw appt isn't until 28 weeks, they really don't care about second babies as much! x

I just got a letter in the post about being rhesus negative. I'm not too keen on having anymore pregnancies after all the trouble HG has caused me with this one. So I'm thinking that maybe I won't get the injections. But then I think what if I change my mind, I'm 29 now and could forget what HG is like by time I am 39 and may want another. So I had better get the injections, just in case.

 

[1sttimer]

I don't think I could do an amnio if we had a higher risk. That 1% of miscarriage just scares me! So to be honest, I wonder why I opted to have the screening! I don't need reasons to stress myself out. I can do it easily enough any way. I guess we'd consider a NIPT test, but it's so expensive at a time when I'm trying to get money for a wedding we're going to and staying over, baby things (I chucked all my old stuff- oops) and then put some money aside for maternity leave. I've decided every day I don't have a letter is a good thing! Though I am hoping my 20 week scan comes through this week. Work is really tiring me out at the moment. 28 work days till the summer hols. There's so much to do in this last half term and I just want to sleep.

Hi Joeyclare, if it makes you feel better, if you are going to get a high risk result they don't just send it in the letter. If it's above 1:150 you get a letter within 2 weeks, if it's high risk, they contact you (mine was by phone) within 3 days. This is the NHS guidelines, so assume they're the same where you are. So if it's been 3 days...you could assume you're ok!!

 

[JoeyClare]

Thanks 1sttimer. Well scan and bloods were Fri and it's now Thursday and I haven't heard anything, so fingers crossed no news is good news. Had my GTT appt made today for Sept 5th, had to ring scan appts as they were antenatal wanted me to make sure they knew to refer to the consultant. The woman at the scan reception had literally zero phone manner and told me that as I'm only nearly 14 weeks, they won't even be looking at making me a scan appt yet as there are other women ahead etc. A total pile of rubbish as my work colleague had her scan the day before me, is due the day after me and got her 20 week scan appt through days ago!

 

[JoeyClare]

Got my letter today. 1 in 888 for Downs and <1 in 100000 for Edwards and Patau. Relieved.

 

[1sttimer]

Great news! You can relax for the weekend x

 

[vic30]

Hello! Forgot to move to tri 2! Baby brain? Just Vicki brain &#55357;&#56842;

Will catch up now X