carrieanne
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After feeling extremely positive about my 2nd bfp on 6th Oct, I started bleeding lightly on 18th and by night time was bleeding heavily.
Went to A&E who took a normal pregnancy test despite me saying I'd just peed not 2 mins before they called me and the nurse/doctor who saw me came back into the room while the nurse was putting a vent into my arm telling her that it was pointless. She took it out as he said that I was "categorically not pregnant" and even though I tried to explain that the sample they just took was a tiny dribble of pee with a whole lot of blood he spoke to me like some idiot underage girl who had accidentally got pregnant.
He took blood and got another nurse to put in another vent and told me I'd need to wait for a few hours to get the results of the hormone levels. I ended up getting so upset that I think I shouted that I wanted my husband in the room now!
One of the blood tests hadn't been processed properly so they had to take blood from the other arm and made a massive mess of my hand, they collapsed 3 veins and the bruise is the full width of the hand. I've now got 7 sore bruised puncture marks on my hands/arms.
When they brought my husband in the guy who did all the talking before had changed his attitude but was still extremely rude and wanted to see the evidence of my positive pregnancy tests that I had in my phone (I'd mentioned it to him already) and he asked alot of questions about my period, symptoms etc etc. I ended up asking if they had indeed checked my test or the girl who had come in after me (she was very young and with her not much older looking mother) and then asked why he was treating me like some stupid girl instead of the mid 30's married woman who'd been deliberately trying for a baby?
He was shocked and then tried to wriggle out of things by saying that he wasn't accusing me of making it up which was exactly what he had been pushing at.
The hormone came back low but definatley pregnant and they sent me to the gyn department who did an internal scan and because I was just short of 6 weeks, couldn't see anything of substance to comment on.
I had to go back on monday for another blood test to check if it had increased.
On sunday I knew it was over but hoped and prayed it wasn't but something other than a clot fell from me and I knew it was the baby.
The blood test on monday was quick but took forever to come back due to an IT problem but confirmed that I had indeed miscarried.
So that's my 2nd miscarriage this year, 2 horrific incidents which I never wish on anyone. Doctors won't do any investigations as they need you to have 3 to justify the time and money to look into it. They've said that on average it takes 9 cycles to get pregnant!
I didn't know that but it was 3 for the 1st one and 9 for the 2nd. Hoping that I can try again in the next cycle but after the last mc, it took ages to know where it was as it kept moving.
I'm trying to stay positive and my family have been amazing, none moreso than my husband, he's been so good to me, suppose that's why I married him.
I know I'm having a good day today and not everyday will be this positive or calm but I'm determined to not let this stop me moving forward.
xx
Went to A&E who took a normal pregnancy test despite me saying I'd just peed not 2 mins before they called me and the nurse/doctor who saw me came back into the room while the nurse was putting a vent into my arm telling her that it was pointless. She took it out as he said that I was "categorically not pregnant" and even though I tried to explain that the sample they just took was a tiny dribble of pee with a whole lot of blood he spoke to me like some idiot underage girl who had accidentally got pregnant.
He took blood and got another nurse to put in another vent and told me I'd need to wait for a few hours to get the results of the hormone levels. I ended up getting so upset that I think I shouted that I wanted my husband in the room now!
One of the blood tests hadn't been processed properly so they had to take blood from the other arm and made a massive mess of my hand, they collapsed 3 veins and the bruise is the full width of the hand. I've now got 7 sore bruised puncture marks on my hands/arms.
When they brought my husband in the guy who did all the talking before had changed his attitude but was still extremely rude and wanted to see the evidence of my positive pregnancy tests that I had in my phone (I'd mentioned it to him already) and he asked alot of questions about my period, symptoms etc etc. I ended up asking if they had indeed checked my test or the girl who had come in after me (she was very young and with her not much older looking mother) and then asked why he was treating me like some stupid girl instead of the mid 30's married woman who'd been deliberately trying for a baby?
He was shocked and then tried to wriggle out of things by saying that he wasn't accusing me of making it up which was exactly what he had been pushing at.
The hormone came back low but definatley pregnant and they sent me to the gyn department who did an internal scan and because I was just short of 6 weeks, couldn't see anything of substance to comment on.
I had to go back on monday for another blood test to check if it had increased.
On sunday I knew it was over but hoped and prayed it wasn't but something other than a clot fell from me and I knew it was the baby.
The blood test on monday was quick but took forever to come back due to an IT problem but confirmed that I had indeed miscarried.
So that's my 2nd miscarriage this year, 2 horrific incidents which I never wish on anyone. Doctors won't do any investigations as they need you to have 3 to justify the time and money to look into it. They've said that on average it takes 9 cycles to get pregnant!
I didn't know that but it was 3 for the 1st one and 9 for the 2nd. Hoping that I can try again in the next cycle but after the last mc, it took ages to know where it was as it kept moving.
I'm trying to stay positive and my family have been amazing, none moreso than my husband, he's been so good to me, suppose that's why I married him.
I know I'm having a good day today and not everyday will be this positive or calm but I'm determined to not let this stop me moving forward.
xx