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[kanga86]

Yes the babies definitely have there own plans when it comes to labour. I would say I got more relaxed with my plans and how it would probably not go as I wished but I still had a strong feeling for some things I wanted, things that I could sort of control. Like having Alfie straight onto my chest and delayed cord clamping, which I didn't get with the other 2. I do get excited and the thought of going through another labour as it is such an experience, and I need to do it one more time.

Aww a Christmas baby If I could plan dates I wouldnt have a nov-feb baby. Just because if the cost of Christmas with 3/4 kids My free months of the year are March, April, June (although my birthday is June), August and October so pretty strict lol

So ttc Nov would be August, James was conceived at new year and is the end of Sept. So yeah to get your Christmas baby you would have to take 4/5 months. So excited for when you started ttc.

I looked at my future ovulation predictions and I may be in my fertile period when we go away for the night on Nov 4th will be so hard for me to not try lol but I'm sure hubby will be on the ball with condoms but one can hope haha xx

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[kanga86]

I'm so glad we have this thread to get our random thoughts and stuff our without seeming too crazy xx

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[KHTW]

I love this thread!! It helps getting all these thoughts out lol

Yeah I get your point re Christmas baby and money. But December is likely... i know every ttc journey is different but it took us 4 months with DD so maybe this time will be similar. We started in October and I got my bfp in January and she was born in October. August would be nice, OH was born in August and so was his dad. How nice would it be if we had a boy born in August?

Aww I hoooooope OH just say YES and you get your try in November!!!!

 

[kanga86]

I agree, you fully expect ttc will take the same amount of time each time. We were 2nd month for my mmc, Harry and James so really wasn't expecting Alfie to come along after bd'ing just once! So I do feel cocky that we would fall quickly again. An August boy would be such a lovely thing, 3 generations in one month

I'm hoping to kinda spring it on him so he has no chance to change his mind. So I will have to butter him up before and then sneakily say something when we are in the mood whilst away If my cycles stay the same it would be 3/4 days before ovulation which would be quite good for the shettles method for ttc a girl xx

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[KHTW]

It sounds like a good plan to me! And yes you are right it would be good timing for a girl! I hope OH goes with it. Would you be really disappointed if he said no or are you kind of expecting that? xx

 

[kanga86]

I am expecting him to say no especially with the building work and rent increase next year but I can remain hopeful. I would be gutted if he said no but at the moment I am feeling a bit more relaxed about waiting abit longer. I did get a little bit obsessed after the chemical but having spoken to him about it I have chilled somewhat. It really isn't too far away now either :shocked: Are you getting excited to ttc or freaking out? lol xx

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[KHTW]

That's really good that you were able to chill, people often don't understand how difficult it is to let go and put ttc plans away for a while. IT IS NOT EASY lol I hope hubby says yes but at least if he doesn't you are prepared for it x

I am excited one minute and terrified the next. The funny thing is that when I think about being pregnant I am not thinking about this new baby but about DD and how I will cope and what we will have to compromise on and is it fair on her etc. Right now I really give her my all when we are together. We go to park and swimming and we spent all evening playing and fooling about - once the belly starts growing and the baby comes I won't be able to do the same for her. That scares me. How do you do this with 3?? xx

 

[kanga86]

We still go to the park and on days out etc, it can be hectic with the 3 as I have to divide my time up but as they get older it does get easier. Come next week Harry is at school and a James is at nursery 3 days a week so it is just me and Alfie. We haven't managed to do as may baby groups with having an older one but we still go out to the toddler round and the little ones just tag along, but I do try to do special time with each of them at some point during the day. Like when the others are napping or in bed. But I wouldn't have it any other way now. I remember when I had just Harry thinking how will I have time for another but now I think wow I had so much time on my hands compared to now lol

Will your dd go to nursery? She will get funding from the January after she is 3 so that will give you time with the baby. James gets his 30 hours from January as both me and hubby work so get more than the normal 15 hours. I can't wait to not have our childcare bill!! xx

 

[KHTW]

What you said makes perfect sense, I know that all will fall into place but I just can't help but worry. What I need to do is take a chill pill and just wait to see what happens! PS. You must be a super woman to take care of 3 young boys everyday and still be ready to add 1 baby to that mix lol! But on a serious note this is mostly why I want at least 3 year age gap, so that she can still go to dance class or football but that I don't have to go there with her etc and bigger kids seem to be able to entertain themselves a bit more too. And most importantly at age of 3 she will hopefully be able to TELL me what she wants etc.

We live in Scotland so she will get 15 hrs free nursery. She will go every morning for 3 hrs which should give me some mummy-baby time hopefully.

Ok... I am excited. Scared yes but more excited!

 

[kanga86]

Ah I didn't realise Scotland didn't do the 30 hours. I think it is only just starting this Sept here so I will be making the most of it. All your school terms and cut off ages are different aswell aren't they? James is 3 on 21st Sept and starts school Sept 2019, so he will be 3 weeks from being 5yrs old. Harry is a July baby and was not long 4 when he started school!

I have been doing my temps to tracking my cycle and worked out I should be due on today or tomorrow and was expecting my temp to be low today but it spiked up so got really annoyed. Got up and went to the loo and I wiped pink so I am starting today, phew. I do not want my cycles to mess up and make our night away not in my fertile window! xx

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[KHTW]

30 hrs would be so good! But again, 15 is better than nothing

DD was born in October so she will start nursery in January 2019, not September 2018. But from what I understand when it comes to starting school we can choose to enroll her in September which would mean she starts school at 4. To be honest I get confused easily with all these dates lol

We all hate when our cycles are playing up! Glad it sorted itself out! Eeeek excited for your night away!

 

[kanga86]

Yeah 15 hrs is better than nothing. We have been and are paying for childcare, going to be £277 in Sept! But it will all be free from January thankfully. It is so easy to get confused with all the dates, as it never makes sense. Harry and James are going to be 3 school years apart (2yrs3m in age) due to their birthdays. Yet James and Alfie are only going to be a year apart! (19months in age). Does seem right my baby starts so sooner after my boisterous 3yr old! This was my lot the other night xx

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[KHTW]

Oh My God they are adorable!!! 3 cheeky monkeys in their matching PJs awwww

Honestly I don't get the school system lol. Would it not make more sense if say all children born in 2010 start school in September 2015?

So basically from January you can use the nursery money to pay for increase in rent? That is pretty good timing and it should make it a bit easier x

 

[kanga86]

I do love the odd matching outfits, mainly pjs and the odd t shirt

Yeah come January we won't have our nursery fees, but our tax credits will drop too. But I think overall we would have extra money. The rent increase won't be until this sort of time next year if all goes to plan so we will be able to save up abit. Especially if I do get pregnant so then we would have a bit of money to help through maternity leave.

I have felt awful today and have a migraine that's getting worse through the day. Phoned up work at 1pm to say I wouldn't be in work at 7pm due to not being able to move about or tolerate the brightness and got told to have a lie down and phone back later! As her migraines usually get better after a lie down! Still feeling like shit and try to muster up the courage to phone in again, don't know why but it makes me feel extremely anxious and I hate letting them down but I don't think I can even drive safely at the mo xx

 

[KHTW]

Ouch! Sorry you were feeling rubish last night, did it get any better? You shouldn't feel bad fall calling sick! Hope you got some rest last night and are feeling better x

 

[kanga86]

I feel much better today, still abit groggy but better. I know I shouldn't feel bad about phoning up but I really don't like doing it. Especially when the person who answers questions you as to whether or not your really ill! I wouldn't have phoned otherwise! I have work for the next 3 nights 7pm til 2am, which I can't be bothered with.

Pulling my hair out the last 2 days trying to potty train James too, obviously gave up half way through yesterday but he wanted pants today so trying again. He will do a dribble on the potty then pee himself a bit later but no matter how long he sits on the potty he won't do anymore! I'm sure Harry was easier than this xx

 

[KHTW]

Yeah some people are very suspicious and insensitive... forget them! Your well being is top priority, work is only work.

How old is Harry? People say that it is easier once you have more kids since they are meant to learn of each other? No idea if it's true x

 

[kanga86]

Exactly it's only work and it's only McDonald's. They get all the teenagers not turning up or phoning in sick all the time and they still have jobs, so I shouldn't worry so much!

Harry is 5, and took til he was 4 to do poos on the toilet. He would wait til he had a night time nappy on or ask for one on. I know he will do it in his own time, but we have had 2 successful wees on the potty. Just left his pants off and kept putting him back on the potty and he finally let to go lol so I think we are getting there dreading a poo accident! xx

 

[BabyMaker]

Hi ladies! Hope you're both well. I've been reading the thread trying to catch up.
Kanga, omg saving £277 per month?? amazing! Definitely hint to OH where that money could go next time you're bringing up "the talk" still keeping my fingers crossed for you!
KHTW, it's Sept! Not long to wait for you!!! Hope it happens when you want it to.
Whilst we were away (only to stay with my parents - nothing too exciting) we had another chat about ttc one night (luckily my parents house is big/long and their bedroom is miles away from mine lol) and I've made the final decision to wait. It was hard but it makes sense. So no ttc for me this year But, I'll have something to look forward to next year. I said to OH June and he said "or maybe May?" So now I'm thinking maybe May (=Feb) wouldn't be so bad despite being winter. We'll see nearer the time.
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[kanga86]

Hey babymaker, sorry we have had a bit of a chat going lol That's good you have had another chat about ttc and I can imagine it was hard to chose to wait longer. I can se why you want to wait and my sensible head says to wait too, but I can't let the opportunity pass on our night away in Nov , so I will try all my tricks to get hubby to have just one go then. I still want my 2012,2014,2016,2018 babies lol I think if we don't catch then I will hold off til June time next year, if I can get hubby to agree.

Well I proper jinxed myself, James had a poo accident about 10 mins after I posted earlier. We have been very successful with weed though. Although he has managed to break my glasses, like snapped then in half tried all sorts to try and fix them but nothing has worked. I don't have any spares either, so can't see, can't drive and can't work!! Feel pretty peeved right now! xx