Can't believe I'm back:-)

[kanga86]

Yeah he was an awful manager lol Yes we get free food on our break, on break now so currently eating a chicken selects meal not so great for the diet though lol

Love how your hubby thinks about it when feeling frisky, but yay for having the chat. Seems as though the ball is firmly in your court then? Could you just ntnp in oct/Nov and then if nothing happens you can hold off til next June?

I fell pregnant with James when Harry was 18m and with Alfie when James was 1yr and I can't remember which age gap was worse. I think James still slept well when I was pregnant with Alfie so that helped lol

So exciting though that if you do wait for June next year we could be together again? If I can persuade hubby xx

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[KHTW]

Hi BabyMaker! Good to have you back I love having family visiting... for a day or two!
Great news that hubby handed decision making over to you, the best person for the job . It really is hard to decide WHEN and it kind of feels like whatever choice you make may not be right anyway. Frustrating. If we could only see the future
I loooooove the ticker lol! I'd say go for it! Sometimes it is nice to see the 'finish line'

Kanga, it sucks that the rent is going up and hubby may stress a bit more about money. Finger crossed it all falls into place

 

[KHTW]

Where's Donna? Still out on the ocean?

 

[BabyMaker]

Kanga, omg it would be so nice to do another pregnancy together!! Thing is, I fell pregnant in the first month of ttc with both pregnancies so based on that I could imagine falling pregnant instantly ntnp. Also, if I told hubby the coil was out he wouldnt leave me alone and certainly not during fertile window... lol!

KHTW, maybe I will put a ticker up. You never know - there could be other crazy obsessed lurkers on here who aren't ttc until next year who could chat to me
Yes, I wondered where Donna had got to. Surely she must be back from her cruise now. Perhaps she's postponed ttc again?
xx

 

[KHTW]

1st month?!?! That's crazy lol! I know this is going to sound weird but I hope we take at least 3 months so that DD is 3 when the baby comes

Go for it! Put the ticker on

 

[BabyMaker]

I know! when ttc our 1st I'd read it can take 6 months for a perfectly healthy couple in their 20s to conceive and I was shocked when it happened in the first month. When ttc our 2nd I honestly didnt think we'd be that lucky again but we were. So, this time my hubby will be 39/40 and I'll be 34/35 so I'm not sure it'll be as quick.
I know what you mean re the age gap. I think it's a nice gap. My only worry about waiting is that my hubby would change his mind or our circumstances change (he looses his job or something but I cant worry about what if's)... and the fact that the wait will be soooooo long. Having said that we were supposed to WTT for 5 months after deciding to go for #2 and ended up waiting 9 months. And those 9 months flew by in the end. so it's only an extra month. lol!
xx

 

[kanga86]

Haha I know what you mean about falling quickly babymaker. We fell on the 2nd month with my mmc, 1st month with Harry, 2nd month with James and Alfie was a whoopsie lol so pretty fertile here too. I'm not on any contraception, only condoms so there is still hope for another whoopsie lol Although I do want to plan as I know there are things to sway pink. Alfie would be nearly 3 if we ttc next June and I'm sure it will fly by too!

On another note, I booked up a hotel for me and hubby to have a night away just us two on 4th Nov. We aren't going far away, about 20mns drive away, plan on cinema, meal out and making use of the pool at the hotel. Got a bargain as it should have been nearly £200 and got it for £99 so happy with that and excited to have a weekend with hubby alone xx


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[BabyMaker]

Oooh Kanga that's a great bargain! We are going away for 1 night at a hotel next week. Cannot wait! it'll be the first time we've stayed away since having kids. Usually when we have a babysitter we go out for a meal but stay at home.
Hope you have a great time Maybe a good time to bring up how much fun ttc is and reminisce about the previous times...?
Have you mentioned June next year to hubby or is that your "plan-in-the-making"? I do that lol! When we were thinking about ttc #2 I planned it all then presented him with the final copy lol! When I'd finished telling him why this was the perfect plan he said "I dont know what to say - you've thought of all eventualities and what if's" yep lol not much argument 'against'. The plan was to ttc May 2015 but due to unforeseen circumstances we had to delay until Sept 2015. Which worked out well in the end
xx

 

[kanga86]

Ooh how nice your going away for the night too. We have been away twice I think since having Harry, both for mikes Christmas party at work as it was held over an hour away as a joint party. But rarely go out, even just for a meal but trying to do more couple things as I think we need it.

I haven't mentioned June next year, just wishful thinking on my part Need for him to be more open to having a 4th baby first before I throw dates about. I think I did mention wanting to ttc next year when we had our chat but not since the landlord threw a spanner in the works think I will have a harder job ahead of me for him to agree.

Landlord came round yesterday with his wife for a meeting and it looks like building work will start Feb next year for 8wks, then May, June and July our rent would stay the same as a thank you for putting up with the works. Aug, Sept and Oct would be an increase by £150 then after that up to the £200 extra. Hoping to negotiate a little bit though as he keeps saying just let us know if your struggling and we will figure something out, as he doesn't want us to leave either. We have managed to negotiate him fitting a new front door, new window in our dining room as it is just a plastic sliding window which leaks cold air through from the conservatory in the winter and 2 radiators are being fitted in our lounge/dining room as for some reason there isn't any! So that should help with our heating bills this winter xx

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[BabyMaker]

That's very considerate of the landlord. Sounds like you have good relationship with him. Landlords can be so awkward and unreasonable. In my early 20's I worked as a Lettings Agent and we had one landlord who was a nightmare. The tenant called us up frequently to complain because he just showed up to inspect the house whenever he wanted. Just showed up and let himself in!! We kept telling him it's his house but it's their home so he cant just walk in whenever!! Nightmare!
Are you on any local facebook selling sites? One of my arguments to my DH when we talked about #2 was that if money was tight there were always bargains to be had on the local selling sites. Clothes, toys, jumperoos etc frequently come up for sale. So I could always get stuff 2nd hand in good condition. And when talking about #3 (even though it was his idea) I sometimes have to remind him that babies dont have to be expensive. Just a thought you could use in your 'pros' list
xx

 

[KHTW]

Ladies I am so jealous of your night away with hubbies. We haven't had an evening out since DD was born!! It's probably my fault... I can't imagine leaving DD with a babysitter and asking OH's parents to take her just so we can go out seems like an unreasonable request. My mum will be staying with us in October so maybe we will manage then.

Kanga,your landlord does sound like a reasonable guy, you are really lucky.

 

[kanga86]

We are extremely lucky with him, we don't deal with a letting agent just him and his wife. He can just show up to have a chat which is really annoying at times but he doesn't ask to come in or let himself in ever so that is a bonus. We managed to build up a good relationship before we moved in as we lived next door, and he was always knocking to let us know if he was doing noisy building work whilst doing the house up. I asked to be nosey and realised it was much nicer than the one we were renting and he asked if we wanted to rent it from him so it worked out really well. So funny when we give our address as 21 ... road and then they ask for our previous address and we say 19 ... road, and I say yes we moved next door lol

Khtw I was a lot more wary of asking my inlaws to watch Harry when he was a baby, but the more kids I have the more relaxed I have become, that and we need to get away now lol This would be the 3rd night away where the inlaws have watched the boys and we rarely go on date nights either, maybe 2-3 times a year, 1 for each of our birthdays and 1 for our wedding anniversary. Sometimes we go out with my inlaws for the birthday celebrations. Hope you can get a night out whilst your mum is staying with you, the grandparents seem to love looking after them so that does make it easier.

Babymaker I don't need to buy anything as everything and I mean everything is in the loft!! Small bedside cot, toddler bed, jumperoo, car seat, bouncer, another high chair, millions of clothes (although hoping to need to get girlie ones). I refused to get rid of any of it as I was adamant whilst pregnant with Alfie that I wanted another one even if hubby didn't. We also have enough toys to open a shop lol I think it is the later costs (school etc) as they get older is what hubby worries about and the fact the 3 we have are a handful on their own without another one xx


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[KHTW]

Kanga, I would say the fact that OH didn't protest at your request to store all the toys and baby things speaks for itself! ps. I can't even imagine the amout of everything you must have accumulated over the years! We only have DD and the loft is already full of her stuff!!!

 

[KHTW]

I got a positive OPK yesterday. My first thought "what a waste of an egg". #wating makes you crazy!

 

[kanga86]

Oh he did protest at storing it a bit, asked why and I said I want another one plus we can always pass it on to my sister etc but I think he knows the main reason is for us to have another one.

I'm exactly the same khtw, hate seeing a pos opk and egg going to waste lol

Thankfully for me the overbearing need to ttc right now has died down abit, it is still there but not taking over every single thought all day. That being said I did have a random awake period this morning worrying about labour for another baby! My labour was only 40mins long with Alfie although I was induced. Waters broken at 2:30pm, drip started at 5pm as nothing really happening only a few mild tightenings. Even on the drip nothing happened until 6:30pm where I was still only 1cm. He was born at 77pm after like 18 or 19 contractions!! So I have a massive panic over not getting to hospital in time, or giving birth in the bath lol Silly things to worry about really when not even pregnant rofl xx

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[KHTW]

That's not silly at all!! 40min.... I'd say you have a good chance of giving birth at home lol (sorry! Probably not helping here!). How far is the hospital?? I am also worried, my labor was long and difficult and if given a chance I'd probably go for elective c-sec... Well, at least I think I would! The only positive thing about another v birth is that they may finally put my downstairs department back together properly as I don't thing they did that the first time!!!

And just for a laugh: had a funny conversation with OH this weekend, here it goes:
OH: So when did you (You?! typical) say we were going to try for no.2?
Me: November
OH: November?! Not earlier?!
.....Sigh... why do I bother, he doesn't listen to a word I say

 

[kanga86]

Hospital is 20mins away on a good run(during the evening/night), double that or more if rush hour or just day time!! There is a birth centre like 5mins away but they won't let me go there because of previous pregnancies. 1st emcs, 2nd retained placenta and being induced for my 3rd probably will go against me too! Would much rather go there though, was going to have a home birth last time as that was easier to arrange than going to the birth centre, it's crazy!

I can see how if you have a long hard birth that you may favour a c section and I know electives can be amazing. My subsequent birth have been so much better than my 1st, which still haunts me even now and have been almost healing in some ways.

OH never listen to us, it is infuriating. Why does he want to start earlier? Good he is on board though. It has always been my decision as to when we were going to start ttc, if I left it to hubby I would still be waiting xx

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[KHTW]

20min is not bad however 1hr may not be enough to get you there... and I can't believe about the birthing centre, why must they make things difficult! Home birth wow would you really do this? I am too chicken!! My head is full of what ifs!

OH was talking about it at the start of this year!!! But we agreed age gap must be as close to 3 as possible which he must have forgotten x

 

[kanga86]

Yeah I really wanted a home birth with Alfie, bought the birth pool and everything! Had to have a supervisor of Midwives come to my house for a chat about the risks as such. I would have prefer the midwife led ward at hospital or the birth centre but they just wouldn't allow it! Which is crazy as the midwife led ward was next door to labour ward yet they signed off on a home birth.

Obviously with having reduced movements and him measuring below the 5th centile for weight it ended up being much safer for us to be induced at hospital. I'm glad I had a positive induction as it went against everything I wanted, no water birth, sintocin drip and constant monitoring, but his safety was much more important than my perfect labour and it was a lovely experience, had 2 Midwives with me throughout and just chatted away

When is DD's birthday? I like having a few months between each lot of birthdays, we have May, July and Sept xx

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[KHTW]

Is seems as tho the babies often have plans of their own when it comes to how the labor is going to go and give no consideration to what their mothers planned
Perhaps you can get your home water birth with the next one!
But yes, safety is always the priority.

DD was born in October. So depending on how long we take to conceive no 2, his/hers birthday are likely to be around that time (I am still hoping it will take at least 4 months lol). Which is not too bad given that last birthday in our big family is in August and all nieces and nephews were born in Summer! It'd be nice to get a Christmas baby this time