So_hopeful81
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I wanted an area for this sort of a thing as I wanted people to understand my story and know that everything is ok!
At 14 weeks I had the CVS procedure, as at 13 weeks, 4 days my nuchal scan gave me a 1:2 chance of having a baby with chromosomal abnormalities!
At 14 weeks, 5 days I received the phone call to tell me that my child was going to be born with Downs syndrome!
My OH and I were petrified, and a little part of us began grieving for a child that we would never have, as we came to terms with a different child we would meet!
However, we were not ready for what we would encounter next! We were condemned by many people (friends, family members and medical staff) for deciding to continue our pregnancy!!! I found that far more devastating than that phonecall!
Every single appointment we attended, I would be told how terrible my life could be, how having a 'downs child' (WRONG TERMINOLOGY... Child with downs not downs child, yet consultant didn't feel this was important!) would be hard for my eldest daughter, how I would have to look after this child for the rest of my life ... Etc etc etc...
I dreaded appointments! Finally my OH snapped at 32 weeks, when a registrar apologised to him about having a child like this! (we were disgusted by this!) and I swapped hospitals!
As I met my new consultant at 35 weeks, I was relieved when he congratulated me on my pregnancy! He acknowledged that my OH and I were delighted to be carrying our daughter. Her diagnosis came second to this!
I have now had my daughter! She is beautiful!!! In fact she melts my heart every single time I look at her!
My eldest daughter loves her! My parents love her! My Inlaws love her! The 'friends' who were on team termination I refuse to meet up with, and don't class as friends anymore!
Ella has an extra chromosome! She is still gorgeous! She still is a baby! And I am every bit as entitled to be over the moon to be a mummy to my gorgeous little girl! Those people who wanted me to terminate, because it made them feel uncomfortable that I was having a child that in their opinion wasn't perfect are not even worth my thoughts anymore!
I am not writing this to say that people were not entitled to their own choice! Nor would I EVER judge anyone for making a different decision to the one we made! I just wanted to let people know that there is a positive aspect to having a 'different' or 'special' child... Even if when you first hear that diagnosis it appears to be the most dreadful news you've ever heard!
If anyone ever wants to talk to me about this, please feel free to Msg me. I will happily chat to anyone!
At 14 weeks I had the CVS procedure, as at 13 weeks, 4 days my nuchal scan gave me a 1:2 chance of having a baby with chromosomal abnormalities!
At 14 weeks, 5 days I received the phone call to tell me that my child was going to be born with Downs syndrome!
My OH and I were petrified, and a little part of us began grieving for a child that we would never have, as we came to terms with a different child we would meet!
However, we were not ready for what we would encounter next! We were condemned by many people (friends, family members and medical staff) for deciding to continue our pregnancy!!! I found that far more devastating than that phonecall!
Every single appointment we attended, I would be told how terrible my life could be, how having a 'downs child' (WRONG TERMINOLOGY... Child with downs not downs child, yet consultant didn't feel this was important!) would be hard for my eldest daughter, how I would have to look after this child for the rest of my life ... Etc etc etc...
I dreaded appointments! Finally my OH snapped at 32 weeks, when a registrar apologised to him about having a child like this! (we were disgusted by this!) and I swapped hospitals!
As I met my new consultant at 35 weeks, I was relieved when he congratulated me on my pregnancy! He acknowledged that my OH and I were delighted to be carrying our daughter. Her diagnosis came second to this!
I have now had my daughter! She is beautiful!!! In fact she melts my heart every single time I look at her!
My eldest daughter loves her! My parents love her! My Inlaws love her! The 'friends' who were on team termination I refuse to meet up with, and don't class as friends anymore!
Ella has an extra chromosome! She is still gorgeous! She still is a baby! And I am every bit as entitled to be over the moon to be a mummy to my gorgeous little girl! Those people who wanted me to terminate, because it made them feel uncomfortable that I was having a child that in their opinion wasn't perfect are not even worth my thoughts anymore!
I am not writing this to say that people were not entitled to their own choice! Nor would I EVER judge anyone for making a different decision to the one we made! I just wanted to let people know that there is a positive aspect to having a 'different' or 'special' child... Even if when you first hear that diagnosis it appears to be the most dreadful news you've ever heard!
If anyone ever wants to talk to me about this, please feel free to Msg me. I will happily chat to anyone!