Why do people!?

[Donna88]

Sorry just a bit of a rant.
I don't understand why people think they can say what they like to a pregnant person. Comments about size or whatever you're choosing to do.

This particular rant is about names. We've decided on a name and we had said we weren't telling anyone but we have told a couple of people - we just can't hold it in haha. Mostly people have been brilliant and either love the name or say they do even if you know they probably don't - which is fine; I don't like all the names other people pick for their little ones but I don't tell them that.

Anyway I was at the hospital yesterday and a stranger started talking to me. In all honesty I wasn't really in the mood anyway but I was polite, she started asking if baby was kicking as I'd just touched my side so I said yes she's been poked about so is quite active. She then said oh so it is a girl then; when I said yes she went on to tell me you couldn't fine out when she had hers and she thinks it's better not to find out (well good for you, I personally like finding out but again I'd leave that opinion at the door when talking to someone else as it's personal preference)

She then asked about names; so I told her - she pulled a right face and then went onto ask me why I wouldn't just give her the shortened version. Don't ask me how but I managed to stay polite and say that we would use the shortened version but we wanted her to have the full name. She went onto say that we'd only use the shortened version and that she'd be confused when she went to school because they'd use her full name.

I just blanked her after that; why does a complete stranger think she can comment on what I call my child? We love the whole name and the shortened version which is why we have chosen it! Also I knew plenty of Samanthas and Thomas at school who were known as Sam and Tom and they didn't seem confused at all.

 

[Mayflower85]

I have a proper name, and a shortened version which I'm known as by everyone, it's never confused me!

I think sometimes people just say stuff for the sake of talking!

This is my 3rd baby, we've not told anyone in real life what we planned to call any of them, and only told them the sex if they asked.

 

[Abi88]

As an Abigail who goes by Abi I can assure you I have never once been confused as to who I am! What a strange opinion she had to try and force on a stranger!

 

[chattychar1990]

I am a Charlotte and most people call me Char. I have never in my life been confused what my full name is lol.
Very odd for a stranger to put her opinion in when it really doesn't matter to her what you call your child. I also think she must be a very horrible human to even pull a face at your name choice, i would never in a million years do that to a friend let alone a stranger. x

 

[Donna88]

Thanks guys, it's been winding me up all night. I just don't understand why someone would feel they could give their opinion like that to anyone, never mind to a stranger.

The only time I would give my opinion on a name (and even then I wouldn't be horrible about it if I didn't like it) would be if someone asked. But like I say if someone said what do you think of x or y as a name, even if I hated y I would say I prefer x - I'd never lay into y as they obviously really like both names otherwise they wouldn't be discussing them.


I also had a lady tell me today that I look really big for how far along I am, because that's what you want to hear as well isn't it.

 

[Kholl]

I’m Catherine and go by Katie. It’s never been confusing for a minute. That is bizarre.

Listen, people don’t know what to say about anything most of the time. Some kind of fundamental insecurity. Who the f knows.

 

[WinterWolf]

When you’re pregnant everyone seems to think their opinion is suddenly super important to you, so they’ll comment on everything. “You’re too big, you’re too small, you should do this, you shouldn’t do that” it goes on and on. I have no idea why people can’t just continue to mind their own business like they would if you weren’t pregnant but whatever. Don’t let anyone get to you, it’s not important what they think/say. To say a nickname is confusing is stupid, even animals can learn their nicknames haha

 

[Princess81]

I don’t know if they see you as vulnerable in your pregnancy so they think they can just say what the hell they like! My son is Cameron but gets Cam very often, or Ron or cam-bobs or bobs and a whole host of other names! The woman needs to mind her own! x