***TTC Our Rainbow Babies***

[Kholl]

Hello everyone!

I wanted to start a thread for anyone trying to conceive after loss. I had a miscarriage a little over a week ago, and bleeding just stopped on Wednesday (which was also my 36th birthday, and also the day I would have been 7 weeks). The grief has been overwhelming, and the only way forward that brings any hope and light is to start TTC again. I have no idea how the miscarriage will affect my cycle, so I have no clue when I can expect my period again and/or when I'll be testing next.

I guess we are just NTNP because OPKs don't work for me and given my erratic and unpredictable sleep schedule, I don't think I can temp with any accuracy. I am also prone to obsessing so for the moment a more "relaxed" (though of course I'm not totally relaxed about it, naturally) approach is what works for us.

I hope there are ladies who'd like to join me on this journey, and I'm hoping for the best for us all.

 

[LucyC]

Hi kholl, sorry to hear about what you have been through. I’d like to join you if that’s ok, we’re just about to start ttc again after taking some time off whilst having tests done after 3 losses. Scared and excited to get started again. Just waiting for af to arrive for a new cycle to begin, I think it’s on its way but my cycles have been a bit erratic after my losses. Sending you lots of luck for this cycle. X

 

[Kholl]

Oh Lucy, I am so sorry for what you’ve been through. I have a renewed and profound respect for women who have gone through multiple losses. I can not even imagine it. I am honored to be on this journey with you. Are you trying to conceive your first child?

 

[LucyC]

Thank you! Yep we are trying to conceive baby number 1, we started our journey about 18 months ago now, hoping for a 2019 miracle! Hopefully your miscarriage won’t affect your cycle too much so you know where you are x

 

[WinterWolf]

Popping buy to wish anyone TTC after a loss the best of luck and baby dust!! Hopefully the journey to your take-home babies won't be too much longer, you definitely deserve it to be quick after what you've gone through x

 

[SugaryIris]

Hi kholl, I’ve experienced a lost at between 4-5 weeks in January, I hope I can join your thread? My sisters have all had between 1 and three losses before getting their babies so I guess my family is prone to them. Even though it was early, it broke my heart and I can’t imagine going though a later loss that sounds unbearable

 

[Kholl]

Lucy, here's to 2019. I'm so sorry for what you've been through. It's hard to bear.

Hazel, thank you for your well wishes! And happy and healthy 9 months to you!

Iris, welcome. I am sorry you have to be here, but am grateful for the company and I know we all need so much support around this. The day I found out I was pregnant I was so deeply in love and so deeply attached, that heartbreak of loss at 4 weeks or 6 or whenever it is is deep and raw and real.

Lucy and Iris, did your losses affect your cycle? I've only just stopped bleeding a couple days ago (though am still noticing some very light pink tinges on the toilet paper here and there -- soooo over it) so I have no idea what my body will do.

 

[SugaryIris]

My mc was 4 days of spotting, then I got a bfn on a test which confirmed it had ended. It then took over three weeks for me to have a ‘period’, it was very strange, some days I had ewcm some spotting, my body clearly didn’t know what was going on. After that, my periods haven’t been regular since but they weren’t regular before either.

 

[Akua]

Hello, I’ll be joining you too. I miscarried on the 3rd at 12+1. Whilst the idea of ttc seems terrifying I also feel totally bereft without a baby. Glad for some company on the journey.

Currently waiting for pregnancy tests to go back to negative

 

[LucyC]

So sorry to hear about your losses ladies, it’s so awful.

My cycles after a loss have all been a bit strange, it usually takes about 3-4 weeks for me to ovulate from when the miscarriage starts.

I think af has arrived so I’m officially starting my first cycle of ttc after waiting to have the tests.

TTC again after a loss is definitely terrifying, however the odds say that we are more likely to have a successful pregnancy than miscarry again, which is a positive to focus on.

Glad to have some lovely ladies to go through this journey with, sending lots of babydust to all of you xx

 

[xMillie]

We’re still trying for our rainbow 9 months after mc at 6+4. I can’t even imagine a bfp happening again.
I hope you ladies don’t have to wait much longer xx


I’m due af in a few days and leaving the forum after May is over, finding it so hard..
Once again I really don’t think this is our cycle.

 

[Akua]

Faint line only this morning, and it only appeared round the three minute mark. Getting back to normal at least.

When did you girls start opks again?

 

[xMillie]

Faint line only this morning, and it only appeared round the three minute mark. Getting back to normal at least.

When did you girls start opks again?

I did them straight away alongside cheapie pregnancy tests.

They got darker as the pregnancy tests got lighter.


Not 100% sure I ovulated straight away but I did get af 14/15 days after what I considered a positive opk xx

 

[LucyC]

We’re still trying for our rainbow 9 months after mc at 6+4. I can’t even imagine a bfp happening again.
I hope you ladies don’t have to wait much longer xx


I’m due af in a few days and leaving the forum after May is over, finding it so hard..
Once again I really don’t think this is our cycle.

So sorry to hear that you’ve had such a tough time Millie. Keeping everything crossed that this is your cycle x

 

[Akua]

Faint line only this morning, and it only appeared round the three minute mark. Getting back to normal at least.

When did you girls start opks again?

I did them straight away alongside cheapie pregnancy tests.

They got darker as the pregnancy tests got lighter.


Not 100% sure I ovulated straight away but I did get af 14/15 days after what I considered a positive opk xx

I think I’m gonna follow your advice, take cheapies and then when they’re close to being positive take the clearblue ones as I struggle to work out when the line is dark enough! I also have really long cycles (38 days) and I don’t wanna waste loads of expensive tests.

Thanks for all your advice lately, you’ve been so helpful and supportive xx

 

[Sunflower1]

So sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage at the end of March. We started trying again this cycle and am expecting AF tomorrow. Did a test 12dpo and it was bfn. My first cycle after the mc was a bit weird as I had 5 days of flashing smileys.

Btw have you had a scan to confirm everything has cleared? I had to have one to make sure the mc was clean and there weren't complications.

 

[Akua]

So sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage at the end of March. We started trying again this cycle and am expecting AF tomorrow. Did a test 12dpo and it was bfn. My first cycle after the mc was a bit weird as I had 5 days of flashing smileys.

Btw have you had a scan to confirm everything has cleared? I had to have one to make sure the mc was clean and there weren't complications.

No scans. Was just told to take pregnancy tests until they’re negative. If they’re not negative within a certain time frame I’m meant to phone back. But I’ve forgotten the time frame which isn’t very helpful the tests are getting fainter though so that’s reassuring.

Fingers crossed for you. Hopefully the bfn was just because you tested too early

 

[LucyC]

That’s a good sign that the tests are getting lighter akua, fingers crossed the tests will be completely negative in the next couple of days.

I hope af stays away for you sunflower!

 

[Kholl]

Ladies, it is wonderful to have the support, but heartbreaking to see you all here. The loss threw me for such a loop, I couldn't believe it.

How is everyone doing, where are we in our cycles? Heavy bleeding started April 30th so I guess that makes me CD 14 today. However that feels kind of meaningless since I have no idea when I ovulate even without the influence of the miscarriage and now after the mc I really have no clue what my body plans to do. I'm still breastfeeding my toddler too and I know that can throw off ovulation...

Today is Mother's Day in the US so of course I'm thinking about all this that much more, too.

 

[xMillie]

Before I miscarried I never knew how common they really were. It happens a lot more than it should. and I feel there is no support for it at all from doctors. When it was happening my gp just sent me to epau and even there there was no support. The nurses/doctors there weren’t the nicest and it was a horrible experience over all. Makes me feel like they just expect you to just be okay after a few days.. but no its left a long lasting affect which has me terrified of when/if I’m ever pregnant again even though we still really want our baby. I tried talking to my doctor at the end of last year and she just said it’s very unlikely you will miscarry again.. and wasn’t even worried that it took us over 4 years (and 2 failed ivf rounds) to conceive in the first place!!


I’m cd26/12dpo today. Boobs have felt really sore over the last couple of days, also felt crampy on and off.. but I think it’s my body messing with me and just getting ready for af as I’m sure I would notice more if this was our cycle... we will be going into our 10th cycle (after mc) when af is here..

It hurts alot because our baby would have been here if everything had worked out but no we’re still stuck trying

How do you stay positive???