Im unsure what to do and im feeling very alone right now.
But I wanted to post this A. To vent B. To make others aware.
In june I had a normal cycle 5days nothing new, after a week and the onset of up coming ovulation was upon me, myself and my partner were very excited we have been trying to conceive for 6 years with only one previous ectopic. Bare in my im only 30. I have a daughter from previous as so does he.
Anyway.... End of june I started to get very upwell and my breast were killing, I had also developed sciatica. I went to see my doctor who did every test running, took my bloods and sent me on my way with ibuprofen. My test results came back everything was good but no pregnancy, test was negative on july 8th.
Around the 16th I got my period but it was late. But as I got it, myself and my partner were ok as making babies is fun.
Well around the 29th my breast were extremely tender and I started to vomit. My partner was convinced I was pregnant and we had a little bet over a p test.
To my surprise it was very very positive darkest test I have ever seen from me anyway.
I was worried so I contacted the local epu to get an early scan as previous ectopic was bound to cause me super anxiety.
I was called in, they took my bloods and as I waited for my scan the nurse came smiled and said your beta hcg is very high over 1800 and I must be 6 weeks. Lop
The scan revealed an empty womb and thin lining I was told this was to be another ectopic I was devastated.
Chatting with my amazing partner after the scan, he reminded me of the blood test at my gp and that it was negative two weeks prior. Wow some hope they could be wrong.
I contact epu again and was asked to come back to monitor my bloods as I could still be very early. Over a period of a week my bloods were going up but only by 43% but to me this was a good sign as my pervious ectopic they didn't budge.
As my bloods were going up, they said that this is def a ectopic and basically backed me onto a corner giving me the option of surgery or a shot to breakdown the pregnancy. I choose neither and asked for a second scan before I decided anything.
Before my second scan I was told the previous scan had revealed an adexnal mass in the fimbriae of my left tube. Why was I not told this before. I had no bleeding no pain nothing. I was fine. After my second scan revealed an empty womb I was told the adexnal mass was defo ectopic, I asked could it be a cyst as I am fine. I was told no and as I had a previous ectopic in the left tube surgery maybe best. Which I agreed as I couldn't go through another left sided ectopic again. I was booked for a scan the following week to prep me for surgery, the sonographers face looked puzzled. I was so scared as I felt like I had been bullied by previous doctors that didn't care, I was just another number on the factory line at epu.
After the scan I was told to wait for the results so they could give me a date for surgery to remove the pregnancy and try help fix the issue with the left tube. I was rushed into surgery and hour later, terrified as I've never even broken a bone. I was reassured by the staff at epu I would be fine and I looked for the best thinking if they remove my bad left tube finall, I might have a chance at getting pregnant after so long.
I went for surgery yesterday, I woke up to my partner looking at me, smiling with grapes (bless him!)
Anyway the nurse came in to see us, she started with im sorry, what huh sorry for what?
The surgery went well but they said the adexnal mass was a cyst which I thought it was all along. The found the baby in my right tube which the scan never showed. And remove the right tube and left me with a broken left tube.
Im utterly broken over this, a doctor came in and told me it wasn't his fault he wasn't even here, he didn't know anything and that all my paperwork stated the right side all along. So why was I upset I can still have kids through ivf.
What a,way to be treated. Bullied by nhs doctors, treated like a second class lab rat and then its ok that they have taken the only little natural fertility i have.
Im utterly heartbroken.
But I wanted to post this A. To vent B. To make others aware.
In june I had a normal cycle 5days nothing new, after a week and the onset of up coming ovulation was upon me, myself and my partner were very excited we have been trying to conceive for 6 years with only one previous ectopic. Bare in my im only 30. I have a daughter from previous as so does he.
Anyway.... End of june I started to get very upwell and my breast were killing, I had also developed sciatica. I went to see my doctor who did every test running, took my bloods and sent me on my way with ibuprofen. My test results came back everything was good but no pregnancy, test was negative on july 8th.
Around the 16th I got my period but it was late. But as I got it, myself and my partner were ok as making babies is fun.
Well around the 29th my breast were extremely tender and I started to vomit. My partner was convinced I was pregnant and we had a little bet over a p test.
To my surprise it was very very positive darkest test I have ever seen from me anyway.
I was worried so I contacted the local epu to get an early scan as previous ectopic was bound to cause me super anxiety.
I was called in, they took my bloods and as I waited for my scan the nurse came smiled and said your beta hcg is very high over 1800 and I must be 6 weeks. Lop
The scan revealed an empty womb and thin lining I was told this was to be another ectopic I was devastated.
Chatting with my amazing partner after the scan, he reminded me of the blood test at my gp and that it was negative two weeks prior. Wow some hope they could be wrong.
I contact epu again and was asked to come back to monitor my bloods as I could still be very early. Over a period of a week my bloods were going up but only by 43% but to me this was a good sign as my pervious ectopic they didn't budge.
As my bloods were going up, they said that this is def a ectopic and basically backed me onto a corner giving me the option of surgery or a shot to breakdown the pregnancy. I choose neither and asked for a second scan before I decided anything.
Before my second scan I was told the previous scan had revealed an adexnal mass in the fimbriae of my left tube. Why was I not told this before. I had no bleeding no pain nothing. I was fine. After my second scan revealed an empty womb I was told the adexnal mass was defo ectopic, I asked could it be a cyst as I am fine. I was told no and as I had a previous ectopic in the left tube surgery maybe best. Which I agreed as I couldn't go through another left sided ectopic again. I was booked for a scan the following week to prep me for surgery, the sonographers face looked puzzled. I was so scared as I felt like I had been bullied by previous doctors that didn't care, I was just another number on the factory line at epu.
After the scan I was told to wait for the results so they could give me a date for surgery to remove the pregnancy and try help fix the issue with the left tube. I was rushed into surgery and hour later, terrified as I've never even broken a bone. I was reassured by the staff at epu I would be fine and I looked for the best thinking if they remove my bad left tube finall, I might have a chance at getting pregnant after so long.
I went for surgery yesterday, I woke up to my partner looking at me, smiling with grapes (bless him!)
Anyway the nurse came in to see us, she started with im sorry, what huh sorry for what?
The surgery went well but they said the adexnal mass was a cyst which I thought it was all along. The found the baby in my right tube which the scan never showed. And remove the right tube and left me with a broken left tube.
Im utterly broken over this, a doctor came in and told me it wasn't his fault he wasn't even here, he didn't know anything and that all my paperwork stated the right side all along. So why was I upset I can still have kids through ivf.
What a,way to be treated. Bullied by nhs doctors, treated like a second class lab rat and then its ok that they have taken the only little natural fertility i have.
Im utterly heartbroken.
