**The No Sleep Club**

[Urchin]

He never used to respond to the whole bedtime routine but tonight he has been great Had his bath, bottle and a cuddle, started to fall asleep so i put him down awake and he was gone in a matter of minutes I'm so proud of him... fingers crossed he will sleep till at least his dream feed

I'm so happy right now I'm so hoping this lasts!! I'll let u no how it all went in the morning!!

Thanks for all the help

Hayley xxxx

Great news fingers crossed!!

 

[hayley_17]

arrrrr..... i think im going insane... owen is getting worse i swear!! he now will hardly sleep during the day and may sleep for like 3 hours in his own bed before he wakes up screaming wanting to be with me.

he now will not settle with anyone but me, which is nice to know he wants to be with me but its so tiring. he screams blue murder if anyone else has him. hes ok until he sees me and then he will scream untill i get him. i had a friend here last week and on thursday we went to the cinema. left about 6:45pm and got back around 9:30. my mum said owen screamed from about 7pm until around 9pm i feel like i cant have a life anymore. he will only settle for sleeps and stuff if im with him.

he slept fine for a few nights but i havent put him into a very strict routine yet because i had a friend here and then he has his jabs on thursday, plus i just changed his milk. its frustrating because he is still being sick quite alot but does seem happier and isnt crying as much with belly ache. now he will sleep after his last feed from about 7 till 8 then be wide awake until past 9, then ill get him to sleep, put him in bed and he'll sleep untill about 11 when i give him his dream feed (sometimes he wakes up for it), then he'll be awake between 2 and 3 am, not wanting to be fed, just not wanting to be on his own. ill get him back to sleep, put him in his cot and he'll keep waking then he'll want to be fed between 5 and 6 and then we go back to sleep together untill about 8.

hes such a happy baby and i feel awful when he cries because he really gets himself all upset. he doesnt like being on his own and im trying so hard to get him into some kind of routine slowly. if someone else is holding owen and he sees me he screams and waves his arms about in front of him like hes trying to get to me, as soon as i have him he stops crying. i am happy that he knows who i am and stuff but also so tired.

i also think he may be teething and thats why hes getting worse. he is dribbling alot, his gums are rock hard, he bites every toy he has, his cheeks are quite red and he is always biting on his hands. are these signs of teething??

xxx

 

[Lindsay]

Orrrr hayley hun, I am the same, Jacob only seems to settle for me too which is lovely but so demanding. I took him to the baby clinic on monday to be weighed and bared my soul to the health visitor as I was so tired and down about it all. It was agreed that I needed to make changes especially to Jacob going to sleep at night as she said if I didn't start to put him down awake he would be 2/3 years old still needing me to settle him - so on Monday I started to make some changes and it was awful, infact I was pathetic so DH did most of the work!

I put off bathing Jacob until a bit later so that he was more tired, then fed him and winded him and put him in his cot awake, he cried and cried and cried but didn't scream and choke which is something he used to do! DH went in every 2 minutes, didn't make eye contact but just rubbed his tummy and made a loud shushing noise (apparently this reminds them of being in the womb) we increased the time by a minute but didn't leave him longer than 5 minutes. After about 45 minutes the crying got less and less and after an hour he was fast asleep. He still woke up a couple of times during the night but went straight back down himself.

Tuesday night, we did exactly the same but it only took 15 minutes before he went to sleep and he slept 9pm-6am without waking up!

We bought a Disney baby moonlight dreamshow for him in town on Tuesday, it attaches to the cot and is voice activated - when he makes a noise it goes off and projects winnie the pooh on the ceiling. This has defo helped settle him.

Last night he cried for 5 mins, watched the light show for 7 mins then went to sleep! He only woke once for a feed and went back down himself.

We have also introduced a small teaspoon of baby rice at lunch time. I am still bf too.

Jacob has red cheeks, dribbles and chews his fists - hv said that there may be movement in his gums. I have been recommended Nelson teether which is a powder you can put in their mouth to ease pain it's supposed to be great!!

It's really hard but it has been the best thing we have done making these changes, am dreading the nights when Dh is working though and I have to do it myself. I know that I will be wanting to get him out if he cries for long periods!

Xxx

 

[Lucy]

Hi Lindsay

Well done on the progress you've made with Jacob's sleeping.

I was like you and had a similar routine of the breastfeeding/putting Olivia down pretty much asleep up until a couple of weeks ago when we did the controlled crying(again like you I went in at short intervals). I wanted to reassure you that the crying gets less and less and now when I put Olivia in her cot at night she doesn't cry at all, in fact I'm sure she smiles! I wish I tried this a few months ago.

Well done!

Lucy

 

[Lucy]

Hi Lindsay

Well done on the progress you've made with Jacob's sleeping.

I was like you and had a similar routine of the breastfeeding/putting Olivia down pretty much asleep up until a couple of weeks ago when we did the controlled crying(again like you I went in at short intervals). I wanted to reassure you that the crying gets less and less and now when I put Olivia in her cot at night she doesn't cry at all, in fact I'm sure she smiles! I wish I tried this a few months ago.

Well done!

Lucy

 

[Lindsay]

Thanks so much for your message Lucy, I really appreciate it. Can I just ask you what you do during the day as I didn't discuss this with the HV!! I wasn't sure if I was supposed to do the same as during the night or if that would confuse him?! We have been rocking him to sleep in our arms during the day, should I be expecting him to go to sleep himself during the day as well as at night time? It's so hard to know what to do for the best so any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Xxx

 

[cassi]

im joining this club, i dont remember what proper sleep feels like no more

 

[prickleyfairy]

I'm still here, it was quiet-i was wondering if Mia is the only one who dosnt sleep though yet!! I can't wait for the day she does!

All i want for crimbo is 8hrs kip!!!

Amy xx

 

[Tina & Gabs]

Room for another one? Sleep....... what's that then???

 

[Eblinx]

can i join the club?"
Damon sleep thru, hes sleeping right now..but im just not tired

 

[Izzy]

Finlay has a snuffle and he's teething so our nights have been horrendous lately.

 

[emx279]

im in the no sleep club too

 

[Alfiesmummy]

depending how Alfie is tonight ... i may have to join, normally he sleeps through ... not any more hes cutting his first tooth, please send me good teething vibes please ladies and hope this little tooth comes through soon!

 

[Lyndsey]

I need to join this...

Logan normally wakes at 12, 3 and 7 ish but last night he woke at 3 and stayed awake until 5........ everyone keeps telling me now he is 8 weeks old he should be sleeping through but he is showing no signs of this...

any ideas??

 

[Urchin]

8 weeks is very early to sleep through if you ask me. Yes some babies do it but only if you're really lucky!

For now, unfortunatley I'd just put up with it and see if it settles down by itself.

 

[Lyndsey]

Thanx Urchin - this is what I thought

 

[violet-glow]

Im going to have to join the club also...

Elora is awake all day till about 7pm then she is awake at 2am (sometimes)... 4am... 6am and then wakes up at 8am and wont go back to sleep.

They say sleep when your baby sleeps.... how can I do that wen she doesnt sleep!? lol

 

[Lyndsey]

Logan doesn't sleep either - sleep when baby sleeps yeah right chance would be a fine thing!

When Logan does eventually fall asleep it is normally after about 2 hours of screaming....

 

[rusks]

i think i'll join too!! luke just having a really fussy time and the nights seem so long when he just screams through, what feels like all night

 

[Urchin]

Rusks (and anyone else) if you are interested there are loads of techniques we tried and info and links and stuff in this thread, read the first page and you'll see what I mean. Maybe it will help?

Good luck girls I totally sympathise!