Terrified of labour!

[Cantstop]

I've avoided One Born Every Minute like the plague! I normally like to know exactly what's going on, but where the birth is concerned I'm keeping my distance from horrible stories - as people keep pointing out and what I'm trying to remember, is it is the most natural process in the world and we just need to trust our bodies and afterwards it'll just be a blur.

 

[kirsty27]

I am in the first category too and am obsessively watching anything on t.v about labour and births - my poor hubby goes green and has to leave the room

Thinking about it practically, women have been given birth since the dawn of time. The way I see it, labour is just a muscle working and doing what it is designed for. My sister explained that contractions come like waves, they start out small and build to a peak, at the time when you think you can't handle the pain it starts to subside and you feel no pain in between - that makes it sound do-able (or so I'm telling myself).

The bit that does freak me out a bit too is the idea of being split in two but I've been re-assured by my friends who are mums that it doesn't feel like this at all.

I think it doesn't help that anytime there is a birth on a t'v programme there is some daft bint actress screaming like a banshee I still have my wobbles where I'm not so sure I can do it but more than anything I'm looking forward to the experience.

 

[mumofmany]

with my 1st i definately went for the blind approach, so much so that when my waters started leaking i hadn;t even packed a bag, let alone bought the stuff i needed, me and my mum went shopping and bought sanatry towels (didn;t realise i needed them lol) breast pads (again what they for) nappies, wipes, I had bought front opening nighties lol thinkthat was about it. packed thebag and waters went gush that night and i had him next day.
I am panicking now about the labour but for different reasons that most i have extremelyfast labours and they are quite scary and when i say fast i mean minutes from start to finish. but what i would say is that i am a wimp when i comes to pain like a headache or feeling sick , but labour you can tolerate more, it is a pain for a reason, a headache or feeling sick normally is for nothing you get no benefit out of it, also think of each pain as a pain less to getting your baby.

 

[tinytoes]

you can try perineal massage that is supposed to help with tearing , and and trying different positions in labour for most of mine I was up dancing through contractions . Labour hurts there's no denying that but when its all over you dont remember the pain you just see this beautiful baby and think" I'd go through so much worse for you" . Tinkerbell there are some amazing one day ante natal classes for totally preparing you but honestly a c section is considered a major operation you wont be able to do much , with a natural labour you could be home in day afterwards

Once i'm pregnant I will have a good think about it, don't want to just out rule a natural birth as like you said c section is major surgery but I'm terrified of the pain, the tearing, stictches, things not be the same again down there and then on top of that I have a lung condition some I'm worried about the preasure and getting really out of breath plus i'm also diabetic so could have a larger baby and i'm only a tiny person i don;t see how babies get out
It's something I have to discuss with my CF doctor anyway and they may prefer a C-section as it could be easier on me in the long run.

I think my fears are made worse because my mum had an awful time having me, very long labour, i wasn't in the right position, was quite a big baby (9lb) and in the end had to be born my emergancy c-section which from how the section then affected her I know isn't the 'easy' option either and she didn't have a much better time with my sister - only just avoided another c-section but ended up with 44 stitched and my sister wasn't even 6lb

I need to read some positive, easy birth stories i think haha

:hugs; thats more than understandable , I was so afraid last time my mum also had an awful birth with my sister and kept telling me every detail . I really hope I didn't sound too judgemental and I apologise if I did . I must admit the reason im so afraid of c sections is because my MW terrified me away from wanting one so I know nothing about them lol . Deffo read some positive birth stories , I plan too when I get further along . Aoibheann got very badly hurt during my labour (her face was bruised , and eyes we're cut so I'm anxious enough myself this time )

 

[kellylou]

I didn't dread it until last thing but I made sure I read up about all kinds of scenarios which helped me when my hind waters went but I wasn't dilated. I think this kept me calm and relaxed in the end I never had a natural labour which really disappointed me but getting baby out was a priority and I had to have a c-section. I can honestly say the only thing I feared was the epidural but the rest was fine and I had to have hormone drip to try and get me dilated.

 

[Tinkerbell3]

you can try perineal massage that is supposed to help with tearing , and and trying different positions in labour for most of mine I was up dancing through contractions . Labour hurts there's no denying that but when its all over you dont remember the pain you just see this beautiful baby and think" I'd go through so much worse for you" . Tinkerbell there are some amazing one day ante natal classes for totally preparing you but honestly a c section is considered a major operation you wont be able to do much , with a natural labour you could be home in day afterwards

Once i'm pregnant I will have a good think about it, don't want to just out rule a natural birth as like you said c section is major surgery but I'm terrified of the pain, the tearing, stictches, things not be the same again down there and then on top of that I have a lung condition some I'm worried about the preasure and getting really out of breath plus i'm also diabetic so could have a larger baby and i'm only a tiny person i don;t see how babies get out
It's something I have to discuss with my CF doctor anyway and they may prefer a C-section as it could be easier on me in the long run.

I think my fears are made worse because my mum had an awful time having me, very long labour, i wasn't in the right position, was quite a big baby (9lb) and in the end had to be born my emergancy c-section which from how the section then affected her I know isn't the 'easy' option either and she didn't have a much better time with my sister - only just avoided another c-section but ended up with 44 stitched and my sister wasn't even 6lb

I need to read some positive, easy birth stories i think haha

:hugs; thats more than understandable , I was so afraid last time my mum also had an awful birth with my sister and kept telling me every detail . I really hope I didn't sound too judgemental and I apologise if I did . I must admit the reason im so afraid of c sections is because my MW terrified me away from wanting one so I know nothing about them lol . Deffo read some positive birth stories , I plan too when I get further along . Aoibheann got very badly hurt during my labour (her face was bruised , and eyes we're cut so I'm anxious enough myself this time )

Oh no you didn;t sound judgemental at all it's nice to hear advice and views from others that have actually been through giving birth already, after all I haven't so can only tell myself what I think will be best for now.
I think the another reason I lean towards the idea of c-sections more is because i've heard less bad stories, like my cousin had them with both her children and said she wouldn't do it any other way as she found the recovery just fine, the only real things i worry about with it are selfish, vain worries like how bad the scar will look or will i be left with overhang etc.
I think I'm also worried about a natural birth incase baby doesn't come out so easy and I hate the though of forsips or something because of reasons that you mentioned - baby being hurt, bruised etc

I hope you have a better experiance this time xx