Sorry about new Thread but at wits end...

[WinterWolf]

Goodness me I think you need to give your husband a break! Poor man! It’s annoying when they can’t perform when TTC but you shouldn’t be so mean to him.

 

[soffphie]

Goodness me I think you need to give your husband a break! Poor man! It’s annoying when they can’t perform when TTC but you shouldn’t be so mean to him.

Ah i agree with you
Still cant believe Mon night happened..
I think emotions and anger got better of me to be honest. We will be fine now tho im sure, feels like a kinda break thru yesterday

 

[WinterWolf]

It’s good that you can recognise you said the wrong thing. Wanting to have a baby with someone should stem from love. TTC splits a lot of couples up so I think you should take the time to remember why you want a baby with him.

Remember - women can have sex without really being interested but men actually need to be aroused to do it, so don’t put pressure on him or it’ll backfire. I know it’s hard when you have limited time but you do need to be more understanding and try and get him in the mood. I got pissed at my hubby too when he was “too tired” but sometimes that’s just how it is.

RE timing - I never told hubby where I was in my cycle because the pressure to perform makes a lot of men unable to. I just tried to be as sexy as possible around ovulation lol. It took us 6-8 months to conceive so I know it gets old, but it’ll be worth it in the end!!

 

[Donna88]

I agree with the others and it's good that you can see how you shouldn't have been so harsh with him. Try to just take a breath before saying anything if it happens again.

I know it's frustrating, my husband never had any problems when we weren't trying but as soon as we started trying (even though it was his idea) he suddenly started having problems performing. I think he put too much pressure on himself, but it made me wonder if he actually wanted a baby or if he'd changed his mind.

The month we actually got pregnant I didn't track ovulation. After my period stopped we just dtd as often as we could, we tried to make it every other day, but sometimes it was every day and sometimes every day. We didn't worry too much about it to be honest and although we were making an effort to do it more often - we also kind of did it when we felt like it as there was no pressure to say we need to do it THIS DAY. I know I might not be so lucky again but when we try for the next we will try and take the same approach.


I know you won't want to hear this but if I were you I would think about how TTC has affected you both and maybe take a month or two off - don't start using protection but try not to think about it (easier said than done I know, as if you know your cycles you have a very good idea of when you need to be baby dancing and it's very hard to not think about it) I remember saying to my husband after I was sure I had ovulated that it is weird to think what might be going on in my body that we have no idea about yet.

 

[Vintageling]

I agree totally. I learned a while back NOT to say when ovulating .today however i just said it cause as far as my mind at the time was concerned what harm could it do..

Yea I tell him after the fact now so then he is in the loop because he is fine when we start talking fertile window but it was just that one day I would say we are ovulating it would stop him in his tracks but was fine again the next day.