I'm not bothered.

[LouiseB]

You know, i haven't had sex very much this cycle and i'm a bit surprised at how not bothered i am.

We had sex on cd 13 because i was horny and then on cd 14 because i wanted more (it was the best sex i've had in months and months!) and then i had my surge on cd 15 and had sex that evening too.

Now i know i should have had sex on cd 16 and cd 17 ideally because that is when i should ovulate but didn't.

I'm still getting a second line on my OPK even though it's lighter but it crosses my mind when i climb into bed that i should bd and i just think - who cares! and roll over and go to sleep quite content.

Part of me thinks "ah good, i'm relaxing" and the other part of me feels like i've given up.

I still want kids but i feel done with ttc, although i'm not sure i'll ever get pregnant unless i'm trying because we don't normally have sex - my OH seems to have a low labido probably due to his diabetes.

I just wondered if anyone could relate.

 

[star fish]

Aw hun, I've gone through months when i've felt like that. It's a hump in the road, when you've gone down it so far and it just seems too hard and i'm sure some people do give up at that point. But not you! You were clearly born to be a fab mum, you're full of comfort and advice and generally keep cheerful. I can see you've been low these last couple of weeks, but you have to keep going through this bit. I cant promise there wont be other lows but i seriously think this first one is the hardest. You will have your family but you two have to keep trying!

 

[flexilexi394]

i think its actually a good thing that youre thinking like that - it may just be what you needed for it to work for you! x

 

[ZMD]

the month i got my bfp we didmt really try at all as ttc was starting to controll our lives good luck hun x

 

[sparkle82]

I agree, seen a few of the ladies post that theyd been taking it easy the month they conceived, not stressing & relaxed about it all, you never know xx

 

[midnight]

the reason you felt like it was because your body knew when the time was right

 

[LouiseB]

Thanks for the replies ladies.

StarFish, I think your right about the first low being the worst - i just don't know what to do with myself anymore. I don't feel or care for anything.

I'm hardly eating, don't want to get dressed, i didn't even brush my hair this morning - i'm lucky it's short!

I haven't walked the dogs for about 5 days poor sods, good thing we have a big garden!

I just spend the day in bed on my DS.

 

[maybe baby]

Hi Louise,

I hope you're ok, I think it's only natural to be up and down with your emotions, TTC isn't easy and no matter how hard you try to go with the flow and not stress you just can't at times, it's such an emotional rollercoaster and although you're feeling low now you'll be feeling fine in a few days.

I'd really recommend getting out of the house and getting some fresh air, you might not feel like it but it will make you feel so much better.

I'm at the the time of my cycle before OV, I think this is a lot easier than the 2WW as you're just excited for OV and you feel you're being proactive about things by all the Bding, the 2WW is a nightmare as all you can do is wait while your body teases you with symptoms.

If you are worried about Hubbys tests then try not to, I'm sure he'll be fine.

Hope you feel better and get your BFP soon! xxx

 

[misscrazycooki]

the month i got my bfp we didmt really try at all as ttc was starting to controll our lives good luck hun x

I got pregnant the month we barly did it and he was doing a sperm sample so he had to go 5 days without anything haha x so yeah it only takes one day to do it just picking right one is hard or just lucky x

 

[Binzy]

Sorry the TTC is making you feel rough, I've been through a good few months where I've thought, 'is it really worth bding tonight, I'm so tired' and just haven't bothered. There's only so much you can take, I can completely understand where you're coming from, but staying at home and not getting dressed all day isn't going to make you feel better. You need to get out and about a bit more. Hope you feel more positive soon, xx

 

[LouiseB]

Yeah we've made plans - just come into a wad of money so looking into what to buy, think we'll get some sofas for the living room. So yes, trying to get busy.

Everytime i think i've shaken my slump, it hits me harder.

I'm just hoping i don't feel like this until i get a BFP lol

You ladies make me feel better anyway

 

[Olive]

hope you're reet love. i feel your pain. it is a mood drainer at times!xx

 

[traci]

Dont let it drag you down. I did and it was the worst feeling in the world. Stand up to the lows and show it you can get thru it. Even if you just take your dogs out for 10 mins a day, it gets you out and helps clear your head. Lets hope you a get bfp soon, dont try too hard. Just enjoy having fun! x

 

[sarah1]

Hey Louise, just wanted you to know you are not alone! I feel the same as you at the mo. My dh keeps getting really bad, lets call it... 'performance anxiety' for bding around when I ov (even if I don't srop any hints - its like he just knows!) and other night I was really depressed about the whole thing thinking that even when we do bd sometimes its not working and we'll prob never have a baby. But yesterday it happened again and I've just started thinking I don't really care! Last night was tired so just went to sleep......its a weird feeling isn't it?! I can't possibly distract myself with anything else and we are 'taking it easy' this month but just feel like I'm kinda stuck in a weird 'middle' place where my life won't move on but also its not so bad....weird :S Hope u feel better soon....think sometimes women can get mid-cycle type depression, know I do! take care xxxxxxxxx

 

[positivity :)]

hi louise, just seen this! i hope you are feeling a bit better today. i totally get this, there will be days when you just think i can't be arsed with this but then you sort of panic in case yu have missed your chance for the month. i often think, i might be someone who is going to take a year or more to conceive so i am just going to try to relax and if on one night of ov i dont fancy it, there is always next time.

not much great advice there but you are not alone xx

 

[LouLou1986]

i do hun, the month i caught we had only bd like 3 or four times and no idea if it was by went i ovulated or not, so cudnt tell ya when i bd and caught :-S