smoking weed

[Vickyleigh]

A friend of mine, well now ex friend smoked weed but stopped when she was pregnant with her daughter and started again as soon as her baby was born. I used to go round her house almost every day and she would sit in the kitchen smoking weed while her daughter was in her bouncy chair in the living room.
When her daughter was old enough to crawl around she would come up to the living room door and bang on it for her mums attention but she always ignored her and carried on smoking.
She smoked one joint after the other and used bongs as well. I had the odd puff but I didn't like the way it made me lazy and moody so I didn't smoke it. I remember once she sat in the kitchen for 4 hours smoking and drinking and just left the baby on her own in the living room.
She would also get very drunk around her baby and she got aggresive with me once, she was holding the baby and trying to hit me at the same time!!!! The amount of times she got arrested while drunk, stoned and around the baby it's irrisponsable and stupid. social services even got involved but didn't do anything. My Mum sometimes looks after her baby and when her mum comes to collect her she screams and crys because she doesn't want to go home with her mum! I couldn't astand seeing all this and I basically told her to eff off I didn't want to be friends with someone like that. Now i'm pregnant I can't believe she smoked that much weed around her daughter! Girls like her do not deserve children.

 

[foxymum]

thats so sad can't you report her & keep doing it till social services do something about it?
i would, i know its hard though.

 

[Vickyleigh]

I feel bad for not doing anything the baby is obviously unhappy and she doesn't get the attention she needs from her mum.
I think the reason social services didn't do anything before is because they told the mum that they would be visiting so she had time to prepare but if they just went round without her knowing it would be a different story.

 

[Jade89]

oh i wana cry after reading that, thats discusting.

 

[Redshoes]

That is so, so sad
You shouldn't feel bad Vickyleigh, she's the one doing wrong. Is there a Homestart in your area? Or some sort of mothers group that maybe you could phone, or even post some leaflets through her door, if given the right routes she may ask for help, sort herself out a bit?

It's so sad to hear children are left in environments like that, it's so wrong, hard to believe social services do nothing

Best wishes to you too Vickyleigh I think you did the right thing walking away, it must have been difficult to witness that

 

[happy-chick]

My mum & dad smoked weed all my life, they never smoked it infront of me & was always outside but I would just like to say that they are brilliant parents and it has NEVER effected me or my brother.

Im not saying i do agree with it but just wanted to say it hasnt effected me one little bit! I admit they didnt get stoned out of their faces and only had very small amounts now and again unlike some parent who are so out of their faces they cant function.

I dont want to argue with anyone just wanted to air my view!

 

[Jade89]

It affects people differently in my opinion though, with your Mum and Dad they must have felt normal by smoking it...and fair enough they did it out of your way.

But When I used to smoke it a few years ago it made my body feel like i was going paralyed and i'd just stare in to space and not listen to anyone, I couldnt imagine smoking it now ive got a baby, what if she cried and I was that stoned that I ignored her, coz thats how it made me go with other people...Thats no state to look after a child.

 

[happy-chick]

I do agree with you Jade if it makes you like that its a definate no no!

I think my mum & dad had smoked it that long that it did make them normal and just a little more relaxed. They still both smoke it now.