Argh I'm So Angry!!

[jld123]

One of my 'best friends' discovered she was pregnant about 6 weeks ago. She recently went for a scan and shes now 11 weeks pregnant.

She used to smoke about 20 fags a day & smoked weed every single day with her boyfriend and occasioonally did cocain on the weekends. (need i say her boyfriend is an absolute waste of space, but its her life so i stay out)

Since finding out shes pregnant she told me that her exemption card hasnt come through so she cannot get free prescriptions yet and doesnt want to pay for them so she would have to carry on smoking until she use her exemption card to get the gum etc to help her stop. So I paid for her prescription because I wanted to help her towards quitting - only to find out the next day through my other friend(who is going out with my pregnant friends brother) that she accepted money off her mum for the prescription too! and didnt tell me

We went for lunch today and she went out for a cigarrette 3 times, and said she had to leave because she was tired. My friend later on saw her & was convinced she was stoned. this is the second time she has been stoned and lied about it since finding out she is pregnant. Im getting sick of it! I dont know why it bothers me but it just does, her boyfriend is addicted to cocain & most evenings they used to go to a friends and smoke weed, snort cocain and get drunk (oh what a life) and im convinced this hasnt stopped just because she is pregnant.

It winds me up how careless she can be & how she just expects everything to be ok with the baby & the fact that it probably will be ! So when she gets pregnant again in the future she will do exactly the same!

That poor baby, being born to such useless parents.

it winds me up way too much, it frustrates me. I just want to scream in her face but she is so defensive and quite honestly a BITCH that it wouldnt be worth stressing myself over.

Sorry, Rant over!

 

[Princess81]

I'd keep your distance from her hun, she is obvioously brining you down. Some role model she will be for a baby! I'd cut your losses about the perscription, I doubt she'll ever pay you back. I know as a social on/off smoker a craving can be hard to ignore, but she doesn't seem to be trying very hard. She sounds quite immature xx

 

[pinkymum]

I'd keep your distance from her hun, she is obvioously brining you down. Some role model she will be for a baby! I'd cut your losses about the perscription, I doubt she'll ever pay you back. I know as a social on/off smoker a craving can be hard to ignore, but she doesn't seem to be trying very hard. She sounds quite immature xx

I agree with this. Stay away from her hun, I've struggled with smoking but at least I've been trying! And smoking weed and possibly taking cocaine while pregnant is sick!
*hugs*

 

[jld123]

I don't care about the money to be honest. 7 pounds cant get me far, its just the principal of it. Im trying to help and she takes me for a mug. I feel like shes not taking her pregnancy seriously, Ive read and researched all I need to know about my stage up until now and most things about labour incase I go into it early. She knows absolutely nothing!! its beyond stupidity how little she knows & cares. All she seems to care about is 'Oh they might be friends' 'If mines a boy they might end up getting married'

Get Real!!

thanks by the way xx

 

[jld123]

I understand smoking is an addiction & some people can never fully stop. But when you don't care enough about your baby to even cut down - it just completely baffles me. and she obviously doesnt care

 

[pinkymum]

I understand smoking is an addiction & some people can never fully stop. But when you don't care enough about your baby to even cut down - it just completely baffles me. and she obviously doesnt care

Yep it defo seems like she doesn't actually care at all hun. You're better.off away from her
X x x x

 

[Princess81]

She just sounds extremely childish. How old is she? She's gonna have an awful shock when she goes in to labour then eh? At least you know what you are letting yourself in for

 

[zooma]

I can understand your anger. That sounds to me like the most pathetic excuse for not quitting. She cannot afford the prescription for the gum???! I'm sorry but if she can afford to smoke 20 cigarettes a day and weed and possibly snort cocaine and she can't afford the 6 or 7 pounds that a presription costs, it sounds like she will never quit because she doesn't really want to. This annoys me - I have never smoked so don't fully understand how difficult it is to quit but I know that you need to WANT to quit in order to be sucessful - otherwise no gum or patches etc will work.

 

[Princess81]

Actually that's a really good point, if she can afford cigs then she can afford a perscription!! Nicotine lozengers are £5.99 for about 70! It does make me mad that people can abuse their bodies and have a healthy pregnancy, whilst others try so hard to look after themselves and still lose their l/o's

 

[KellyHook]

i would feel the same hun! it makes me angry just reading it and im not even her friend!! it does annoy me when people take getting pregnant for granted and doesnt class it as a blessing especially to all the couples who are desperatly trying to get pregnant and cant or struggling!! i understand smoking is a habit and its hard to kick.. but to refuse to pay for a perscription and to carry on smoking till she gets her exemption card is stupid! and dont even get me started on the weed and cocaine... i agree with the others i would keep my distance!! argghh!!!

 

[Rachey]

She sounds really selfish. I would just keep my distance from her hun, she doesn't sound like she's worth the bother and she's definetly not worth you stressing over. You will have enough on your plate without having to worry about her too! What age is she?

It annoys me soooo much how people can take drugs, drink as much as they like etc and have perfectly healthy babies, yet there's other people who would do/give anything for a baby and can't have them. I used to get so angry with ones of my friends sisters who's a drug addict, she found out she was pregnant and didn't make any attempt to give up her addiction and the little girl is now with foster parents, she has now had another baby boy who has also been taken from her. It makes me mad! Feel so sorry for people who try for babies for years, then you get people like my friends sister, and like your friend who don't give a monkeys.

Really hope she gets her act together for her babies sake!!

xxx

 

[amandapanda]

Actually that's a really good point, if she can afford cigs then she can afford a perscription!! Nicotine lozengers are £5.99 for about 70! It does make me mad that people can abuse their bodies and have a healthy pregnancy, whilst others try so hard to look after themselves and still lose their l/o's

This is so true.....xxx

 

[pinkymum]

Actually that's a really good point, if she can afford cigs then she can afford a perscription!! Nicotine lozengers are £5.99 for about 70! It does make me mad that people can abuse their bodies and have a healthy pregnancy, whilst others try so hard to look after themselves and still lose their l/o's

This is so true.....xxx

Very true, makes me sad to think about it

 

[jld123]

She's 21, the same age as me. Its awful because im pretty sure she got pregnant to ensure that the babys father stays in her life for good. shes hopelessly in love with him, and he is such a waste of space. I think it annoys me most as since i was 15 I have been told its very unlikely i would ever concieve a child. So it came as a massive shock to us that i fell pregnant and i've been very careful with my pregnancy! and she just struts along, living her life as she would as if she wasnt pregnant. argh!

 

[Lou_1]

I think u always find that i feel so much for ppl TTC who wld be amazing parents when there is so many loosers out there who can fall pregnant and carry a child no problems.. Its ppl like ur friend who give us "younger" mums a bad name!!!!

I wouldnt waste ur time trying to help her hun unless she willing to try herself. x

 

[Squeakz]

i smoked before i knew i was pregnant and THE SECOND i found out i quit despite the serious need for one there and then. I didnt smoke another cigarette at all. I personally thought it was easy as it was someones life and health at stake!! x she sounds horrible. Its fine if people want to do whatever they want but when its gonna be affecting someone who has no choice in the matter then i think its wrong!! this little baby could grow up/be born with serious problems! how selfish! xx

 

[pinkymum]

i smoked before i knew i was pregnant and THE SECOND i found out i quit despite the serious need for one there and then. I didnt smoke another cigarette at all. I personally thought it was easy as it was someones life and health at stake!! x she sounds horrible. Its fine if people want to do whatever they want but when its gonna be affecting someone who has no choice in the matter then i think its wrong!! this little baby could grow up/be born with serious problems! how selfish! xx

I stopped and then started again and then cut down. This week I've stopped altogether. Must admit I've found it really tough but I'm determined to stay stopped for me and my baby this time. I got help from a midwife who specialised in smoking cessation, and that's been helpful. Everytime I think about going to the shop for a pack I think about Emily and her not being able to breathe properly :'(

 

[cherelle]

my OH is a social worker and works with a lot of girls like your friend who get pregnant young for the wrong reasons, some of them are homeless and most of them are on drugs.

I find it so sad more than anything that something as precious as an unborn baby can be subjected to drink and drugs. I smoked until the day i got my BFP and i would never have dreamed of even having 1 drag while pregnant! Dont waste your time with her hun x

 

[xshauna_bazx]

I know someone like this although she is not a friend, just someone who goes with OH friend. She even boasted about wanting some cocaine on facebook, i mean for fuck sake!!! Some people do not give a shit. Shes had problems with the baby being too small and everything but shes nearly due now, everything is fine as far as i know. Theres pictures of her on facebook with bottles of wine infront of her, this was when she was pregnant too. I know she was drinking them as she often got pissed! Its terrible and disgusting!!! xxx

 

[flopsybunny]

Its shocking how selfish some people can be! It makes me angry to think how careful I am being and how cherished my little baby is. I would give up anything or do anything for my baby to be born healthy and have the best possible chances in life and I cannot understand people who don't!

Pregnancy is such an emotional time, you can do without the upset of that. I say distance yourself from her and spend time with more like minded people. Some people are on the road to destruction but are too wrapped up in themselves to notice. Its just a shame that an innocent life is caught up in it.

Xx