** September 2014 Mummies! **

[kanga86]

The day hasn't gone any better, in fact I feel worse had 2 breakdowns crying today once this morning and one about 30mins ago. DH was here for the second one and hasn't even comforted me feeling so stressed and worried about everything to do with our living arrangements, I just don't know what to do with myself. xx

 

[clarep1905]

Oh Kanga bless you.. Things feel so much more overwhelming when you are pregnant don't they..
How does your Hubs feel about the living situation, is he worried? x

 

[Crackers]

Oh kanga that's not good Eveything is much more stressful when pregnant as we have that innate urge to be settled and ready for baby.
What's the latest with the living situation?Xx

 

[kanga86]

DH isn't really talking about it, think he is as worried as me. We don't have any more info from the family so in limbo, which is what is killing me. Been trying to see if we could afford a mortgage, and get the in laws to help with a deposit but my fil doesn't seem to want to help us now. DH doesn't want to pay any more rent here than we already do, so we could go down the being evicted route and trying for a council house. It's the not knowing where I am going to be living with a toddler and a newborn that is really gettijr me down. Plus the fact my family could be so selfish to do this to us now and have the cheek to tell us not to worry!

I have work in less than an hour and all I have done this evening is cry on and off. Feeling so crap think I've reached my breaking point and don't know how to recover at the mo xx

 

[ClimbingRose]

Oh Kanga, thats unfair Sorry your FIL has changed his mind, its so hard because its awkward enough asking to borrow the money, but when someone says yes, then changes their mind its so much worse.

Same happened to me recently, a friend of ours has inherited money and feels its burning a hole in his pocket, he knows we are really worried about out living arrangements and the future, and so he said he'd like to invest in property and if we found a house we liked within his budget he'd buy it and rent it to us. I was overwhelmed with the offer and got looking, we found a few we liked, but within 2 weeks he'd changed his mind and now wants to invest in something else, we feel pretty gutted and like its never going to happen for us, and rents have just gotten so ridiculous I know it sounds ungrateful, but I just wish he'd never offered in the first place now xx

 

[MrsHttc]

Hey ladies. Been AWOL for a few days...SPD has had me down in the dumps

Ah kanga, that's awful that your family has put you in this situation....especially when your pregnant with not too long to go now. The same sort of thing happened to me when I was pregnant with Emily...she's my eldest, so at least I didn't have any more children at the time. My brother and his fiancée split up and I was renting the house from them. The house was only in her name, and at 37 weeks she came and said she was selling the house. So ppl were viewing it etc, and Emily's nursery was all done and stuff, only to have to move out. So I have an inkling of how your feeling right now. I really hope it all works out and something turns up. I think we pregnant ladies have enough on our plates without things like that to deal with too xxx

 

[vicky78]

I'm off, see you in third trimester! xx

 

[iwantabuba95]

It's moving day for me ladies, 28 weeks as of today see you in trimester 3 xx

 

[Soph_UK]

Bye Vicky and I want a bubba! See u in a week!

Happy 26 weeks to myself and Nicole!

 

[clarep1905]

How are you feeling today Kanga? Hope work wasn't too bad last night x

 

[kanga86]

Climbing Rose, I sometimes wish he never offered either. You get your hopes so high when you start looking at houses etc. the original plan was a year ago and it was the same set up, us paying the mortgage for his Dad. Then this year he said we could have the deposit and now he doesn't. I don't understand as my DH is an only child, so surely any investment will end up his anyway wether it's in a house or savings, but hey ho!

Sorry your spd is so bad mrsH, it really is depressing isn't it. Mine *touchs wood* hasn't been too bad! but think I over done it at work last night as feeling a bit sore today.
I can't believe they sold the house when you were 37wks! How awful! Thankfully they mentioned this in feb originally so we have done none of the things we had planned in the house. At the mo, we don't have anywhere for baby to go, I'm just glad they will be in our room for a while, whether it be at this house or another. To be honest, I just want out of this house now, it was all good when we thought in a few years we could buy it from them, but that's not going to be an option now, so I just want to screw them over and move out. Justin will have to find new tent ants then to cover the mortgage costs, which he probably won't because the house is a mess and needs so much work doing to it.

Yay for tri 3 Vicky and iwantabuba See you then Friday!

Happy 26 weeks Soph and Nic

Clare, work wasn't too bad last night, we were kept busy with the football goers lol Think it helped take my mind off everything for a bit. Managed a nice sleep this morning as DH took Harry out, just wish I wasn't in tonight as Sundays are a lot quieter. Means we get more cleaning jobs to do I will probably be fine once I'm there though. So glad I'm only doing 2 shifts a week now xx

 

[Crackers]

See you over there Tuesday iwantabuba and vicky!

MrsH - mine too I was signed off work last week by the gp, and he said if I needed more time to just go back Monday/Tuesday and he'd do me a cert for another week. Really unsure about whether to or not. I've only got 7 weeks left at work now til mat leave starts...but once that pains kicks in again it feels like forever!

kanga - such a horrible situation you're in, but can totally understand you just wanting to get out now. Totally different situation to yours, but with our house sale dragging on so long I feel the same - can't be bothered with this place any more! I really hope it gets resolved soon. Is a change of area (for cheaper rent) an option?

Busy Father's Day weekend for us. Hubby went to bubble football yesterday, where grown men run around in giant inflatable balls and attempt to play football, resulting in them looking like total planks falling about all over the place! Very funny, and he loved it. Took DD to watch and she loved it too! Then to mums for a big family meal, and DD and my nephew were playing in the garden all afternoon. Then today a visit to a big playground park with dd, then visiting the inlaws...time for feet up and Chinese takeaway soon I think!

 

[BeckyBiscuit]

Sorry to hear you've got all that stress going on Kanga-really not what you need right now so hope something gets sorted ASAP.

Just got home after a weekend camping at the beach-had a lovely time but absolutely shattered now, too much sun and fresh air I think! Found t ok camping whilst pregnant so that bodes well for our holiday in July. One of hubby's colleagues couldn't believe we were going-he said "why would you want to take your 6 month pregnant wife camping?"! A) It was my idea and B) I'm pregnant not disabled! Annoys me when people make judgements about what you should/shouldn't be doing-everyone is different!

Hope everyone has had a nice Father's Day weekend with the lovely sunshine. Early night for me tonight! Only 2 more days till tri3! x

 

[Lilmisshopeful]

I went and watched my daughter run race for life today and a 37 week pregnant lady ran it too. Omg she certainly isn't letting pregnancy hold her back haha. Made me feel right lazy. Was standing on a bench videoing her tho xxx

 

[BeckyBiscuit]

I'm hoping to run our local Race for Life in about 3 weeks when I'll be nearly 30 weeks. Have been doing at least one 5k run a week up til now but twisted my ankle on a kerb on Friday so not sure how much longer I will keep doing it

 

[kanga86]

Crackers, sorry your spd is so bad too. I think I'm only getting through my shifts at work because everyone is helping me out and doing all the jobs for me. No point in going into work if your going to suffer too much. Do you get sick pay? Also hope you hear some news about the house today. Sounds like you had a great weekend, we haven't been far because of me working, but dh did take Harry to a play group yesterday and we played in the garden.

Becky it sounds like you had a lovely time. I think camping is great fun and if your ok sleeping on the ground as such then go enjoy enjoy yourself. Can't believe your still running and doing a race for life! I can barely walk around the house without being knackered lol

Feeling a bit more stress free about the house at the mo. Spoke with dh about it all and he has agreed that if the rent goes up by £45 a month max ( we used online mortgage calculators, know the property value and the deposit amount and this is what it said his mortgage repayment would be) then we will stay here and make the best of it. If anymore than that then we will rent somewhere else, in better condition even if it costs more or go to the council and say they are selling the house and making us homeless and see if we can get a council property asap which will be lower rent but probably a flat. I am going to complete my bookkeeping courses and hopefully when I finish mat leave find a new job and earn double what I do now, even with childcare I will still take home more. We can then save and hopefully get a mortgage deposit ourselves. It's a very long term plan, but I'm feeling hopeful now xx

 

[kanga86]

Also I am so bloody tired today, had 2hrs sleep after my night shift last night and Harry is being a monkey and tantruming loads. Just don't have the energy to deal with the non stop crying so far xx

 

[Lilmisshopeful]

Kanga I was in a private house and the guy wanted his son to live there so evicted me and the council gave me a house. I had to go through the eviction to the point of having a day that the bailiffs was coming to get it. Stressful but so worth it in the end. Housing options in guildhall dealt with me. So might be worth asking them to just evict you xxx

 

[kanga86]

Thanks lilmiss. I have mentioned to my family about evicting us and they were happy enough to fill in the necessary forms etc. it's such a minefield and the fareham borough website is crap for info. Think I may have to go to citizens advice or something to find out exactly where we stand. Hopefully we will be a high priority family having a 2yr old and one due in 3 months!! xx

 

[nds]

hi girls.
been lurking, just not posted.

kanga; harry looks so cute in that photo you posted, what a sweetheart. i am so sorry about the housing situation. you sound like you are having such a rubbish time right now, and it's really not what you need! glad to hear people are helping you out at work though. i hope everything works out for you all, and soon! hope today wasn't too bad?

soph, happy 26 weeks lovely.

crackers, sorry you guys didn't exchange on the day you wanted.

clare, i know exactly what you mean by feeling like it's flying by but also feeling like you've been pregnant forever. guess i will do though, as out of the last 17 months, i have pregnant for 15 of those! (i think that's right anyway, maths not my strongest point haha)

yes i'm very hot, and haven't slept a wink recently either. last night, i climbed into bed about 9:45, didn't sleep until after midnight, then woke up 3 4 5 and 6, and was on off until 6:45am. very frustrating, and now i'm shattered. OH can't sleep with the window open either, so not really sure of a way around that!

fathers day a little emotional for us yesterday - hope you all had a nice day.

glad you had a nice holiday becky, bump looks great! good luck for race for life, thats great! hope the ankle's alright - saw your instagram post!

our bed keeps breaking because it's just a cheap crappy slatted frame, we're thinking of making one of those pallet beds - you guys seen them?

we've also ordered some new sofas, which should hopefully arrived in 4-6 weeks. our current sofas were just a cheap bargain from a family friend that we needed desperately when we moved out last year. they are a horrible mustard colour, leather which i hate, and tiny - we can't lounge together on one sofa, we have to sit seperately! getting a bit fed up, so have ordered a lovely fabric two seater one for under the window instead of an armchair, and a corner one for the main bit - at least we'll be able to sit together AND have baby there too *excited face*.

xxxx