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That's discussing!!! I'd be in pieces aswell what a insensitive mw!! Bmi is a total load of rubbish epically when your pregnant it's designed for the totally average person what ever that is and dosnt take into account so many thing a major exams is my husband he's a pro boxer and his bmi is awful is says he's morbidly Obease... Go figure cause muscle weighs more than fat!...... My bmi was higher than yours at the 1st appointment and I havnt been weighed again or any mention of my weight how can they expect pregnant women to not put on weight?! .... You also retain water when pregnant so a lot of it can be that it's just stupid!! Try not to get too upset tho, like it said ignore bmi I know a lot of dietitians and personal trainers ect and they don't ever go by bmi!
 
What an evil mw you have mrsH, I have gone from 30 to 34 bmi but my mw didn't even mention it just based everything on my booking bmi. I am eating utter crap at the mo so your doing good if your eating fruit and veg. So far todat I have eaten crisps, sausages rolls, custard creams and skittles!! Bmi shouldn't mean anything in pregnancy.

I felt very judged in my first pregnancy at my bmi was 36, and that was after losing 20lbs in the 1st tri due to sickness. Scared me saying my baby was going to be huge and that I needed the GD test and extra growth scans. Harry came 10 days late at only 7lbs 1oz, so there goes that theory!! Also I was told several times that I needed to eat better in my pregnancy (had no appetite) and that I was harming my baby. My step mum even tried to tell me her stillborn was due to not eating properly!! I mean wtf, why do that!! So please don't starve yourself hun, ypu know your body and baby the best ignore everyone else.

My midwife appt was disappointing too, I have seen 3 different midwives now and a student midwife. Harry is poorly today and cried the whole appt especially when I couldn't hold him for the checks. Have no idea what the midwife asked or if I was meant to mention anything as I was so distracted. All is well with baby though so I suppose that is good. xx
 
Thanks girls. I'm so disappointed as I've always loved every midwife I've seen with my other 3, but this one is just something else. She even asked if I was exercising...I said I've got SPD! But I do 2 school runs in foot everyday and with having 3 children already really don't sit down with housework and general every day things...I don't know what I'm expected to do. I'm seeing the consultant next Friday so I'm going to keep a food diary to show them that I'm not just sitting in my arse eating Ben n Jerrys for a living. I think they forget that were not text books and everyone's different. I always put weight on when I'm pregnant, but it's lost easily enough too. Not looking forward to me next appointment now, which again is disappointing, as I've always looked forward to my appointments x
 
I totally agree in the BMI thing Vee. I said to my hubby that surely BMI couldn't be compared to your pre pregnancy BMI due to the things you've said like water retention, and the fact that were now carrying a baby along with a sac of water, placenta etc. I'm sort of thinking she was trying to show off in front of the student midwife. The student was lovely mind, and was saying it's just your body's way of getting ready for baby by storing fat etc...which is correct for breast feeding, but my mw was just no holds barred. Idiot woman. It's not as if she was twiggy either lol x
 
Hi ladies! Been away on the hen weekend for a few days, no wifi - or time to think!!

mrsH, how horrid! Stupid me - I'm sure someone told me they don't go by BMI when pregnant anyway? Unless it's high in the first tri? Of course you'd have put weight on...we all have, and will continue to. That's what we're meant to be doing.

Must admit, saying all that, I've had a bit of a meltdown about my weight last night/today. The bride-to-be put the MOST unflattering pic of me on fb last night. I've got one of me in exactly the same outfit,minutes beforehand, but in her pic I look at least a stone heavier! I said at the time it was awful and laughed it off, saying "don't put that online!" But...she did. Hormones probably made me feel worse, but I was in tears. Even today I saw her and mentioned it and got a bit teary, but she's left it up. Personally I wouldn't do that to someone, but there you go :-(
 
So got my referral to see the Counciler through today.... 4-5 week waitin list plus you can only book 1session in at a time so it would end up 1every 4-5 weeks?!! What good is that?!... May get 2 session in before she's here. Feeling really low now don't really know what to do :/ I feel I need help but don't know where I can go! :(((
 
MrsH I am sorry she made you feel so rubbish about your weight, that is not fair at all. I didn't think BMI is accurate in pregnancy, but they only used it as a guideline at the booking appointment? My BMI was 37 at booking so I was immediately told I was 'red' pathway and that I would see the consultant.

Don't worry about seeing the consultant, my experience with them have been good so far. I haven't been weighed yet, (I'm 27 weeks) I had blood pressure checked and have had a GTT. I have a growth scan next week and two more after that at 4 week intervals, so I may be weighed at the next ones but I will let you know. I was prescribed aspirin daily, but you can refuse it if you don't want to take it.

Please continue eating healthily, and doing a food diary for them is a good idea. Don't let them make you feel bad about this.

xx
 
MrsHttc said:
Well...just had my midwife appointment, and think it's safe to say that I'm well and truly p****d off and upset. She said that she could tell straight away that I'd put weight on and got the scales to weigh me and re-calculate my BMI! Now, I'm very aware I have put weight on, which pregnant woman doesn't?! But that comment was unnecessary, as she made me feel like utter crap. My BMI had increased from
29 to 35 and I've been referred to a consultant. She was questioning what I ate, and told me to "be mindful of what I'm eating as I don't want to create a baby that's too big" what!!!
Thing is, I eat well...plenty of fruit and veg....the odd takeaway but nothing drastic. I'm hyper sensitive about my weight and anyone who knows me knows not to criticise me about it. I've been in tears this afternoon. I know there's guidelines and stuff, but there's ways and means to go about it, and she hasn't gone about it the right way I feel. I feel like I shouldn't be eating anything now.
Sorry for the rant girls...just really upset today now :( :( xx
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What a cow! Its perfectly normal to put on weight during pregnancy! I would report her!
 
Vee I am sorry you have to wait so long to see the counsellor :( But well done for getting the ball rolling, it is so hard to do when you are struggling. Is there somewhere you could go privately just a few times before the referral one starts? Or a way to contact them and ask to be put on a lit for any cancellations? I hope you can get to see someone before 5 weeks.

Ladies, I am going to desert you all for Tri3 today as I am officially 27 weeks! YAY. I just cannot believe it! I have a scan next Tuesday and my GTT came back totally normal and I don't need a repeat one so I am delighted. It makes up for all the indigestion and lack of sleep ;)

Can't wait to see us all in Tri3 soon :) xxxxxxxxxxxxx
 
Thanks girls. I'm going to just carry on like I am and see what the consultant says next weeks. I'm seeing her in Friday and apparently she's one of the nicer ones, so hopefully I'll not leave there feeling fat and offended too lol. You'd think a midwife would think better if saying something like that to a hormonal sensitive pregnant woman. Some ppl really are stupid. Thing is, I'm well aware I've put weight on, but isn't only natural, plus my bump really is humongous! I know I carry a lot of water when I'm pregnant.
Definitely keeping the food diary though to show them I'm not relying on Ben & Jerry to cheer me up every night lol.

Hope your feeling ok Vee. I think the NHS forget that were only pregnant for 40 weeks so these waiting lists are just no good. As already said, maybe a few private sessions would benefit you while your waiting? Well done for taking the first step though, it's difficult to say how your feeling at times.

Happy 27 weeks Ali! Be joining you in tri 3 next Saturday! The final stretch is finally here! X
 
thank you becky/kanga, it sure was lovely!

i still feel completely shattered, last night i barely slept.

yes, with the heartburn it's quite something this time, and i can feel it just during the day too sometimes?

i'm sure babies can sense you watching them, it's the same when you video! or at least my babies seem to get shy until later on when you can almost see what limb it is haha!

glad you had a nice birthday kanga. i don't expect harry minded so much having a sleep in either!

the wifi monitors scare me as i heard a wonderful story of someone hacking into their neighbours wifi and was talking to their baby wtf. i'll be getting the motorola xb36 soon as it's financially possible!

oh emma, that's awful. although you will be much more emotional right now, that attitude is completely unprofessional. did you mention it to anybody? you should do - put a complaint in or request another midwife permanently. i'd echo what the others said, and ignore the bmi crap. how can that even apply, it can't?!

i eat nothing but crap but eating something is surely much much better than eating nothing. if i was made to eat completely healthy id be a miserable cow! enjoy whatever food you're eating, i know you said you're eating well and props to you because i'm not, but don't be afraid to grab that ben and jerrys!

ugh rachael, how rude. has she taken it down yet?

vee, what a load of crap! keep pushing. i hope you get seen quicker than that! this is the time you need the help.

congrats on tri 3 girls,
i'll be there in 2 weeks! eek. wow. just been redoing my list for my hospital bag, what i need to pack, as forgotten (already!) what i packed for ella and wasnt sure if i needed anything different with it being elective this time..

xxxxxxx
 
Happy 27 weeks Ali - only a week more and I'll join you in Tri3!

Mrs H - can only echo what the others have said about how insensitive that was of the midwife. Also agree that BMI isn't the best guage of a healthy weight anyway. I was once told I needed to watch my weight as I was borderline overweight in BMI terms, but I was a week away from running the London Marathon so was training like crazy and pretty fit. Was tempted to tell the nurse that and say I'd like to see her do it!!
 
Oh my what a day!! Spent last night sleeping on a tiny cot matress in harry's room as he has had a temp since lunchtime yesterday. He woke probably every hour crying. I brought him downstairs about 8:30am and by 3:30pm he hadn't even got off the sofa. Which for a 2yr old is not normal so been to the doctors. He has an ear infection in both ears :( and now has amoxicillin to take. Think I will be in his room again tonight.

I rent off family and they have decided to sell to another family member so had 3 estate agents round today to value the house. Which is all well and good, but we are either going to have to move and pay more rent than we can afford or the rent will go up here to cover the mortgage payments. So either way we are screwed which is great timing with baby number 2 on the way and me going on mat leave so it's not like I can up my hours to get more money.

Then as I have to carry around a bottle of gaviscon I had one in my changing bag only to get back from the doctors and find that the FULL 500ml bottle had smashed and leaked over everything!! I didn't even drop my bag so god knows what happened. xx

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Oh no Kanga-sounds like you've had a right day of it! Hope Harry is feeling better soon bless him x
 
Hi Everyone!

Just checking in :)

Nic hope you had a lovely holiday! Always nice to be back in your own bed though isn’t it!

Mrs Httc, Hope you’re ok now..There is no need for comments like that is there, as if we aren’t sensitive enough in pregnancy!

Ah Kanga sorry you’ve had a stressful time, not what you need at all is it..Money is a worry at the best of times..hope you can get something sorted..

Look forward to seeing you all in Tri 3 soon :)

xx
 
Ashbee I just noticed from our tickers that we are on the 100 days countdown now, double figures from tomorrow, eek! xx
 
Ah exciting girls, I am on 102 days to go! I was just saying to my partner last night I can't wait til it is double figures!!
 
Yeah think I scared hubby with that little fact when I hit double figures a few days ago! All starting to feel a bit more real now!
 
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